love is a choice

What to Do When You’re Not Feeling It

What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.
ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.

Actually, You CAN Change Your Spouse. Here’s How.

Do you help your spouse see both the person they are and could be? You can change your spouse — here's the secret.
scratches and dents

Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are Priceless

I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.

The Secret to “Happily Ever After” In Your Marriage

Is it really possible to find "happily ever after" in your marriage? Les and Leslie Parrott share how couples can make it real.
lusting

The Truth About Lusting: Why We Need to Reframe the Conversation about Men, Sin,...

Is there a difference between lusting and noticing? Lusting is a deliberate act. Sexual attraction is a hard-wired state of being over which we have no control.
wedding vows

If Wedding Vows Were Honest …

Wedding vows are promises. But not just any promises. Vows are markers that guide your marriage. We need vows that will shape and impact marriages.
test

“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test

The test is never verbalized but still erodes our marriage's intimacy. What we are really asking is, “Can I trust you with my heart?”
stressed

Stressed? Here’s God’s Solution For Anxious Couples

Everyone has some stress in their life, but far too many couples are out-of-control busy and tell us that their lives are just too hectic and stressed out.
pray for your husband

Why My Wife Was Sneaking Out of Bed at 2 A.M.

You might be shocked by why one former pastor's wife was sneaking out of bed at two in the morning (in the best kind of way).
inject

Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.

There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh wave of intimacy into your relationship. Here's how to inject some "A.W.E." into your marriage. 
cheerleader

How To Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Cheerleader

How can you become your spouse’s cheerleader? Start is by applying the “one another” passages of the New Testament in your marriage.
avoid an affair

7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

No marriage is 100% bulletproof to temptation. As someone who got dangerously close, I needed to avoid an affair.

An Emotional Affair: How to Guard Your Marriage

Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but also preventable.
accept your spouse

Accept Your Spouse As They Are, Even With Changes

In whatever ways you and your spouse change with age, one thing about you should never change: that you accept your spouse just as they are.
broken trust

Can Broken Trust Can Be Restored?

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How can you learn to heal? You’re going to need to rebuild your marriage from the bottom up.
marriage

How Married Do You Want to Be?

I want my wife to feel loved. I want us to feel connected, together, one. So let me ask you, how married do you want to be?
persevering love

Persevering Love: How To Survive the Tough Times

Persevering love doesn’t just hang on through calamity by its fingernails; it hangs in there and thrives. It never gives up.
security in marriage

Significance and Security in Marriage Come From God

Marriages often fail because one spouse looks to the other to completely satisfy their innate need for significance and security in marriage.
secret

1 Secret Every Man Must Know About Their Wives

This secret applies to women and men: if you really want to change your marriage, you have to understand the secret where you have power.

Marriage is More Than Free Sex and Housekeeping

Marriages are more than free sex and housekeeping, much more than just a contract, a routine, or an exchange of services.
steps to forgiveness

6 Steps to Forgiveness in Your Marriage

Who is supposed to initiate the process of forgiveness in a marriage relationship: the offender or the offended? We don’t think it really matters. Find out why and the steps to forgiveness and healing.
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

Have you “lost that loving feeling?” of dating and romance. We need to rekindle romance, the fun and enjoyment of marriage.
sex life

Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!

Sometimes circumstances turn our sex life into something negative, but don't despair. It's possible to reset your sex life!
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

In the same way that I am benefited by reminding myself of God’s eternal perspective – I must remember that my husband also offers me a unique perspective that I shouldn’t so quickly dismiss.
100 percent

“Fair” Marriage = Both Spouses Give 100 Percent

The 50/50 marriage is an arrangement of trade-offs and compromises, with spouses keeping score so one person never gets more or gives more than the other. Serving and submitting to one another are replaced by an emphasis on getting what is rightfully yours. Marriages only work when each spouse is giving 100 percent.
changes

3 Small Changes Greatly Improve Your Marriage

What is it that makes changing so hard? Over the past few years I believe God has shown me some things about myself that make changing so difficult. These things are universal and I believe once I learn them and understand them it will make changes much easier.
energy

