Healthy Habits For Each Day, Week, Month, & Year.
To develop a healthy marriage, it is important that two vital elements come together.
First, at some point you must draw a...
19 Reasons I Love My Wife.
On this date, 19 years ago, Kristen and I said, “I do”! Apart from following Jesus, I can’t think of a better...
The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt
As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.
“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed–or only one. Mary has...
You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.
There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them
If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
Infatuation Is Normal, And An Affair is Preventable.
In 1977, Avodah Offit wrote a popular book entitled The Sexual Self that became a favorite among many sex therapists. I’m not endorsing the...
What To Do When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse
Have you ever hurt your spouse in some way? All right, so it’s a trick question. Of course you have hurt your...
How Do You Dole Out Your Household Chores?
Household chores represent probably the most pressing “minor issue” in marriage for a lot of couples because it’s a conflict that never...
Are You Thinking About What You’re Thinking?
If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we...
Beauty Is a Blessing, And Seeing It Isn’t A Sin.
Lisa and I were shopping in one of her stores years ago when I heard a song that stopped me in my...
How To Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Cheerleader
What would it mean to you to face each day knowing there is someone cheering you on no matter what happens? How...
It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start.
A story is told about a factory burning down that was owned and managed by the great inventor Thomas Edison, and the...
Persevering Love: How To Survive the Tough Times
If you want to safeguard your marriage against the storms and struggles of life, if you want a deeper bond and a...
The Challenge That Could Change Your Marriage
Sheri and Chad both have naturally strong personalities that occasionally “led to much conflict in our marriage, as we each tried to...
Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?
The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
Your Marriage Is a Marathon You’re Running Together.
The Christian life is a marathon, not a sprint. What’s the difference? Think about the running events in the Olympics as an...
Building Rock Solid Marriages That Last.
If you’re married, you’ve probably figured out that marriage isn’t always easy. And it’s not supposed to be. Like anything, time comes...
Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage
It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
Remember to Cherish What’s Special In Your Spouse.
Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. –Ephesians 5:33
One...
Think About It: Who You Focus On Is Who You Love
Do you want to cultivate and enjoy a great marriage?
Do you want to be more energized and less discouraged, regardless...
The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse
This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
Celebrating Love Is How a Marriage Lasts Forever
No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt when we...
10 Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair
“I love Dave Willis’ blogs about key marriage issues and he is always so profoundly practical. The issue of an emotional affair...
4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up
“Kurt Bubna is a GREAT writer and thinker. I love his vulnerability and common sense approach to our spiritual life. This blog...
“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test
This morning, I met with a group of friends to encourage each other in our marriages. As we talked, one of the...
6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.
Forgiveness can be costly. A major step in the process of forgiveness is releasing your offending spouse, giving up on revenge and...
Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.
My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my...
The Key to Cherishing Your Spouse For a Lifetime
Neuroscience tells us that the shelf-life of an infatuation is about twelve to eighteen months. It’s a nice run while it lasts,...
How to Protect Your Marriage From An Affair
In 25% of current marriages one or both spouses are having an affair.
That's 1-in-4.
It's a staggering, heartbreaking statistic, and highlights an important truth: every...
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: “it’s time to flee”
This is part 2 of a series, this week on knowing when, like Joseph from the Bible, it's time to flee from temptation. You...
4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime
In 1962 someone built our home. I don’t have the deeds for the other homes on our street, but I assume they...
Real Love is Tough Like Tires (But in a Romantic Way)
Images matter, and how we imagine what love should look like has a huge impact on our satisfaction in marriage and our...
3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not...
Stressed? Here’s God’s Solution For Anxious Couples
They were so absorbed in their “God projects” that they didn’t notice God right in front of them, like a huge rock...
Help, My Imperfect Spouse Is Ruining My Perfect Marriage!
Q: Well, the honeymoon is over and I’ve discovered that my spouse is not perfect. Now what?
A: Your wedding may have been...
5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage
A friend recently asked me the following questions about how to rekindle romance:
“What do you do for fun as a couple? What...
7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!
Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having?
A: Many...
Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David
David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
An Emotional Affair Is Avoidable. Here’s How to Guard Your Marriage.
Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but...
3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage
A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.
There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh...
Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time
Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
“Never Surrender.” Don’t Give Up, Your Marriage Can Thrive For a Lifetime.
A divorce lawyer recently posted an article arguing that the vow “till death do us part” is passé, unrealistic, and needs to...
The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...
Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.
My husband and I are leading a Bible study with mostly newlywed couples. After a few weeks, we noticed how often we...
Your Parents’ Divorce Doesn’t Mean You’re Doomed to Get Divorced Too.
Q: I want to get married, but my parents had a terrible marriage and got divorced. Does my parents' divorce mean my...
Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25
We have all read it...
Noticing Is Not Lusting: Why We Need to Reframe the Conversation about Men, Sin,...
If you notice a woman is beautiful, is that a sin? Are you lusting after her in your heart?
If you read many...
Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward
The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...