pornography

Don’t Believe the Lie: Pornography Really IS Insidious. Here’s Why.

But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. –Matthew...
what newlyweds should know about sex

4 Things Newlyweds Should Know About Sex

Today's post about what newlyweds should know about sex comes from our friends at tolovehonorandvacuum.com and guest writer Ngina Otiende. Check out her blog here. As a...
ingredients to good sex initiation

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 4 – Initiation

For Men: Initiation In an earlier post, when we discussed a husband’s need for his wife to respond, we said that her resistance to his...
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Bringing Sexy Back to Your Self-Image

Today's post comes from Joy McMillan, author of XES: Why Church Girls Tend to Get it Backwards...And How to Get It Right, and Friend of the Newsletter™...
cherishing

The Secret Ingredient to Having the Best Sex

One of the most delightful discoveries on my journey to cherish Lisa was finding out the difference cherishing makes with sexual intimacy. A...
better sex

Want Better Sex? ONE Thing You Must STOP First

Do you want better sex in your marriage? Does your spouse want that, too? The crux of many couples’ sexual intimacy struggles is that one...
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Last Year Was One of the Hardest Years of My Life … but One...

Most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we bring you the best content we've found around the web for building a...
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

A friend recently asked me the following questions about how to rekindle romance: “What do you do for fun as a couple? What...
porn kills

10 Ways Porn Kills a Marriage

Porn kills because the effects of porn are devastating. Porn kills healthy sex in marriages. Pornography is ravaging marriages. In our culture porn is treated...
intimacy

I Love My Wife, But I Just Don’t Know How To Show Her That.

If we've said it once we've said it a thousand times: Men and women often don't view intimacy the same way! For...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
sexual playfulness

3 Ground Rules for Sexual Playfulness

Today's great post from Julie at Intimacy in Marriage has some great thoughts on why turning your spouse on is great, and how to do...
2 ways to add romance to everyday life

2 Ways to Add Romance to Everyday Life

The loss of passionate romance is a common complaint in marriage. It seems that once the confetti and rice are swept away and the...
trust

Do You Trust the Person You’re Having Sex With?

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage...
prayer

Prayer Will Supercharge Your Marriage (Including Your Sex Life!)

Hi Thriving Marriages community, this is Josh, the guy bringing you this content each day. In addition to running this site I...
intimacy men need

The Intimacy Men Need But Don’t Know They Need

A blockbuster quote from a blockbuster book (Unwanted) by Jay Stringer unmasks what I have seen but been unable to describe in marriage about...

What the Enemy Wants You to Believe About Sex

Today's post from our friends at Authentic Intimacy and guest blogger Jerusha Clark is so, so, SO good. I (Josh) regularly receive emails from readers...
spouse watches porn

My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?

Today's post involves a wife asking Juli Slattery @ Authentic Intimacy what she should do after catching her husband viewing pornography. A thought up front:...

10 Ways Men Can Improve Their Marriage’s Sex Life

Today's thoughts come from longtime Friend of the Newsletter™ Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and is written by guest poster Keith Schooley.  Psst…...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
ingredients to good sex spiritual intimacy

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 3 – Spiritual Intimacy

For Women: How is tending to your wife’s spiritual side a sexual need? Women all over the country have told us the same thing: "When...
bad sex

Bad Sex Can Lead to a Good Marriage. Here’s the Surprising Reason Why.

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story Steve is the high sex desire spouse and...
avoid an affair

7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

It's worth studying how to avoid an affair. As someone who got dangerously close to an affair myself, several of these points rang true...
adultery

Adultery Is Alarmingly Common, But It Doesn’t Have to Happen to You.

For men and women, adultery begins in the heart. And for men particularly, it begins when the heart is not guarded against...
sex life

Awkward Sex Life? That’s Okay

So if before marriage you, like one of our editors, thought your sex life would be the most incredible, easiest thing in the world...you...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
his and her sex nights

“His” and “Her” Sex Nights

If you want to balance getting spicy in the bedroom with feeling like you totally respect and honor each other, “his” and “hers” nights...
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
ingredients to good sex nonsexual touch

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 5 – Nonsexual touch

For women: Nonsexual Touch Most women need and desire physical touch that does not lead to sex. They need to feel secure that every physical...
sex matters

Why Sex Matters in Your Marriage

This is a fantastic post from Nancy Houston, a licensed Christian sex therapist, on why sex matters in your marriage and how to please...

3 Great Reasons to Schedule Your Sex Life

Today's topic is yet another great post from Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Today's debates the pros and cons of calendaring out...
lusting

Noticing Is Not Lusting: Why We Need to Reframe the Conversation about Men, Sin,...

If you notice a woman is beautiful, is that a sin? Are you lusting after her in your heart? If you read many...
best decision we made in the bedroom

One of the Best Decisions We Made in the Bedroom

A few friends lovingly challenged Kristen and me to get rid of the television in the bedroom. I argued, made excuses and rationalized, but...
resentment

Don’t Let Resentment Steal Intimacy in Your Marriage

Resentment can steal intimacy in your marriage, but don't let it. Recently I was speaking at a women's gathering, and one of the women asked...
sex affirmations

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 2 – Affirmation

For Men: Sex Affirmations "I don't understand why Josh is so withdrawn," Lila told Gary during a counseling session.  During the entire session, she had...

6 Signs of Healthy Sexuality

I (Josh) hear regularly from spouses in marriages with a sex life that is abusive, exploitative, unsatisfying, or absent. Today's great post from Gary...
2 ways to fire up passion in bedroom

Two Ways to Fire Up Passion in the Bedroom

If you've been part of the Thriving Marriages community for awhile then today's post from Les and Leslie Parrott is a "back to basics"...
fall in love

8 Ways to Fall in Love All Over Again

Schedule your next date night and don’t tell your spouse the plans. The anticipation will spark a renewed sense of fun. Practice the daily...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
between love and desire

The Difference Between Love and Desire

Today's post on the difference between love and desire is another great one from one of our most popular contributors, Gary Thomas. Enjoy! When an...
initiating

Initiating (and Declining) Sex Without Starting a Fight

For many married couples initiating sex can be an awkward moment that leads to conflict or hurt feelings. They’re not sure what...

An Emotional Affair Is Avoidable. Here’s How to Guard Your Marriage.

Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but...
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Making Time for Making Love

Today's post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy post is a practical, honest look at the challenges of making sex a priority when you have...
why is sex such a big deal

Why Is Sex Such a Big Deal to (Most) Men?

Why is sex such a big deal to most men? Guys, read this and feel validated. Ladies, read this and understand your husbands more....
sexual couples

7 Habits of Highly Sexual Couples

CASEY AND I WENT ON A DOUBLE DATE WITH THIS COUPLE WE’VE KNOWN FOR AWHILE AND WHILE WE WERE AT DINNER, WE...
husband really need sex

Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

Does your husband really need sex? In many marriages (but not all), sexual intimacy is very high on a husband’s list. In books like...

How to Stay Attracted to Your Spouse

Today's tip is an excerpt from a new book by counselor Debra Fileta called Choosing Marriage. If you like what you read today you should...
better sex

Practice Your Way to Better Sex

For many women, sex just isn’t that great at the beginning of the marriage. This week we’ve been looking at specific ways to have better...
how to have sex

How to Have Sex Be More Fun in Marriage

Yet again, Sheila from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum comes through with a great post about how to have sex be more...
extramarital affair

An Extramarital Affair Is Always Intentional

Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every extramarital affair is...