think

Think About It: Who You Focus On Is Who You Love

Do you want to cultivate and enjoy a great marriage? Do you want to be more energized and less discouraged, regardless...
spouse

The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse

This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
celebrating love

Celebrating Love Is How a Marriage Lasts Forever

No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt when we...
emotional affair

10 Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair

“I love Dave Willis’ blogs about key marriage issues and he is always so profoundly practical. The issue of an emotional affair...
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

“Kurt Bubna is a GREAT writer and thinker. I love his vulnerability and common sense approach to our spiritual life. This blog...
test

“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test

This morning, I met with a group of friends to encourage each other in our marriages. As we talked, one of the...
forgiveness

6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.

Forgiveness can be costly. A major step in the process of forgiveness is releasing your offending spouse, giving up on revenge and...
husbands

Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my...
cherishing

The Key to Cherishing Your Spouse For a Lifetime

Neuroscience tells us that the shelf-life of an infatuation is about twelve to eighteen months. It’s a nice run while it lasts,...
how to affair proof your marriage

How to Protect Your Marriage From An Affair

In 25% of current marriages one or both spouses are having an affair. That's 1-in-4. It's a staggering, heartbreaking statistic, and highlights an important truth: every...
know when to run from affair

How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: “it’s time to flee”

This is part 2 of a series, this week on knowing when, like Joseph from the Bible, it's time to flee from temptation. You...
roots

4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime

In 1962 someone built our home. I don’t have the deeds for the other homes on our street, but I assume they...
real love

Real Love is Tough Like Tires (But in a Romantic Way)

Images matter, and how we imagine what love should look like has a huge impact on our satisfaction in marriage and our...
golden rules

3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not...
stressed

Stressed? Here’s God’s Solution For Anxious Couples

They were so absorbed in their “God projects” that they didn’t notice God right in front of them, like a huge rock...
perfect marriage

Help, My Imperfect Spouse Is Ruining My Perfect Marriage!

Q: Well, the honeymoon is over and I’ve discovered that my spouse is not perfect. Now what? A: Your wedding may have been...
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

A friend recently asked me the following questions about how to rekindle romance: “What do you do for fun as a couple? What...
christian marriage

7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!

Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having? A: Many...
boundaries in marriage

Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David

David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...

An Emotional Affair Is Avoidable. Here’s How to Guard Your Marriage.

Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but...
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
inject

Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.

There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh...
broken trust

Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
never surrender

“Never Surrender.” Don’t Give Up, Your Marriage Can Thrive For a Lifetime.

A divorce lawyer recently posted an article arguing that the vow “till death do us part” is passé, unrealistic, and needs to...
grateful

The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

My husband and I are leading a Bible study with mostly newlywed couples. After a few weeks, we noticed how often we...
parents' divorce

Your Parents’ Divorce Doesn’t Mean You’re Doomed to Get Divorced Too.

Q: I want to get married, but my parents had a terrible marriage and got divorced. Does my parents' divorce mean my...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...
lusting

Noticing Is Not Lusting: Why We Need to Reframe the Conversation about Men, Sin,...

If you notice a woman is beautiful, is that a sin? Are you lusting after her in your heart? If you read many...
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...
love is a choice

Love Is a Choice, Especially When You’re Not Feeling It.

  When my wife and I were going through marriage problems, the last thing that I wanted to hear was love is a...
in-laws

Issues With the In-Laws? Maybe You Need to Create Some Healthy Boundaries. Here’s How.

It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But...
ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit) someone else. While they may have...
adultery

Adultery Is Alarmingly Common, But It Doesn’t Have to Happen to You.

For men and women, adultery begins in the heart. And for men particularly, it begins when the heart is not guarded against...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
third

Husbands, You Come Third On Your Wife’s List of Priorities

One of the most frequent requests I get is to write a book specifically for husbands. The reason I haven’t done that...
to do list

What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
how to love

The Greatest Gift Marriage Offers Us Isn’t What You Think

Today's post from Gary Thomas is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We think marriage is a place to receive...
scratches and dents

Your Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are What Make It Priceless. Here’s Why.

Mike and I recently attended a wedding. The bride was stunning, and the groom gleamed with pride. Not a dry eye in...
accept your spouse

Accept Your Spouse As They Are, Even When Who They Are Changes

People change. Very few of us have the same figure or physique we had on our wedding day as we walked down...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Needs to Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
lies

We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
have other friends

Why Your Spouse NEEDS You To Have Other Friends

There’s something wonderful you can do for your marriage that will feed and protect it.  I’m not talking about reading a marriage...
energy

What to Do When You Don’t Have Any Energy Left For Your Spouse

After a full day of work and dealing with the kids, do you feel like you don’t have much time or energy...
changes

Want to Improve Your Marriage? These 3 Small Changes Will Lead to Huge Results.

I am often trying to find ways of making myself a better person. I imagine all of us at some point wish we...
husbands

Husbands, Your Wives Need These 10 Things, They Just Don’t Know How to Ask

I remember watching What Women Want not long after its release in 2001. The movie chronicles a man, Nick Marshall, who receives a fresh...
something we value broken fix it

When Something We Value Is Broken, We Fix It.

One major key to our 30 plus-year marriage is that Ramona has been blessed with startlingly low expectations. Today she was ECSTATIC when I...
pursue your spouse

What Are You Doing to Pursue Your Spouse?

You need to make it one of your highest priorities to pursue your spouse. One of my biggest concerns as a married...
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

I don’t know about you, but I often overlook the Lord’s eternal perspective. He sees all of time, from beginning to end,...