strong communication

A Strong Marriage Based on Strong Communication

Is communication a strength in your marriage? Or a weakness? Do you and your spouse connect well? Strong communication is the process of...
test

“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test

This morning, I met with a group of friends to encourage each other in our marriages. As we talked, one of the...
cancer

How to Treat “Soul Cancer” In Your Marriage

So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your...
newlyweds

The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make

Just about every day for the last 14 years I’ve given my life to helping pre-married and newlyweds prepare for and start...
communication

Plan Your Next Date Around Good Communication

I am always looking for great tools that I can use with couples. I have found a tool that is a great...
household chores

Household Chores Can Make or Break a Marriage

It’s an argument as old as marriage: Who helps out most with household chores? In a recent survey, more than half of...
negative emotion

Negative Emotion is Vital For a Healthy Relationship

In preparation for my shiny new blog plan (month long themes complete with corresponding love experiments, social media posts and podcast episodes),...
in-laws

In-Laws An Issue? Here’s What To Do About It.

The holidays can be a wonderful time of laughter and love and gatherings with family. But it can also be a time...
giving too much

Are You Giving Too Much This Holiday Season?

I’m an expert at killing—plants, that is. No matter what I do, I cannot seem to keep my plants alive. They call...
words of affirmation

Why Men Need Words of Affirmation in the Bedroom

Today's post is about the needs of men, but husbands, your wives need words of affirmation too! Here's 102 ways you can...
football

“My Husband Enjoys Football More Than Me!”

Q: My husband seems to enjoy watching football and spending time with his friends more than he enjoys spending time with me....
money mistakes

4 Money Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

Money mistakes are one of the top reasons that marriages end in divorce, yet unfortunately, most engaged and newly married couples fail...
romantic

How To Be Romantic Even When You’re Exhausted

Q:  Between work, the kids, and taking care of the house, I have almost no time or energy to dedicate to my...
roots

4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime

In 1962 someone built our home. I don’t have the deeds for the other homes on our street, but I assume they...
romantic

10 Tips for Becoming a More Romantic Husband

We’re continuing our monthly series from our book, The 5 Sex Needs of Men and Women. We’ve already hit the top 4...
love languages

Can Love Languages Be Harmful For Your Marriage?

I like giving and receiving gifts. My wife Lisa doesn’t. In my young stupid pride, I used to double down on gift giving opportunities,...
golden rules

3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not...
types of conflict

3 Types of Conflict in Marriage, And The Danger of Confusing Them

There is no one-size-fits-all for dealing with marriage problems, because not all types of conflict are alike. This month, our Wednesday series is...
words hurt

Words Hurt, So Don’t Say Everything You Think.

Words hurt, deeply. Check out this verse from the Bible:  The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the...
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
watch-tone

Watch Your Tone! Say Things In a Way Your Spouse Will Hear

When it comes to communication, even more important than words is the tone that accompanies them. You’ve most likely heard the phrase,...
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

A friend recently asked me the following questions about how to rekindle romance: “What do you do for fun as a couple? What...
christian marriage

7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!

Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having? A: Many...
navigating difficult conversations

4 Tricks For Navigating Difficult Conversations

This post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy isn't primarily about marriage, but it could be. Difficult conversations with your spouse are never...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
conflict

Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same Thing. Here’s Why That Matters.

I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage,...
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
broken trust

Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
how to have self control

About to Lose Your Cool? Here’s How to Have Self Control During an Argument

I hear stories all the time about how couples have lost it in an argument. One of them hears something that triggers their...
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

My husband and I are leading a Bible study with mostly newlywed couples. After a few weeks, we noticed how often we...
words of affirmation

Good News! Your Spouse’s Needs Aren’t As Hard to Meet as You Think. This...

My wife is super in to any sort of words of affirmation. It is easily, without a doubt, her number one love...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...
love is a choice

Love Is a Choice, Especially When You’re Not Feeling It.

  When my wife and I were going through marriage problems, the last thing that I wanted to hear was love is a...
the stories we tell ourselves

The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Why Most of Our Fights Start in Our Imagination...

In her recent Netflix special author, researcher, and all-around national treasure Brené Brown describes an argument she  had with her husband. They were...
ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit) someone else. While they may have...
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...
words of affirmation

102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Longs to Hear

People can't get enough words of affirmation. A while back I was speaking and asked for a show of hands, “How many of...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
it's not about the nail

It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail

It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is...
arguing

How to Ask For What You Need Without Arguing

Sometimes you just have to ask your husband for what you need! I’ve been talking all month about how to change the dynamic...
to do list

What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
scratches and dents

Your Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are What Make It Priceless. Here’s Why.

Mike and I recently attended a wedding. The bride was stunning, and the groom gleamed with pride. Not a dry eye in...
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s The Reason Why.

The scene is a couple driving in the car on the way to dinner: Silence for several minutes. “What’s wrong?” “Nothing.” A few more minutes of...
bids for connection

Bids for Connection: The Tool This Expert Says Is the Secret to Great...

It’s not big, blow out fights that wreck a marriage. It’s how we treat each other day to day. And that’s why...
messy

Messy v. Neat Freak: How to Navigate the Cleanliness War In Your Marriage

Q: One of us is very neat, but the other is very messy. How can we keep from driving each other crazy? A:...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Needs to Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
lies

We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
changes

Want to Improve Your Marriage? These 3 Small Changes Will Lead to Huge Results.

I am often trying to find ways of making myself a better person. I imagine all of us at some point wish we...