Christmas gift

The Best Christmas Gift You Can Give Your Spouse

What if Christmas “jump started” your family’s embrace of joy this season? What gift could be more important than stockings or candy canes?
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

The lesson is painfully clear: connecting with Jesus is a better choice than busyness.There will always be more to do! Know what I mean?
pray for your husband

Why My Wife Was Sneaking Out of Bed at 2 A.M.

You might be shocked by why one former pastor's wife was sneaking out of bed at two in the morning (in the best kind of way).

Your Marriage’s Weak Spot Isn’t Your Spouse

"Marriage is kind of like beach volleyball—marriage in a bikini." Learn a surprising lesson about your marriage's weak spot.
toxic

Toxic People Can Poison a Fruitful Marriage

If we value fruitfulness as Jesus does, then literally, all of us need to weed out the toxic relationships that are around our marriage.
husbands

Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

When the Bible tells husbands to love their wives like Christ loves the church, it’s calling us to an initiating, reaching-out love.
how to forgive

How to Forgive Your Spouse After An Affair

An affair does not have to be the end of your marriage. Here's how to forgive your spouse after an affair. It’s difficult, but it can happen.
following Jesus

“I’m Faithfully Following Jesus, So Why Is My Marriage Such a Mess?”

Many Christians walk away from their faith because what they know about following Jesus isn’t consistent with the loneliness they face.
steps to spiritual intimacy in your marriage

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's post about spiritual intimacy in your marriage comes from our friends at refineus.org. Spiritual growth isn’t easy. Spiritual growth as a couple is even...
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...

The #1 Marriage Killer … and How to Get Rid of It

Over the years, we’ve heard many sad stories from people. A lot of these people were on the brink of separation or divorce, or...

How to Find Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse While Raising Kids

Finding times of spiritual intimacy is hard in marriage no matter what, but once you have kids it can seem near impossible. Today's post...
7 prayers for a struggling marriage

7 Prayers for a Struggling Marriage

While not every marriage is struggling right this moment, nearly all marriages hit crisis moments at some point in time. Today's post from Elizabeth...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Must Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
self care

Self-Care is Not Selfish. It’s Vital For Your Marriage.

Suffering is life’s greatest teacher. I don’t know why this is true. But it is. For the last five-plus years, I have...
i wasn't ready

I Wasn’t Ready for Marriage

The more I would grow to love my husband, the more vulnerable to hurt I would become, and I wasn't ready for that.

A Magic Question That Might Change Your Marriage

Sometimes a better marriage is closer than you think. Listen to Rich and Pat's story, and the power of one simple magic question. Although Rich...
disagreement

8 Ways to Preserve Unity During a Disagreement

I’ve always wanted to be a good husband. But I’ve found marriage can't truly be a blessing if my wife and I don’t handle disagreement well.
marriage blessings

40 Powerful Marriage Blessings to Pray Over Your Marriage

Marriage blessings are a great way to pray for your marriage because marriage is a gift – one of God's amazing blessings. ...
transformation

Godly Marriage Brings Spiritual Transformation

Wouldn’t it be a shame to stay married to the same spouse for a lifetime and not be changed by the process...
marriage

Two Words That Kill Marriage: I Deserve

So often in marriage it's easy to start believing the two words that destroy a marriage: "I deserve."
praying with your husband

10 Tips for Praying With Your Husband

Praying with your husband can be challenging. Many of us aren’t comfortable praying out loud, and so we’re not sure how to bring prayer into our marriage.
christian community

5 Reasons Why We All Need Christian Community

Good, faithful friends are hard to find, which is why Christian community is so precious, especially for our marriages.
anger

Is It Way Too Easy for Your Husband to Push Your Anger Button?

If we want to get emotionally healthy, with ourselves and with others, we need to be willing to go below the surface of our anger.
first wedding

My First Wedding: “Three for Eternity, Please.”

I officiated my first wedding and realized that the best seat is when you get to stand before the bride and groom and do the service.
christian marriage

Christian Marriage – Pilgrims Traveling Same Path

The Apostle Peter sets Christian marriage on the highest plane possible—husbands and wives possess the same eternal inheritance.
Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She'll Fix My Sexual Lust

Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She’ll Fix My Sexual Lust

Getting married doesn’t give you victory over sexual lust because singleness isn’t what causes lust.
God's purpose for marriage

How God’s Purpose for Marriage Will Protect Your Marriage

We should strive to accomplish God's purpose for marriage is given, to us by grace: it reflects Christ’s perfect bond with His church.
vision for your family

Do You Have a Vision for Your Family?

You may have an idea of what your ideal family would look like, but do you truly have a vision for your family -- its purpose?
fresh start

It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day...
control

Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic

Trying to control someone—in marriage, parenting, the church, or government—is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but it takes a strong stand against control. If...
significance

Search For Significance, Not Others’ Ideas of Success

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rules of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials...
shame

Shame Doesn’t Get the Last Word In Your Marriage

I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood...
relational revelation

The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
heart of the matter

The Heart Is The Heart Of The Matter. How’s Yours?

Whenever a marriage self-destructs, the heart is the heart of the matter. In Proverbs 4:23, wise King Solomon offers a vivid picture of the...
you can choose

You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.

There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
protecting

Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them

If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
self-control

Don’t be Pig-Pen. Practice Self-Control Each Day.

We are no longer slaves to sin. For when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin…...
healing

Healing From Your Past Is Hard. It’s Also Worth It.

Tina and I met together for counseling several years ago to work through some traumatic experiences from her past. A year after...
discouragement

How To Find The Other Side of Discouragement.

Have you ever faced a difficult season only to have friends tell you to trust in God? While you know their advice...
if only

What To Do With The “If Only” Regrets of Life

While this post only indirectly talks about marriage, it's a GREAT marriage tool. What do we do with the "if only" moments...
tongue

Your Marriage Needs Less Tongue, Not More.

I’ve heard a lot of people comment that life right now feels like the movie “Groundhog Day”—the same thing over and over...
pain

Don’t Waste the Pain of a Difficult Season

Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in...
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

“Kurt Bubna is a GREAT writer and thinker. I love his vulnerability and common sense approach to our spiritual life. This blog...
covid-19

3 Keys to a Healthy Family During Covid-19

“In case you missed this over the weekend, here it is in blog form. If there is anything HomeWord can do to...
covid 19

How to Love Your Spouse During Covid-19

Let's talk about Covid-19 for a second. Or wait, let's not. Not yet. Instead let's talk about how the movie About Time isn't a...
anxiety

Anxiety Doesn’t Always Win: Finding Joy In Stress

Anxiety plagues many of us, stealing our peace of mind, but also inserting itself into our marriages. And that can cause some real...
mission

What Mission Is Your Marriage is Called To?

When Kevin Miller asked his future wife Karen to marry him, her response was a quick and enthusiastic yes. Karen would later...
surrender

Surrender to the Reality That Marriage Isn’t Easy

Several years ago, I met with a spiritual mentor with whom I shared an ongoing battle with a particular sin. We had...
spiritual intimacy

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse

Developing spiritual intimacy as a couple is very similar to developing other important life disciplines. All disciplines require time, focus, and energy....