golden rules

3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not...
types of conflict

3 Types of Conflict in Marriage, And The Danger of Confusing Them

There is no one-size-fits-all for dealing with marriage problems, because not all types of conflict are alike. This month, our Wednesday series is...
words hurt

Words Hurt, So Don’t Say Everything You Think.

Words hurt, deeply. Check out this verse from the Bible:  The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the...
how to build trust in a relationship

4 Great Tips on How to Build Trust in a Relationship

TRUST IS THE GLUE THAT HOLDS MARRIAGES TOGETHER. Trust provides an emotional safety net to share your deepest struggles, fears, feelings and desires...
fighting fair

It’s Not About Fighting Fair. It’s About Giving Up on “Fairness” Altogether.

SOME SAY, "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR" - BUT IN MY OPINION, THAT ACTUALLY ISN'T TRUE.  If you really sit down...
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
watch-tone

Watch Your Tone! Say Things In a Way Your Spouse Will Hear

When it comes to communication, even more important than words is the tone that accompanies them. You’ve most likely heard the phrase,...
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

A friend recently asked me the following questions about how to rekindle romance: “What do you do for fun as a couple? What...
christian marriage

7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!

Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having? A: Many...
navigating difficult conversations

4 Tricks For Navigating Difficult Conversations

This post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy isn't primarily about marriage, but it could be. Difficult conversations with your spouse are never...
avoiding conflict

Avoiding Conflict Can Ruin a Marriage. Here’s Why.

Do you have a tendency toward avoiding conflict or negative emotions in your marriage? If so, this post is for you. Make...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
conflict

Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same Thing. Here’s Why That Matters.

I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage,...
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
reasons for divorce

Reasons For Divorce: The 4 Most Toxic Traits of a Marriage

No one intends to get married with the goal of ending it all. Yet 50% of all couples tying the knot this...
broken trust

Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
how to have self control

About to Lose Your Cool? Here’s How to Have Self Control During an Argument

I hear stories all the time about how couples have lost it in an argument. One of them hears something that triggers their...
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

My husband and I are leading a Bible study with mostly newlywed couples. After a few weeks, we noticed how often we...
hopelessness

Your Marriage Can Survive, Even During the Hopelessness of Depression

NO ONE GETS MARRIED EXPECTING SOMETHING LIKE CRIPPLING DEPRESSION TO DIG IN ITS DIRTY CLAWS AND WREAK HAVOC, BUT IT HAPPENS ALL...
words of affirmation

Good News! Your Spouse’s Needs Aren’t As Hard to Meet as You Think. This...

My wife is super in to any sort of words of affirmation. It is easily, without a doubt, her number one love...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...
“Why Am I So Angry?” How to Discover What’s Really Behind This Potentially Destructive Emotion

“Why Am I So Angry?” How to Discover What’s Really Behind This Potentially Destructive...

Did you know that anger is actually a secondary emotion? This means that at the core of everything you’re feeling, your anger...
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...
love is a choice

Love Is a Choice, Especially When You’re Not Feeling It.

  When my wife and I were going through marriage problems, the last thing that I wanted to hear was love is a...
the stories we tell ourselves

The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Why Most of Our Fights Start in Our Imagination...

In her recent Netflix special author, researcher, and all-around national treasure Brené Brown describes an argument she  had with her husband. They were...
ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit) someone else. While they may have...
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...
toxic family

Are Toxic Family Members Hurting Your Marriage? Here’s What to Do.

MEYGAN AND I BOTH ADMIT THAT THERE HAVE BEEN MANY TIMES WE'VE MADE EXCUSES FOR THE BEHAVIOR OF OUR TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS BECAUSE…...
words of affirmation

102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Longs to Hear

People can't get enough words of affirmation. A while back I was speaking and asked for a show of hands, “How many of...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
it's not about the nail

It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail

It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is...
long distance

7 Tips on How to Keep a Long Distance Marriage Thriving

MARRIAGE IS A WILD AND CHALLENGING JOURNEY ALL ON ITS OWN. So it makes sense that, no matter the reason, when you add...
arguing

How to Ask For What You Need Without Arguing

Sometimes you just have to ask your husband for what you need! I’ve been talking all month about how to change the dynamic...
to do list

What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
scratches and dents

Your Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are What Make It Priceless. Here’s Why.

Mike and I recently attended a wedding. The bride was stunning, and the groom gleamed with pride. Not a dry eye in...
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s The Reason Why.

The scene is a couple driving in the car on the way to dinner: Silence for several minutes. “What’s wrong?” “Nothing.” A few more minutes of...
bids for connection

Bids for Connection: The Tool This Expert Says Is the Secret to Great...

It’s not big, blow out fights that wreck a marriage. It’s how we treat each other day to day. And that’s why...
messy

Messy v. Neat Freak: How to Navigate the Cleanliness War In Your Marriage

Q: One of us is very neat, but the other is very messy. How can we keep from driving each other crazy? A:...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Needs to Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
lies

We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
changes

Want to Improve Your Marriage? These 3 Small Changes Will Lead to Huge Results.

I am often trying to find ways of making myself a better person. I imagine all of us at some point wish we...
husbands

Husbands, Your Wives Need These 10 Things, They Just Don’t Know How to Ask

I remember watching What Women Want not long after its release in 2001. The movie chronicles a man, Nick Marshall, who receives a fresh...
tone

Tone Deaf: Is What You’re Saying Hidden By How You’re Saying It?

I've said this several times, but Doug Fields is both a ludicrously gifted communicator and a very kind mentor and friend of...
pursue your spouse

What Are You Doing to Pursue Your Spouse?

You need to make it one of your highest priorities to pursue your spouse. One of my biggest concerns as a married...
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

I don’t know about you, but I often overlook the Lord’s eternal perspective. He sees all of time, from beginning to end,...
100 percent

The Only “Fair” Marriage Is When Both Spouses Give 100 Percent.

Happily married Eric and Jill climbed out of bed at their normal Saturday morning hour. They had a lot to do around...
self-righteousness

Self-Righteousness is Satan’s Favorite Attack Against Your Marriage. Here’s What You Can Do About...

What if one of the most dangerous attitudes for believers is self-righteousness? What if it’s possible to be “right” and toxic at the...
present

Husbands, We Need to Be Fully Present With Our Wives. Here’s How.

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I feel like most men do. We think about our bills, the check...
sex life

Does Your Sex Life Feel Broken? You Can Always Rebuild It! Here’s How.

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...