Your hurtful words or actions open the loop by introducing pain. It is important to close the loop as soon as possible to deal with the pain and return the relationship to harmony.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Eph 5:25 Pastors often preach it, but are we living by it?
Understanding why your spouse doesn't pick up on your needs can keep you from unnecessary arguing or, worse, ongoing resentment.
Over the years I’ve learned it’s the small ways you pursue your spouse in marriage every day that grow a marriage.
These 3 tough love truths are healthy reminders for every married couple. So often we want to make it our spouse’s fault.
Household chores represent the most pressing “minor issue” in marriage for a lot of couples because it’s a conflict that never goes away.
Whenever a marriage self-destructs, the heart is the heart of the matter. But it's also the reason a marriage thrives, and you choose which!
As Facebook would attest, many of us would simply say of our closest relationships in life, “It’s complicated.”
If you feel as if the previous year–or years!–has made you grow apart, let's look again at how to reconnect with your husband.
James gave us the ultimate plan for better communication (including communication in marriage). It’s made up of three simple phrases.
The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy.
Financial issues often stem from how we were raised. No matter how you were raised, it's probably safe to say your spouse was most likely raised with very different “money values” than you. How can you bridge that divide?
Love languages are great as tools to demonstrate love, but can they sour your relationship?
Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage. How can you learn to trust again?
The moment you do or say something that hurts your spouse, you stand at a fork in the road, whether you are aware of it or not.
Every marriage bond can slip if the couple doesn’t recognize the warning signs of stress in the marriage and address them.
What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.
But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.
I have no regrets about listening! I’ve never thought, “Why did I pay such good attention to that person? Why was I so empathetic?”
I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.
Use these open ended questions — some silly, some serious — to ask your spouse to talk, laugh, dream, and learn more about each other.
The test is never verbalized but still erodes our marriage's intimacy. What we are really asking is, “Can I trust you with my heart?”
Couples who don't consider the advice of "watch your tone," who are not careful with their communication tone in marriage, can quickly become “tone deaf.”
It can feel like a major victory when I control my tongue, giving my unspoken words to my Father instead of pouring them out on others.
If you don’t choose to move toward each other in the second half of marriage, you fill up the free time with independent pursuits instead.
In married life we can misread and overstep our bounds. Even when this is under the umbrella of trying to help, beware of overreaching.
Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How can you learn to heal? You’re going to need to rebuild your marriage from the bottom up.
It's tough for your husband to share his emotions with you. Here's how to help your "tough dude" to open up at home.
Married couples should flirt and have intimate conversations to stoke the fire of our interests. Here are 36 ideas for you.
Women often have the feeling that life is coming at them with the speed of a fighter jet and the chaos of a riot. They need these words of affirmation.
I had to fight that internal battle to ignore fear and listen to the spirit of love so I could see, “You are not the obstacle in our marriage—you are my partner in overcoming obstacles.”
Don't confuse supporting your husband with babying your husband. Or with being bullied by him. Biblical support looks much different.
Persevering love doesn’t just hang on through calamity by its fingernails; it hangs in there and thrives. It never gives up.
This secret applies to women and men: if you really want to change your marriage, you have to understand the secret where you have power.
Have you “lost that loving feeling?” of dating and romance. We need to rekindle romance, the fun and enjoyment of marriage.
Sometimes circumstances turn our sex life into something negative, but don't despair. It's possible to reset your sex life!
In the same way that I am benefited by reminding myself of God’s eternal perspective – I must remember that my husband also offers me a unique perspective that I shouldn’t so quickly dismiss.
The 50/50 marriage is an arrangement of trade-offs and compromises, with spouses keeping score so one person never gets more or gives more than the other. Serving and submitting to one another are replaced by an emphasis on getting what is rightfully yours. Marriages only work when each spouse is giving 100 percent.
Let’s be our spouse’s chief encourager. No one else can offer them words of encouragement the way we can. It’s our job to survey whatever threatens our spouse’s physical and spiritual well-being and cooperate with God to say, “I have some good news for you. Some wonderful news…”
What is it that makes changing so hard? Over the past few years I believe God has shown me some things about myself that make changing so difficult. These things are universal and I believe once I learn them and understand them it will make changes much easier.
I’ve given my life to helping newlyweds prepare start their marriages off right. Here are four common mistakes I see them make.
When the stress of life gets in the way of our romance, Cathy proactively applies what she calls the Three Golden Rules for Romance.
Words can bring you down, burn down a marriage, a family, a church, a workplace, a culture. It’s happening all around us.
What can you do if your spouse watches porn? As you seek authentic intimacy in your marriage, here are a few practical steps to take.
This is an excerpt from Cherie and Brian Lowe’s book, Your Money, Your Marriage, about how to avoid a financial fight.
Ever feel like your stressed out spouse is short with you? What are you going to do to help your spouse through stress? Here are 10 keys.
What if the arguments you had with your spouse was broadcast out for others to hear? What if every disagreement with you and your spouse was broadcast on Facebook live for all the world to see and hear?
For most couples it takes years to make sex work like clockwork, where you’re both enjoying it, and you both climax. Better sex is absolutely possible, if you practice!
Are you always irritated with your spouse? Funny how some things that attracted you to your lovely spouse now drive you up the wall.
An intolerance of OTHERS’ negative emotion is precluded by an intolerance of our own negative emotion. This dynamic is a marriage killer.