The #1 Marriage Killer … and How to Get Rid of It

Over the years, we’ve heard many sad stories from people. A lot of these people were on the brink of separation or divorce, or...

How to Find Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse While Raising Kids

Finding times of spiritual intimacy is hard in marriage no matter what, but once you have kids it can seem near impossible. Today's post...
7 prayers for a struggling marriage

7 Prayers for a Struggling Marriage

While not every marriage is struggling right this moment, nearly all marriages hit crisis moments at some point in time. Today's post from Elizabeth...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Must Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
self care

Self-Care is Not Selfish. It’s Vital For Your Marriage.

Suffering is life’s greatest teacher. I don’t know why this is true. But it is. For the last five-plus years, I have...
i wasn't ready

I Wasn’t Ready for Marriage

The more I would grow to love my husband, the more vulnerable to hurt I would become, and I wasn't ready for that.

A Magic Question That Might Change Your Marriage

Sometimes a better marriage is closer than you think. Listen to Rich and Pat's story, and the power of one simple magic question. Although Rich...
disagreement

8 Ways to Preserve Unity During a Disagreement

I’ve always wanted to be a good husband. But I’ve found marriage can't truly be a blessing if my wife and I don’t handle disagreement well.
marriage blessings

40 Powerful Marriage Blessings to Pray Over Your Marriage

Marriage blessings are a great way to pray for your marriage because marriage is a gift – one of God's amazing blessings. ...
transformation

Godly Marriage Brings Spiritual Transformation

Wouldn’t it be a shame to stay married to the same spouse for a lifetime and not be changed by the process...
marriage

Two Words That Kill Marriage: I Deserve

So often in marriage it's easy to start believing the two words that destroy a marriage: "I deserve."
praying with your husband

10 Tips for Praying With Your Husband

Praying with your husband can be challenging. Many of us aren’t comfortable praying out loud, and so we’re not sure how to bring prayer into our marriage.
christian community

5 Reasons Why We All Need Christian Community

Good, faithful friends are hard to find, which is why Christian community is so precious, especially for our marriages.
anger

Is It Way Too Easy for Your Husband to Push Your Anger Button?

If we want to get emotionally healthy, with ourselves and with others, we need to be willing to go below the surface of our anger.
first wedding

My First Wedding: “Three for Eternity, Please.”

I officiated my first wedding and realized that the best seat is when you get to stand before the bride and groom and do the service.
christian marriage

Christian Marriage – Pilgrims Traveling Same Path

The Apostle Peter sets Christian marriage on the highest plane possible—husbands and wives possess the same eternal inheritance.
Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She'll Fix My Sexual Lust

Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She’ll Fix My Sexual Lust

Getting married doesn’t give you victory over sexual lust because singleness isn’t what causes lust.
God's purpose for marriage

How God’s Purpose for Marriage Will Protect Your Marriage

We should strive to accomplish God's purpose for marriage is given, to us by grace: it reflects Christ’s perfect bond with His church.
vision for your family

Do You Have a Vision for Your Family?

You may have an idea of what your ideal family would look like, but do you truly have a vision for your family -- its purpose?
fresh start

It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day...
control

Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic

Trying to control someone—in marriage, parenting, the church, or government—is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but it takes a strong stand against control. If...
significance

Search For Significance, Not Others’ Ideas of Success

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rules of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials...
shame

Shame Doesn’t Get the Last Word In Your Marriage

I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood...
relational revelation

The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed–or only one. Mary has...
heart of the matter

The Heart Is The Heart Of The Matter. How’s Yours?

Whenever a marriage self-destructs, the heart is the heart of the matter. In Proverbs 4:23, wise King Solomon offers a vivid picture of the...
you can choose

You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.

There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
protecting

Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them

If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
self-control

Don’t be Pig-Pen. Practice Self-Control Each Day.

We are no longer slaves to sin. For when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin…...
healing

Healing From Your Past Is Hard. It’s Also Worth It.

Tina and I met together for counseling several years ago to work through some traumatic experiences from her past. A year after...
discouragement

How To Find The Other Side of Discouragement.

Have you ever faced a difficult season only to have friends tell you to trust in God? While you know their advice...
if only

What To Do With The “If Only” Regrets of Life

While this post only indirectly talks about marriage, it's a GREAT marriage tool. What do we do with the "if only" moments...
tongue

Your Marriage Needs Less Tongue, Not More.

I’ve heard a lot of people comment that life right now feels like the movie “Groundhog Day”—the same thing over and over...
toxic

Toxic People Can Poison a Fruitful Marriage

When I start writing a book, I wear the hat of an explorer. I have a general destination in mind, but I...
pain

Don’t Waste the Pain of a Difficult Season

Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in...
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

“Kurt Bubna is a GREAT writer and thinker. I love his vulnerability and common sense approach to our spiritual life. This blog...
covid-19

3 Keys to a Healthy Family During Covid-19

“In case you missed this over the weekend, here it is in blog form. If there is anything HomeWord can do to...
covid 19

How to Love Your Spouse During Covid-19

Let's talk about Covid-19 for a second. Or wait, let's not. Not yet. Instead let's talk about how the movie About Time isn't a...
anxiety

Anxiety Doesn’t Always Win: Finding Joy In Stress

Anxiety plagues many of us, stealing our peace of mind, but also inserting itself into our marriages. And that can cause some real...
mission

What Mission Is Your Marriage is Called To?

When Kevin Miller asked his future wife Karen to marry him, her response was a quick and enthusiastic yes. Karen would later...
husbands

Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my...
surrender

Surrender to the Reality That Marriage Isn’t Easy

Several years ago, I met with a spiritual mentor with whom I shared an ongoing battle with a particular sin. We had...
spiritual intimacy

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse

Developing spiritual intimacy as a couple is very similar to developing other important life disciplines. All disciplines require time, focus, and energy....
Valentine's Day

The Sexiest Thing You Can Wear This Valentine’s Day

On Valentine’s Day, perhaps millions of men will get to see their wives wearing something they’ve never worn before and the husbands...
forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the Core of Every Happy Marriage

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me?...
forgiven

A Healthy Marriage Flows From a Forgiven Past

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners–and I was the worst of them all. But that is why God had...
how to affair proof your marriage and danger of emotional amnesia

Affair-Proof Your Marriage: emotional amnesia

This is part 3 of a series called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage.” While each week can stand alone, here are part 1 and...
sexual pleasure

God Cares About Sexual Pleasure In Your Marriage.

God cares about your sex life. It may seem weird to see the words God and sex in the same sentence. Sometimes when I teach women...
out of debt

Get Out of Debt Fast, With These 10 Steps.

Debt can cause all kinds of stress in a marriage. Have you found yourself feeling hopeless, like there's no way to get...
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...