What to Do When You Don’t Have Any Energy Left For Your Spouse

After a full day of work and dealing with the kids, do you feel like you don’t have much time or energy left for your spouse?  We often hear from couples about the stress of their busy lives. They work full time, go to school, raise kids, serve at church, and they wonder why their marriages are having difficulty.
golden rules

3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance

When the stress of life gets in the way of our romance, Cathy proactively applies what she calls the Three Golden Rules for Romance.
kids learn from their parents' marriage

10 Things Kids Learn from Their Parents’ Marriage

Like everyone else, we don’t have a perfect marriage. But we’re both very proud of what we’ve developed over the years. Here are 10 things that I know that kids learn from their parents' marriage.
forgiveness

6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.

The power to forgive in marriage ultimately comes from God. And what you may not realize is there are some myths about forgiveness.
rock solid marriage

Building Rock Solid Marriages That Last.

If you’d like a rock solid marriage these principles of the most successful couples can get you moving on the right track.
third

Husbands, You Are Third On Your Wife’s Priorities List

To have a God-honoring marriage, I must realize that I am third in my wife’s allegiance. The best marriages are built on these priorities.
christian marriage

7 Christian Marriage Myths. Does #3 Surprise You?

The hard truth about a Christian marriage is that your marriage will not be perfect just because you’re Christians. Don't buy these myths.
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

Don’t despair. No matter how ugly the fighting is now, it’s only temporary. Eternity is just around the corner. Hang in there!
christian marriage

Christian Marriage – Pilgrims Traveling Same Path

The Apostle Peter sets Christian marriage on the highest plane possible—husbands and wives possess the same eternal inheritance.
parents' divorce

Your Parents’ Divorce Doesn’t Mean You’re Doomed to Get Divorced Too.

You may be more tempted to consider divorce as an option because you’ve seen your parents' divorce, but don’t do it. Break the pattern of divorce, give your kids what you didn’t have, and above all learn to work everything out together.
living together

Living Together – Is Marriage “Just a Piece of Paper?”

The option of living together, rather than moving into a formal marriage contract, has proliferated in our culture.
infatuation

Infatuation Is Normal, And An Affair is Preventable.

In a sacred marriage, there’s so much more keeping us together than a momentary emotional storm of infatuation. Don’t take it too seriously.
fall in love

How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Celebrating love usually isn’t something that “comes over” you. You don’t just sit around and wait to fall in love again.
fresh start

It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start.

Let me share some good news. It doesn’t matter what age you are; a fresh start is possible for everything and everybody. Even your marriage.
as long as we both shall live

The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

Some of the most powerful, life-giving, exciting words you will ever agree to are said during your marriage vows: as long as we both shall live.
marriage commitment

Your Spouse Doesn’t Complete You

Your spouse is supposed to complete you, right? That might be true in romantic comedies, but let's talk about real life.
stay

Staying Power: 5 Signs Your Marriage Will Make It

People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage has staying power? Sometimes it can be hard to tell, but here are 5 keys.
roots

4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime

I can’t fix everything in my marriage but there are a few things I can control. Here are 4 ways I can “strengthen the roots” of our marriage.
Christmas gift

The Best Christmas Gift You Can Give Your Spouse

What if Christmas “jump started” your family’s embrace of joy this season? What gift could be more important than stockings or candy canes?
family origin impacts marriage

How Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage Now

Whether you're familiar with the term or not, your family origin impacts marriage in critical ways, for good or bad. Find out how.
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

The lesson is painfully clear: connecting with Jesus is a better choice than busyness.There will always be more to do! Know what I mean?
seasons

Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

Perhaps you are in a season of marriage where you are not walking in unison as a couple. Despite how difficult and painful this season might be, trust that God is working and has not abandoned you!
marathon

Your Marriage Is a Marathon You’re Running Together.

Christian marriage is tandem marathon. You and your spouse have linked hearts to serve God and navigate the ups and downs of life together.