fresh start

It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day...
control

Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic

Trying to control someone—in marriage, parenting, the church, or government—is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but it takes a strong stand against control. If...
significance

Search For Significance, Not Others’ Ideas of Success

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rules of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials...
shame

Shame Doesn’t Get the Last Word In Your Marriage

I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood...
relational revelation

The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed–or only one. Mary has...
heart of the matter

The Heart Is The Heart Of The Matter. How’s Yours?

Whenever a marriage self-destructs, the heart is the heart of the matter. In Proverbs 4:23, wise King Solomon offers a vivid picture of the...
you can choose

You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.

There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
protecting

Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them

If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
self-control

Don’t be Pig-Pen. Practice Self-Control Each Day.

We are no longer slaves to sin. For when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin…...
healing

Healing From Your Past Is Hard. It’s Also Worth It.

Tina and I met together for counseling several years ago to work through some traumatic experiences from her past. A year after...
discouragement

How To Find The Other Side of Discouragement.

Have you ever faced a difficult season only to have friends tell you to trust in God? While you know their advice...
if only

What To Do With The “If Only” Regrets of Life

While this post only indirectly talks about marriage, it's a GREAT marriage tool. What do we do with the "if only" moments...
tongue

Your Marriage Needs Less Tongue, Not More.

I’ve heard a lot of people comment that life right now feels like the movie “Groundhog Day”—the same thing over and over...
toxic

Toxic People Can Poison a Fruitful Marriage

When I start writing a book, I wear the hat of an explorer. I have a general destination in mind, but I...
pain

Don’t Waste the Pain of a Difficult Season

Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in...
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

“Kurt Bubna is a GREAT writer and thinker. I love his vulnerability and common sense approach to our spiritual life. This blog...
covid-19

3 Keys to a Healthy Family During Covid-19

“In case you missed this over the weekend, here it is in blog form. If there is anything HomeWord can do to...
covid 19

How to Love Your Spouse During Covid-19

Let's talk about Covid-19 for a second. Or wait, let's not. Not yet. Instead let's talk about how the movie About Time isn't a...
anxiety

Anxiety Doesn’t Always Win: Finding Joy In Stress

Anxiety plagues many of us, stealing our peace of mind, but also inserting itself into our marriages. And that can cause some real...
mission

What Mission Is Your Marriage is Called To?

When Kevin Miller asked his future wife Karen to marry him, her response was a quick and enthusiastic yes. Karen would later...
husbands

Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my...
surrender

Surrender to the Reality That Marriage Isn’t Easy

Several years ago, I met with a spiritual mentor with whom I shared an ongoing battle with a particular sin. We had...
spiritual intimacy

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse

Developing spiritual intimacy as a couple is very similar to developing other important life disciplines. All disciplines require time, focus, and energy....
Valentine's Day

The Sexiest Thing You Can Wear This Valentine’s Day

On Valentine’s Day, perhaps millions of men will get to see their wives wearing something they’ve never worn before and the husbands...
self care

Self-Care is Not Selfish. It’s Vital For Your Marriage.

Suffering is life’s greatest teacher. I don’t know why this is true. But it is. For the last five-plus years, I have...
forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the Core of Every Happy Marriage

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me?...
forgiven

A Healthy Marriage Flows From a Forgiven Past

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners–and I was the worst of them all. But that is why God had...
how to affair proof your marriage and danger of emotional amnesia

Affair-Proof Your Marriage: emotional amnesia

This is part 3 of a series called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage.” While each week can stand alone, here are part 1 and...
sexual pleasure

God Cares About Sexual Pleasure In Your Marriage.

God cares about your sex life. It may seem weird to see the words God and sex in the same sentence. Sometimes when I teach women...
out of debt

Get Out of Debt Fast, With These 10 Steps.

Debt can cause all kinds of stress in a marriage. Have you found yourself feeling hopeless, like there's no way to get...
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
christian marriage

7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!

Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having? A: Many...
boundaries in marriage

Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David

David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
how to forgive

How to Forgive Your Spouse After An Affair

An affair does not have to be the end of your marriage. Here's how to forgive your spouse after an affair. Q: We’ve...
inject

Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.

There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh...
grateful

The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
following Jesus

“I’m Faithfully Following Jesus, So Why Is My Marriage Still Such a Mess?”

I recently met with a friend who shared openly with me about her struggles in marriage. “It’s like living with a robot!...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...
delight

Delight: The Secret Ingredient of a Great Marriage

Can a celibate nun who was born over five hundred years ago unlock the secret to a more intimate marriage? Yes, she can. In...
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...
third

Husbands, You Come Third On Your Wife’s List of Priorities

One of the most frequent requests I get is to write a book specifically for husbands. The reason I haven’t done that...
how to love

The Greatest Gift Marriage Offers Us Isn’t What You Think

Today's post from Gary Thomas is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We think marriage is a place to receive...
prayer

The 1 Thing Your Wife Needs You to Do For Her Every Day

2922 days ago on 31 March 2006 I married my wonderful and beautiful wife. On that day I made a commitment to...

Is It Good Friday In Your Marriage? A Resurrection is Coming.

Good Friday is traditionally in the church calendar a day of grief. Today, we reflect on how Jesus was tortured, nailed to...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Needs to Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
husbands

Husbands, Your Wives Need These 10 Things, They Just Don’t Know How to Ask

I remember watching What Women Want not long after its release in 2001. The movie chronicles a man, Nick Marshall, who receives a fresh...
spiritual intimacy

Spiritual Intimacy Can Feel Scary. Here’s 4 Reasons It’s Worth It.

Eight years in to marriage there are still some things I refuse to do with my wife. I refuse to use the...