little annoyances

Don’t Let Little Annoyances Become Huge Problems

Identifying little annoyances allows you to train yourself to let them go, and refuse to give them power over your attitude.
high sex drive

10 Questions High Sex Drive Spouses Should Ask

Are you the high sex drive husband, and you’re wondering what to do because your wife rarely wants sex? Here are 10 questions you should ask.
build trust

How to Build Trust in a Marriage

After being married nearly 20 years, Kristen and I work like crazy to be on the same team and to build trust with one another.
fall in love

How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Celebrating love usually isn’t something that “comes over” you. You don’t just sit around and wait to fall in love again.
change

Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

God has not called you to change your wife. Instead, He has commanded you to love her as Christ loves the church.
confrontation in marriage

How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

In confrontation in marriage, this rule of thumb has proved itself to be true over and over again: The one who listens the best first wins. 
as long as we both shall live

The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

Some of the most powerful, life-giving, exciting words you will ever agree to are said during your marriage vows: as long as we both shall live.
stay

Staying Power: 5 Signs Your Marriage Will Make It

People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage has staying power? Sometimes it can be hard to tell, but here are 5 keys.
mental load

Husbands, Help Carry Your Wife’s Mental Load.

Women’s mental load is not a problem with men as much as it is a problem with the way our whole culture sees the responsibilities of women.
romantic

10 Tips for Becoming a More Romantic Husband

So what is being romantic? Love is a feeling; romance is love in action. Romance is something you do to express the love that you feel.
roots

4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime

I can’t fix everything in my marriage but there are a few things I can control. Here are 4 ways I can “strengthen the roots” of our marriage.
seasons

Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

Perhaps you are in a season of marriage where you are not walking in unison as a couple. Despite how difficult and painful this season might be, trust that God is working and has not abandoned you!
christmas

How to Actually Enjoy Your Spouse This Christmas

I believe that Christmas can be a season of joy and fun and love for you and your husband. It can be a time when you make memories together and strengthen your marriage, rather than letting it run on auto-pilot and increasing the tension between the two of you.
romantic

How To Be Romantic Even When You’re Exhausted

Set aside one night this week where you plan for sex. It doesn't feel romantic, but it gives your spouse something to look forward to.
giving too much

Are You Giving Too Much This Holiday Season?

Not only is giving too much mentality unhealthy for the giver, it is also unhealthy for the taker. It fuels a relational dysfunction pattern.
tie-breaker

Husbands Don’t Need To Be The “Tie-Breaker”

If people are so sure they need a tie-breaker in their marriage, chances are they’ve lived life taking shortcuts to finding a real solution.
helping

When Helping Isn’t Helping You OR Your Spouse

We are often taught to look out for others. Or to serve one another. Especially our spouse! So how can helping be a bad thing?
in-laws

In-Laws An Issue? Here’s What To Do About It.

These family conflicts are tough because your attitude toward your in-laws can undermine the most important relationship—with your spouse.
weekend

Reclaim Your Weekend In Four Simple Steps

Do you spend your Sunday evenings dreading the end of the weekend? Here are four techniques to turn your weekend into rejuvenating breaks.
scratches and dents

Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are Priceless

I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.
ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.
broken trust

Can Broken Trust Can Be Restored?

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How can you learn to heal? You’re going to need to rebuild your marriage from the bottom up.
types of conflict

3 Types of Conflict in Marriage: Don’t Confuse Them!

I think types of conflicts in marriage can be divided into three different root causes, and each should be handled differently.
questions to ask your spouse

25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

Use these open ended questions — some silly, some serious — to ask your spouse to talk, laugh, dream, and learn more about each other.
test

“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test

The test is never verbalized but still erodes our marriage's intimacy. What we are really asking is, “Can I trust you with my heart?”
regrets

How To Build a Marriage That Has No Regrets

I have no regrets about listening! I’ve never thought, “Why did I pay such good attention to that person? Why was I so empathetic?”
football

“My Husband Enjoys Football More Than Me!”

My husband seems to enjoy watching football more than he enjoys spending time with me. How can I get him to take more interest in us?
love is a choice

What to Do When You’re Not Feeling It

What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.
warning signs

7 Marriage Warning Signs

Every marriage bond can slip if the couple doesn’t recognize the warning signs of stress in the marriage and address them.
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

The moment you do or say something that hurts your spouse, you stand at a fork in the road, whether you are aware of it or not.
trust

Trust Can Be Rebuilt Over Time. Here’s How.

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage. How can you learn to trust again?
words hurt

Words Hurt, So Don’t Say Everything You Think.

When someone exhausts your patience and you want to hit back with a comeback zinger... just don't. Words hurt, and are never worth it. 
love languages

Can Love Languages Be Harmful For Your Marriage?

Love languages are great as tools to demonstrate love, but can they sour your relationship?
financial issues

4 Tips For Fixing Financial Issues In Your Marriage

Financial issues often stem from how we were raised. No matter how you were raised, it's probably safe to say your spouse was most likely raised with very different “money values” than you. How can you bridge that divide?
second half of marriage

The 2nd Half of Marriage. Prepping for Life Post Kids.

If you don’t choose to move toward each other in the second half of marriage, you fill up the free time with independent pursuits instead.
nag

Nag or Treasure? How Do You Treat Your Wife?

Pastor Brandon Cox drops an important truth bomb: when a guy continually complains that his wife is a nag, she might not be the main problem.
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy. My husband...
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

A friend recently asked me the following questions about how to rekindle romance: “What do you do for fun as a couple? What...
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s Why.

In married life we can misread and overstep our bounds. Even when this is under the umbrella of trying to help, beware...
money mistakes

4 Money Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

Money mistakes are one of the top reasons that marriages end in divorce, yet unfortunately, most engaged and newly married couples fail...
how to have self control

About to Lose Your Cool? Self-Control Keys

Do you ever lose your cool in an argument? Self-control comes from our thoughts, which influence how we feel and how we...
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
spouse less annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...
conversation starters

70 Great Conversation Starters for Couples

Have you ever had a date night where you just stare at your spouse and think "I have no idea what to talk about?"...

The Night My Marriage Almost Ended

Today's post comes from our long-time partner, Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and was written by Ketsia Gutsave, from the blog Pure Couples. Ketsia is...
burn

Words Can Burn it All Down

Words can burn it all down. Words can destroy your family, they can destroy your heart, they can destroy your marriage. Words...
better sex

Practice Your Way to Better Sex

For many women, sex just isn’t that great at the beginning of the marriage. This week we’ve been looking at specific ways to have better...

Stressed Out Spouse: 10 Ways to Help

Ever feel like your spouse is stressed all the time–and because of that they’re always short with you? On Mondays I like to...

The First 7 Years of Marriage: 7 Suggestions

I’ve written previously about the first 7 years of marriage. We don’t know why necessarily — I have some theories — but...
arguments

What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?

A few days ago while in a disagreement with one of my boys, we exchanged a few “pleasantries” that I don’t want to repeat...