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resentment

Don’t Let Resentment Steal Intimacy in Your Marriage

Resentment can steal intimacy in your marriage, but don't let it. Recently I was speaking at a women's gathering, and one of the women asked...
avoid an affair

7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

It's worth studying how to avoid an affair. As someone who got dangerously close to an affair myself, several of these points rang true...
sex life

Does Your Sex Life Feel Broken? You Can Always Rebuild It! Here’s How.

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
talking about sex

6 Tips For Talking About Sex With Your Spouse

Sex is an important aspect of most every marriage. Your sexuality plays a major role in life. It influences how you dress,...
sex

2 Ways to Cultivate a Great Sex Life

Our friends Les and Leslie Parrott are an invaluable resource for any marriage - you can check them out here - and today's post...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
emotional affair

Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
when husband has the headache

When the Husband Has the “Headache”

Today's post comes from new Friends of the Newsletter,™  the team over at Authentic Intimacy. I love how it flips the stereotype of "women...
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...

Does God Want You to Have Great Sex?

Most of us have been told that great sex in marriage is possible. But why does it matter? For many of us,...
good sex

Necessary Ingredients to Good Sex: Romance in Marriage

The sex need that rated the fifth highest among women in our survey was romance. Nearly 53% of the women placed romance as a...
between love and desire

The Difference Between Love and Desire

Today's post on the difference between love and desire is another great one from one of our most popular contributors, Gary Thomas. Enjoy! When an...
motivation

“What’s My Motivation?” 5 Reasons to Improve Your Sex Life

Yup. You know there is an issue. You know the sexual connection with your spouse is waning a bit. Maybe you haven’t had...
libido

Your Low Libido Doesn’t Have to Stay That Way

Feel like you have no libido–as if it’s in hibernation or something? You’re not alone! This post contains affiliate links. I love talking on the...
sex life

Awkward Sex Life? That’s Okay

So if before marriage you, like one of our editors, thought your sex life would be the most incredible, easiest thing in the world...you...
better sex

Want Better Sex? ONE Thing You Must STOP First

Do you want better sex in your marriage? Does your spouse want that, too? The crux of many couples’ sexual intimacy struggles is that one...

An Emotional Affair Is Avoidable. Here’s How to Guard Your Marriage.

Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but...
boring in bed

Help! My Spouse Thinks I’m Boring In Bed.

What do you do if your husband accuses you of being boring in bed – or when your husband thinks your sex...
50 shades of gray silly sex

50 Shades of Silly: Why ‘Grey’ Sex Isn’t All That Great

I (Josh) tend to be a contrarian, which means when marriage blogs got on an anti-50 Shades of Grey kick I kinda rolled my...
golden rule

Why the Golden Rule Doesn’t Work During Sex

If you’re married, we’re sure this will come as no surprise to you: Men and women view sex differently. Very differently.
phone addiction

Is Your Phone Addiction Harming Your Sex Life?

It’s no surprise that smart phones have changed the way we live, but what you may not realize is that your phone...
sex affirmations

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 2 – Affirmation

For Men: Sex Affirmations "I don't understand why Josh is so withdrawn," Lila told Gary during a counseling session.  During the entire session, she had...
sex matters

Why Sex Matters in Your Marriage

This is a fantastic post from Nancy Houston, a licensed Christian sex therapist, on why sex matters in your marriage and how to please...
initiating

Initiating (and Declining) Sex Without Starting a Fight

For many married couples initiating sex can be an awkward moment that leads to conflict or hurt feelings. They’re not sure what...
newlyweds

The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make

Just about every day for the last 14 years I’ve given my life to helping pre-married and newlyweds prepare for and start...
kill intimacy

10 Ways to Kill Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's article about 10 ways to kill intimacy in your marriage comes from our friend Frank. Check out his website to see more resources...
wife doesn't want to have sex

10 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

I have a lot of guys who read the blog, and I get tons of emails from guys who tell me your wife doesn't...
why do people cheat

Why Do People Cheat in Relationships, And Whose Fault Is It?

If your spouse has an affair, are you partially to blame? Why do people cheat in relationships anyway?  That’s been something I’ve been...
inhibitions

Do You Have Too Many or Too Few Sexual Inhibitions?

Some people believe your sexual inhibitions or lack of inhibitions is nothing more than a reflection of your temperament. It’s a personality thing, they would...
bringing sexy back self image

Bringing Sexy Back to Your Self-Image

Today's post comes from Joy McMillan, author of XES: Why Church Girls Tend to Get it Backwards...And How to Get It Right, and Friend of the Newsletter™...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
intimacy

1 Question That Will Ignite Your Marriage’s Intimacy

Kristen and I lead a newly married small group through our church. We love getting to spend time with these five newlywed couples....
ingredients to good sex spiritual intimacy

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 3 – Spiritual Intimacy

For Women: How is tending to your wife’s spiritual side a sexual need? Women all over the country have told us the same thing: "When...
husband really need sex

Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

Does your husband really need sex? In many marriages (but not all), sexual intimacy is very high on a husband’s list. In books like...
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
porn is tempting

Porn Is Tempting When You’re Isolated. Fight It.

Since COVID-19 the pornography industry has seen a massive increase in website traffic. On March 24th, one major site announced that their...
its okay to flirt

Why It’s Okay to Flirt

Today's post comes from a new friend of ours here at Thriving Marriages. Brie Gowen wrote a great post recently about why it's still...
intimacy men need

The Intimacy Men Need But Don’t Know They Need

A blockbuster quote from a blockbuster book (Unwanted) by Jay Stringer unmasks what I have seen but been unable to describe in marriage about...
christian marriage

7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!

Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having? A: Many...
beauty

Beauty Is a Blessing, And Seeing It Isn’t A Sin.

Lisa and I were shopping in one of her stores years ago when I heard a song that stopped me in my...
making time making love

Making Time for Making Love

Today's post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy post is a practical, honest look at the challenges of making sex a priority when you have...
sex should feel good

Ladies: Sex Should Feel Good For You Too, So Speak Up!

Believe it or not: sex should feel good. But, do you have difficulty letting your husband know what feels good in bed? Even saying...
romantic

10 Tips for Becoming a More Romantic Husband

We’re continuing our monthly series from our book, The 5 Sex Needs of Men and Women. We’ve already hit the top 4...
ingredients to good sex initiation

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 4 – Initiation

For Men: Initiation In an earlier post, when we discussed a husband’s need for his wife to respond, we said that her resistance to his...

6 Signs of Healthy Sexuality

I (Josh) hear regularly from spouses in marriages with a sex life that is abusive, exploitative, unsatisfying, or absent. Today's great post from Gary...
wife's sexual needs

How to Meet Your Wife’s Sexual Needs

We’ve shared a lot the last few months about what your wife’s sexual needs are – and what happens if you don’t...
sex

3 Reasons Women Lose Interest In Sex.

Has earth shaking, bed breaking sex  turned into a Saturday night snooze fest, or a quickie between taking the dog to the...
Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice for men too. #Christianmarriage #Christianhusband #Christianwife #marriageintimacy #prayer

3 Things to Pray For Your Sex Life

Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...