fear

Living by Faith – Not Fear – in Your Marriage

Fear binds you up and prevents you from fully experiencing life and marriage. We must fight fear with grace and trust.
pursuing God

Pursuing God – Within Marriage

There are times and seasons for everything. But, in this post, I want to point you in a different direction. Let me tell you a story about pursuing God. 
average marriage

Do You Have an Average Marriage or a Grace-Filled Marriage?

One simple question can help you determine whether you have an average marriage of a grace-filled marriage.
first wedding

My First Wedding: “Three for Eternity, Please.”

I officiated my first wedding and realized that the best seat is when you get to stand before the bride and groom and do the service.
christian marriage

Christian Marriage – Pilgrims Traveling Same Path

The Apostle Peter sets Christian marriage on the highest plane possible—husbands and wives possess the same eternal inheritance.
Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She'll Fix My Sexual Lust

Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She’ll Fix My Sexual Lust

Getting married doesn’t give you victory over sexual lust because singleness isn’t what causes lust.
God's purpose for marriage

How God’s Purpose for Marriage Will Protect Your Marriage

We should strive to accomplish God's purpose for marriage is given, to us by grace: it reflects Christ’s perfect bond with His church.
slippery slope

Pride’s Slippery Slope

We walk in pride when we do not seek God in areas of our life (Psalm 10:4). Walking in pride is always a slippery slope.
vision for your family

Do You Have a Vision for Your Family?

You may have an idea of what your ideal family would look like, but do you truly have a vision for your family -- its purpose?
fresh start

It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day...
control

Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic

Trying to control someone—in marriage, parenting, the church, or government—is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but it takes a strong stand against control. If...
significance

Search For Significance, Not Others’ Ideas of Success

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rules of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials...
shame

Shame Doesn’t Get the Last Word In Your Marriage

I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood...
relational revelation

The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed–or only one. Mary has...
heart of the matter

The Heart Is The Heart Of The Matter. How’s Yours?

Whenever a marriage self-destructs, the heart is the heart of the matter. In Proverbs 4:23, wise King Solomon offers a vivid picture of the...
you can choose

You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.

There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
protecting

Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them

If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
self-control

Don’t be Pig-Pen. Practice Self-Control Each Day.

We are no longer slaves to sin. For when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin…...
healing

Healing From Your Past Is Hard. It’s Also Worth It.

Tina and I met together for counseling several years ago to work through some traumatic experiences from her past. A year after...
discouragement

How To Find The Other Side of Discouragement.

Have you ever faced a difficult season only to have friends tell you to trust in God? While you know their advice...
if only

What To Do With The “If Only” Regrets of Life

While this post only indirectly talks about marriage, it's a GREAT marriage tool. What do we do with the "if only" moments...
tongue

Your Marriage Needs Less Tongue, Not More.

I’ve heard a lot of people comment that life right now feels like the movie “Groundhog Day”—the same thing over and over...
toxic

Toxic People Can Poison a Fruitful Marriage

When I start writing a book, I wear the hat of an explorer. I have a general destination in mind, but I...
pain

Don’t Waste the Pain of a Difficult Season

Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in...
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

“Kurt Bubna is a GREAT writer and thinker. I love his vulnerability and common sense approach to our spiritual life. This blog...
covid-19

3 Keys to a Healthy Family During Covid-19

“In case you missed this over the weekend, here it is in blog form. If there is anything HomeWord can do to...
covid 19

How to Love Your Spouse During Covid-19

Let's talk about Covid-19 for a second. Or wait, let's not. Not yet. Instead let's talk about how the movie About Time isn't a...
anxiety

Anxiety Doesn’t Always Win: Finding Joy In Stress

Anxiety plagues many of us, stealing our peace of mind, but also inserting itself into our marriages. And that can cause some real...
mission

What Mission Is Your Marriage is Called To?

When Kevin Miller asked his future wife Karen to marry him, her response was a quick and enthusiastic yes. Karen would later...
husbands

Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my...
surrender

Surrender to the Reality That Marriage Isn’t Easy

Several years ago, I met with a spiritual mentor with whom I shared an ongoing battle with a particular sin. We had...
spiritual intimacy

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse

Developing spiritual intimacy as a couple is very similar to developing other important life disciplines. All disciplines require time, focus, and energy....
Valentine's Day

The Sexiest Thing You Can Wear This Valentine’s Day

On Valentine’s Day, perhaps millions of men will get to see their wives wearing something they’ve never worn before and the husbands...
self care

Self-Care is Not Selfish. It’s Vital For Your Marriage.

Suffering is life’s greatest teacher. I don’t know why this is true. But it is. For the last five-plus years, I have...
forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the Core of Every Happy Marriage

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me?...
forgiven

A Healthy Marriage Flows From a Forgiven Past

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners–and I was the worst of them all. But that is why God had...
how to affair proof your marriage and danger of emotional amnesia

Affair-Proof Your Marriage: emotional amnesia

This is part 3 of a series called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage.” While each week can stand alone, here are part 1 and...
sexual pleasure

God Cares About Sexual Pleasure In Your Marriage.

God cares about your sex life. It may seem weird to see the words God and sex in the same sentence. Sometimes when I teach women...
out of debt

Get Out of Debt Fast, With These 10 Steps.

Debt can cause all kinds of stress in a marriage. Have you found yourself feeling hopeless, like there's no way to get...
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
christian marriage

7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!

Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having? A: Many...
boundaries in marriage

Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David

David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
how to forgive

How to Forgive Your Spouse After An Affair

An affair does not have to be the end of your marriage. Here's how to forgive your spouse after an affair. Q: We’ve...
inject

Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.

There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh...
grateful

The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
following Jesus

“I’m Faithfully Following Jesus, So Why Is My Marriage Still Such a Mess?”

I recently met with a friend who shared openly with me about her struggles in marriage. “It’s like living with a robot!...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...
delight

Delight: The Secret Ingredient of a Great Marriage

Can a celibate nun who was born over five hundred years ago unlock the secret to a more intimate marriage? Yes, she can. In...