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Want Better Sex? ONE Thing You Must STOP First

Do you want better sex in your marriage? Does your spouse want that, too? The crux of many couples’ sexual intimacy struggles is that one...
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How to Meet Your Wife’s Sexual Needs

We’ve shared a lot the last few months about what your wife’s sexual needs are – and what happens if you don’t...
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My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?

Today's post involves a wife asking Juli Slattery @ Authentic Intimacy what she should do after catching her husband viewing pornography. A thought up front:...
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What Your Marriage Vows Really Mean

When you get married, you vow faithfulness to your spouse. You vow exclusivity to them. You promise to never flirt, lust, or seek attention...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 3 – Spiritual Intimacy

For Women: How is tending to your wife’s spiritual side a sexual need? Women all over the country have told us the same thing: "When...
porn addiction

Porn Addiction Wrecks Marriages. Here’s How.

The side effects of porn addiction are devastating. Pornography is ravaging marriages. In our culture porn is treated as if it’s harmless, but...
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How Breaking Your Vows Could Save Your Marriage

Has anyone ever told you that it may be healthy to break your promises? No, I’m not talking about going back on...
emotional affair

Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
How do you get that spark in your marriage if you feel like you've lost it? How do you rekindle the marriage intimacy and excitement if you feel like you've just become roommates. Never fear! These 10 ways could help you get that spark back into your marriage! #marriage #Christianmarriage #ThrivingMarriages #intimacy #marriagesupport #marriagetips #marriageadvice #sexandintimacy #connectwithyourspouse #Christianhusband #Christianwife #bettermarriage

10 Ways to Get Back the Spark in Your Marriage

How do you get that spark in marriage if you feel like you’ve lost it? How do you rekindle...
married sex

Married Sex: “How Do I Meet My Husband’s Needs?”

Over the past few months, we’ve been digging into the married sex needs of husbands and wives – and how you can...
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10 Ways to Kill Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's article about 10 ways to kill intimacy in your marriage comes from our friend Frank. Check out his website to see more resources...
motivation

“What’s My Motivation?” 5 Reasons to Improve Your Sex Life

Yup. You know there is an issue. You know the sexual connection with your spouse is waning a bit. Maybe you haven’t had...
intimacy

1 Question That Will Ignite Your Marriage’s Intimacy

Kristen and I lead a newly married small group through our church. We love getting to spend time with these five newlywed couples....
bad sex

Bad Sex Can Lead to a Good Marriage. Here’s the Surprising Reason Why.

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story Steve is the high sex desire spouse and...
extramarital affair

An Extramarital Affair Is Always Intentional

Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every extramarital affair is...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 4 – Initiation

For Men: Initiation In an earlier post, when we discussed a husband’s need for his wife to respond, we said that her resistance to his...
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Making Time for Making Love

Today's post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy post is a practical, honest look at the challenges of making sex a priority when you have...
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
porn kills

10 Ways Porn Kills a Marriage

Porn kills because the effects of porn are devastating. Porn kills healthy sex in marriages. Pornography is ravaging marriages. In our culture porn is treated...
words of affirmation

Why Men Need Words of Affirmation in the Bedroom

Today's post is about the needs of men, but husbands, your wives need words of affirmation too! Here's 102 ways you can...

How to Stay Attracted to Your Spouse

Today's tip is an excerpt from a new book by counselor Debra Fileta called Choosing Marriage. If you like what you read today you should...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
acting-out

Acting-Out: Understanding Why We Are Unfaithful

“Why did I do it? I love my wife, I have so much to lose, why?!” Many of the men I work with...
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How to Satisfy Your Wife in Bed

We recently ran a post about satisfying a husband's sexual needs. Today, it's the wife's turn. Husbands, want your wife to be satisfied in...

