The 50/50 marriage is an arrangement of trade-offs and compromises, with spouses keeping score so one person never gets more or gives more than the other. Serving and submitting to one another are replaced by an emphasis on getting what is rightfully yours. Marriages only work when each spouse is giving 100 percent.
What is it that makes changing so hard? Over the past few years I believe God has shown me some things about myself that make changing so difficult. These things are universal and I believe once I learn them and understand them it will make changes much easier.
After a full day of work and dealing with the kids, do you feel like you don’t have much time or energy left for your spouse? We often hear from couples about the stress of their busy lives. They work full time, go to school, raise kids, serve at church, and they wonder why their marriages are having difficulty.
When the stress of life gets in the way of our romance, Cathy proactively applies what she calls the Three Golden Rules for Romance.
Like everyone else, we don’t have a perfect marriage. But we’re both very proud of what we’ve developed over the years. Here are 10 things that I know that kids learn from their parents' marriage.
The power to forgive in marriage ultimately comes from God. And what you may not realize is there are some myths about forgiveness.
If you’d like a rock solid marriage these principles of the most successful couples can get you moving on the right track.
To have a God-honoring marriage, I must realize that I am third in my wife’s allegiance. The best marriages are built on these priorities.
The hard truth about a Christian marriage is that your marriage will not be perfect just because you’re Christians. Don't buy these myths.
Don’t despair. No matter how ugly the fighting is now, it’s only temporary. Eternity is just around the corner. Hang in there!
The Apostle Peter sets Christian marriage on the highest plane possible—husbands and wives possess the same eternal inheritance.
You may be more tempted to consider divorce as an option because you’ve seen your parents' divorce, but don’t do it. Break the pattern of divorce, give your kids what you didn’t have, and above all learn to work everything out together.
The option of living together, rather than moving into a formal marriage contract, has proliferated in our culture.
In a sacred marriage, there’s so much more keeping us together than a momentary emotional storm of infatuation. Don’t take it too seriously.
Celebrating love usually isn’t something that “comes over” you. You don’t just sit around and wait to fall in love again.
Let me share some good news. It doesn’t matter what age you are; a fresh start is possible for everything and everybody. Even your marriage.
Some of the most powerful, life-giving, exciting words you will ever agree to are said during your marriage vows: as long as we both shall live.
Your spouse is supposed to complete you, right? That might be true in romantic comedies, but let's talk about real life.
People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage has staying power? Sometimes it can be hard to tell, but here are 5 keys.
I can’t fix everything in my marriage but there are a few things I can control. Here are 4 ways I can “strengthen the roots” of our marriage.
What if Christmas “jump started” your family’s embrace of joy this season? What gift could be more important than stockings or candy canes?
Whether you're familiar with the term or not, your family origin impacts marriage in critical ways, for good or bad. Find out how.
The lesson is painfully clear: connecting with Jesus is a better choice than busyness.There will always be more to do! Know what I mean?
Perhaps you are in a season of marriage where you are not walking in unison as a couple. Despite how difficult and painful this season might be, trust that God is working and has not abandoned you!
Christian marriage is tandem marathon. You and your spouse have linked hearts to serve God and navigate the ups and downs of life together.
This simple practice could change your marriage in powerful ways. "I’m as happy as I’ve ever been in my marriage."
Here are the 10 signs you’re having an emotional affair. If ANY of these are happening with you OR with your spouse, please take action.
The “cherish challenge” will run through the summer, with hundreds of couples saying, “If such a marriage is possible, I want it.”
There is a major difference between appreciating beauty and lusting, but I fear some are so wounded they can’t allow for such a distinction.
If your marriage is in jeopardy, find time to strengthen it now, as it is the foundation under which your entire family rests.
Everyone has some stress in their life, but far too many couples are out-of-control busy and tell us that their lives are just too hectic and stressed out.
Your marriage will make it. There are so many things we have outlasted that I TRULY miss, but in my heart, I know that there is TRULY nothing better than walking forward hand in hand. Come what may.
You might be shocked by why one former pastor's wife was sneaking out of bed at two in the morning (in the best kind of way).
"Marriage is kind of like beach volleyball—marriage in a bikini." Learn a surprising lesson about your marriage's weak spot.
Celebrating love is all about reveling in the emotional, physical, and spiritual connections that bond you to your spouse.
There’s something wonderful you can do for your marriage that will feed and protect it. I’m not talking about reading a marriage book, or even praying together. The gift you can give to your marriage that I want to talk about this week is intentionally to have other friends outside your marriage.
I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.
But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.
Is there a difference between lusting and noticing? Lusting is a deliberate act. Sexual attraction is a hard-wired state of being over which we have no control.
Do you know what two words will kill a marriage? Many couples get caught in this two-word trap. Here's how you can break free.
Do you help your spouse see both the person they are and could be? You can change your spouse — here's the secret.
When the Bible tells husbands to love their wives like Christ loves the church, it’s calling us to an initiating, reaching-out love.
The test is never verbalized but still erodes our marriage's intimacy. What we are really asking is, “Can I trust you with my heart?”
What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.
Now more than ever, technology addiction is a threat to meaningful connection. Is it leading you straight to an affair?
Pastor Brandon Cox drops an important truth bomb: when a guy continually complains that his wife is a nag, she might not be the main problem.
It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But how do you go about it?
The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy. My husband...
Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but...
Let’s say it plainly because we all know it’s true: Nobody has a perfect marriage. Your differences and flaws can lead to...