Staying Power: 5 Signs Your Marriage Will Make It
People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage will have staying power? In some cases, it may not be...
Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!
Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?”
What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
1 Secret Every Man Must Know About Their Wives
Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts
If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
The Best Marriage Story is . . . Boring?!?
The best marriage story you’ll ever hear might sound a little boring, but it’s the story you and I both want for our children.
I Wasn’t Ready for Marriage
The more I would grow to love my husband, the more vulnerable to hurt I would become, and I wasn't ready for that.
Significance and Security in Marriage Come From God
Marriages often fail because one spouse looks to the other to completely satisfy their innate need for significance and security in marriage.
Steps Toward a Debt Free Marriage
I believe God wants every couple to do the debt free dance of joy, and I believe that while getting there isn't easy, it's also not complicated.
Four MORE Ways to a Healthy Marriage
In search of a healthy marriage, I share four more ways couples can increase their commitment and strengthen their marriage.
Unconditional Love – The One Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You
Marriage is at its best when we see a glimpse of the unconditional love of God reflected in our spouse’s eyes. Here's how.
7 Suggestions to Strengthen Your Marriage
The key in those difficult times of of trouble isn’t to panic, but to intentionally work to strengthen your marriage.
3 Ways to Grow Your Commitment in Marriage
Words alone don’t ensure fidelity but they sure do help strengthen your commitment in marriage to each other.
How to Fall in Love All Over Again
Celebrating love usually isn’t something that “comes over” you. You don’t just sit around and wait to fall in love again.
The Dangers of a Low Maintenance Spouse
Because she is such a low maintenance spouse, I might take her for granted or even take advantage of her. I don’t want this to be our story.
Living Together – Is Marriage “Just a Piece of Paper?”
The option of living together, rather than moving into a formal marriage contract, has proliferated in our culture.
Healthy Marriage Habits: Daily, Weekly, Monthly, & Yearly
To develop a healthy marriage, it is important that two vital elements come together.
First, at some point you must draw a line...
Christian Marriage – Pilgrims Traveling Same Path
The Apostle Peter sets Christian marriage on the highest plane possible—husbands and wives possess the same eternal inheritance.
14 Tips to Strengthen a Struggling Marriage.
This is a very hard time; our emotional health and physical well-being are being challenged in pandemic life. We are trying to...
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: the dangerous person profile
There's a famous line from the movie Jerry Maguire: "you complete me."
When Tom Cruise says this he has realized that Renée Zellweger is his once-in-a-lifetime,...
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: “it’s time to flee”
This is part 2 of a series, this week on knowing when, like Joseph from the Bible, it's time to flee from temptation. You...
How to Protect Your Marriage From An Affair
In 25% of current marriages one or both spouses are having an affair.
That's 1-in-4.
It's a staggering, heartbreaking statistic, and highlights an important truth: every...
19 Reasons I Love My Wife.
On this date, 19 years ago, Kristen and I said, “I do”! Apart from following Jesus, I can’t think of a better...
The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt
As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.
“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed–or only one. Mary has...
You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.
There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them
If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
Infatuation Is Normal, And An Affair is Preventable.
In 1977, Avodah Offit wrote a popular book entitled The Sexual Self that became a favorite among many sex therapists. I’m not endorsing the...
What To Do When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse
Have you ever hurt your spouse in some way? All right, so it’s a trick question. Of course you have hurt your...
How Do You Dole Out Your Household Chores?
Household chores represent probably the most pressing “minor issue” in marriage for a lot of couples because it’s a conflict that never...
Are You Thinking About What You’re Thinking?
If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we...
Beauty Is a Blessing, And Seeing It Isn’t A Sin.
Lisa and I were shopping in one of her stores years ago when I heard a song that stopped me in my...
How To Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Cheerleader
What would it mean to you to face each day knowing there is someone cheering you on no matter what happens? How...
It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start.
A story is told about a factory burning down that was owned and managed by the great inventor Thomas Edison, and the...
Persevering Love: How To Survive the Tough Times
If you want to safeguard your marriage against the storms and struggles of life, if you want a deeper bond and a...
The Challenge That Could Change Your Marriage
Sheri and Chad both have naturally strong personalities that occasionally “led to much conflict in our marriage, as we each tried to...
Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?
The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
Your Marriage Is a Marathon You’re Running Together.
The Christian life is a marathon, not a sprint. What’s the difference? Think about the running events in the Olympics as an...
Building Rock Solid Marriages That Last.
If you’re married, you’ve probably figured out that marriage isn’t always easy. And it’s not supposed to be. Like anything, time comes...
Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage
It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
Remember to Cherish What’s Special In Your Spouse.
Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. –Ephesians 5:33
One...
Think About It: Who You Focus On Is Who You Love
Do you want to cultivate and enjoy a great marriage?
Do you want to be more energized and less discouraged, regardless...
The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse
This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
Celebrating Love Is How a Marriage Lasts Forever
No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt when we...
10 Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair
“I love Dave Willis’ blogs about key marriage issues and he is always so profoundly practical. The issue of an emotional affair...
4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up
“Kurt Bubna is a GREAT writer and thinker. I love his vulnerability and common sense approach to our spiritual life. This blog...
“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test
This morning, I met with a group of friends to encourage each other in our marriages. As we talked, one of the...
6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.
Forgiveness can be costly. A major step in the process of forgiveness is releasing your offending spouse, giving up on revenge and...
Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.
My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my...
The Key to Cherishing Your Spouse For a Lifetime
Neuroscience tells us that the shelf-life of an infatuation is about twelve to eighteen months. It’s a nice run while it lasts,...
4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime
In 1962 someone built our home. I don’t have the deeds for the other homes on our street, but I assume they...