10 Ways Men Can Improve Their Marriage’s Sex Life

Today's thoughts come from longtime Friend of the Newsletter™ Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and is written by guest poster Keith Schooley.  Psst…...
newlyweds

The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make

Just about every day for the last 14 years I’ve given my life to helping pre-married and newlyweds prepare for and start...
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How To Tell Your Spouse What You Want In Bed

How do you tell your husband what you want in bed? It’s a scary thing, isn’t it? You have to be vulnerable and...
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Why Is Sex Such a Big Deal to (Most) Men?

Why is sex such a big deal to most men? Guys, read this and feel validated. Ladies, read this and understand your husbands more....
good sex

Necessary Ingredients to Good Sex: Romance in Marriage

The sex need that rated the fifth highest among women in our survey was romance. Nearly 53% of the women placed romance as a...
emotional intimacy

Men, Emotional Intimacy Might Not Come As Easy For Us, But It’s Something We...

For Part 4 in this series on marital intimacy, I’m writing again about emotional intimacy. Often when we think of intimacy our...
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One of the Best Decisions We Made in the Bedroom

A few friends lovingly challenged Kristen and me to get rid of the television in the bedroom. I argued, made excuses and rationalized, but...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
inhibitions

Do You Have Too Many or Too Few Sexual Inhibitions?

Some people believe your sexual inhibitions or lack of inhibitions is nothing more than a reflection of your temperament. It’s a personality thing, they would...
resentment

Don’t Let Resentment Steal Intimacy in Your Marriage

Resentment can steal intimacy in your marriage, but don't let it. Recently I was speaking at a women's gathering, and one of the women asked...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
sex

Why So Many Christian Marriages Are Missing Great Sex

Sex has the potential to be the most profoundly satisfying and rich part of a marriage. Sex the way God intended it...
intimacy men need

The Intimacy Men Need But Don’t Know They Need

A blockbuster quote from a blockbuster book (Unwanted) by Jay Stringer unmasks what I have seen but been unable to describe in marriage about...
golden rule

Why the Golden Rule Doesn’t Work During Sex

If you’re married, we’re sure this will come as no surprise to you: Men and women view sex differently. Very differently.
cherishing

The Secret Ingredient to Having the Best Sex

One of the most delightful discoveries on my journey to cherish Lisa was finding out the difference cherishing makes with sexual intimacy. A...
sex

Understanding Sex From a Woman’s Perspective

Can men understand sex from a woman’s perspective? Or is there such a thing as a “man’s perspective” and a “woman’s perspective?” with...

Candace Cameron Bure: Sex Needs to Be Celebrated Within Marriage

“Sex is the blessing of marriage and I hate when Christians are like, ‘No you have to pretend like you never had sex!’”
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The Difference Between Love and Desire

Today's post on the difference between love and desire is another great one from one of our most popular contributors, Gary Thomas. Enjoy! When an...
sex affirmations

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 2 – Affirmation

For Men: Sex Affirmations "I don't understand why Josh is so withdrawn," Lila told Gary during a counseling session.  During the entire session, she had...
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Ladies: Sex Should Feel Good For You Too, So Speak Up!

Believe it or not: sex should feel good. But, do you have difficulty letting your husband know what feels good in bed? Even saying...
boring sex

2 Ingredients That Spice Up a Boring Sex Life

If you are married, there is a very good chance that you and your spouse have different sexual appetites. This not only...
Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice for men too. #Christianmarriage #Christianhusband #Christianwife #marriageintimacy #prayer

3 Things to Pray For Your Sex Life

Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice...
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7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

It's worth studying how to avoid an affair. As someone who got dangerously close to an affair myself, several of these points rang true...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 5 – Nonsexual touch

For women: Nonsexual Touch Most women need and desire physical touch that does not lead to sex. They need to feel secure that every physical...
pornography

Don’t Believe the Lie: Pornography Really IS Insidious. Here’s Why.

But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. –Matthew...
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When the Husband Has the “Headache”

Today's post comes from new Friends of the Newsletter,™  the team over at Authentic Intimacy. I love how it flips the stereotype of "women...