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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 2 – Affirmation

For Men: Sex Affirmations "I don't understand why Josh is so withdrawn," Lila told Gary during a counseling session.  During the entire session, she had...
between love and desire

The Difference Between Love and Desire

Today's post on the difference between love and desire is another great one from one of our most popular contributors, Gary Thomas. Enjoy! When an...
sex life

Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...

How Breaking Your Vows Could Save Your Marriage

Has anyone ever told you that it may be healthy to break your promises? No, I’m not talking about going back on...
kill intimacy

10 Ways to Kill Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's article about 10 ways to kill intimacy in your marriage comes from our friend Frank. Check out his website to see more resources...
better sex

Want Better Sex? ONE Thing You Must STOP First

Do you want better sex? Is your spouse hungering for better sex, too? If so, what’s the one thing you must STOP first? 
unhappy marriage

10 Bad Habits That Lead to an Unhappy Marriage

We make mistakes all the time and are constantly learning. In fact, we scored a 10 out of 10 on this list of things we did to each other than nearly ended our marriage. We hope you can learn from our mistakes and start today to reverse any of these habits you might have that lead to an unhappy marriage.
junk sex

3 Things Junk Food and Junk Sex Have in Common.

We punish fast food restaurants, but leave the multi-billion dollar porn industry flourishing. The truth is, "junk sex" is killing us.
bringing sexy back self image

Bringing Sexy Back to Your Self-Image

Today's post comes from Joy McMillan, author of XES: Why Church Girls Tend to Get it Backwards...And How to Get It Right, and Friend of the Newsletter™...
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
in the mood

10 Tips for Getting Your Wife in the Mood

If your wife never wants to sleep with you, and if sex has become rare in your marriage, what can you do...
bring sexy back

10 Ways to Bring Sexy Back. #8 Is 🥰😳🤯

Does your marriage feel “sexy”? Or does it feel “safe”? “Routine”? “Boring”? There’s nothing wrong with safe. There’s nothing even wrong with routine!...
ingredients to good sex spiritual intimacy

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 3 – Spiritual Intimacy

For Women: How is tending to your wife’s spiritual side a sexual need? Women all over the country have told us the same thing: "When...
sex matters

Why Sex Matters in Your Marriage

This is a fantastic post from Nancy Houston, a licensed Christian sex therapist, on why sex matters in your marriage and how to please...

“What’s My Motivation?” 5 Reasons to Improve Your Sex Life

Yup. You know there is an issue. You know the sexual connection with your spouse is waning a bit. Maybe you haven’t had...
talking about sex

6 Tips For Talking About Sex With Your Spouse

Sex is an important aspect of most every marriage. Your sexuality plays a major role in life. It influences how you dress,...
its okay to flirt

Why It’s Okay to Flirt

Today's post comes from a new friend of ours here at Thriving Marriages. Brie Gowen wrote a great post recently about why it's still...
wife doesn't want to have sex

10 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

I have a lot of guys who read the blog, and I get tons of emails from guys who tell me your wife doesn't...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
emotional affair

Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
making time making love

Making Time for Making Love

Today's post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy post is a practical, honest look at the challenges of making time for making love a priority...
golden rule

Why the Golden Rule Doesn’t Work During Sex

If you’re married, we’re sure this will come as no surprise to you: Men and women view sex differently. Very differently.

Does God Want You to Have Great Sex?

Most of us have been told that great sex is possible. But for many of us, sex is just “meh” or a cause of division instead of unity.

Are You Entitled To a “Good” Sex Life? Maybe Not!

In marriage, one spouse will often need to nurture the sexual desire of the other. Great sex is something you develop, not deserve.
ingredients to good sex initiation

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 4 – Initiation

For Men: Initiation In an earlier post, when we discussed a husband’s need for his wife to respond, we said that her resistance to his...
husband really need sex

Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

Does your husband really need sex? In many marriages (but not all), sexual intimacy is very high on a husband’s list. In books like...

Initiating (and Declining) Sex Without Starting a Fight

For many married couples initiating sex can be an awkward moment that leads to conflict or hurt feelings. They’re not sure what...

Your Low Libido Doesn’t Have to Stay That Way

Feel like you have no libido–as if it’s in hibernation or something? You’re not alone! This post contains affiliate links. I love talking on the...
Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice for men too. #Christianmarriage #Christianhusband #Christianwife #marriageintimacy #prayer

3 Things to Pray For Your Sex Life

Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice...
intimacy men need

The Intimacy Men Need But Don’t Know They Need

A blockbuster quote from a blockbuster book (Unwanted) by Jay Stringer unmasks what I have seen but been unable to describe in marriage about...

An Emotional Affair: How to Guard Your Marriage

Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but...
boring in bed

Help! My Spouse Thinks I’m Boring In Bed.

What do you do if your husband accuses you of being boring in bed – or when your wife thinks your sex life is boring? Here are four ideas.
spouse watches porn

My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?

Today's post involves a wife asking Juli Slattery @ Authentic Intimacy what she should do if her spouse watches porn. A thought up front:...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
phone addiction

Is Your Phone Addiction Harming Your Sex Life?

It’s no surprise that smart phones have changed the way we live, but what you may not realize is that your phone...

Candace Cameron Bure: Sex Needs to Be Celebrated Within Marriage

“Sex is the blessing of marriage and I hate when Christians are like, ‘No you have to pretend like you never had sex!’”
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 5 – Nonsexual touch

For women: Nonsexual Touch Most women need and desire physical touch that does not lead to sex. They need to feel secure that every physical...

6 Signs of Healthy Sexuality

I (Josh) hear regularly from spouses in marriages with a sex life that is abusive, exploitative, unsatisfying, or absent. Today's great post from Gary...

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...

The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make

Just about every day for the last 14 years I’ve given my life to helping pre-married and newlyweds prepare for and start...
what newlyweds should know about sex

4 Things Newlyweds Should Know About Sex

Today's post about what newlyweds should know about sex comes from our friends at tolovehonorandvacuum.com and guest writer Ngina Otiende. Check out her blog here. As a...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
why do people cheat

Why Do People Cheat in Relationships, And Whose Fault Is It?

If your spouse has an affair, are you partially to blame? Why do people cheat in relationships anyway?  That’s been something I’ve been...

Do You Have Too Many or Too Few Sexual Inhibitions?

I’m talking only about scenarios where the inhibitions are a problem. If you and your spouse are fine with how inhibited you are, great!
2 ways to add romance to everyday life

2 Ways to Add Romance to Everyday Life

The loss of passionate romance is a common complaint in marriage. It seems that once the confetti and rice are swept away and the...
mismatched sex drives

What To Do When You Have Mismatched Sex Drives

Today's post is from Bonny Logsdon Burns, who writes at OysterBed7.com. Follow Bonny there for more great resources on Christian Marriage, and thanks to Beth...
sex should feel good

Ladies: Sex Should Feel Good For You Too, So Speak Up!

We grow up assuming that good girls don’t talk about sex. We have strong feelings about sexual pleasure — sex should feel good!

1 Question That Will Ignite Your Marriage’s Intimacy

"God, show me one way to serve my spouse today, and give me the courage to do what you show me." That's the path to amazing intimacy.
Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She'll Fix My Sexual Lust

Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She’ll Fix My Sexual Lust

Getting married doesn’t give you victory over sexual lust because singleness isn’t what causes lust.
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1 Easy Way to Have a Great Weekend with Your Spouse

It's easy to overcomplicate marriage. Life becomes so busy, important conversations go unspoken, the kids demand every ounce of emotional energy you have, work is...