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6 Tips For Talking About Sex With Your Spouse

Talking about sex is one of the more difficult conversations. It's easier to talk about it with friends than your spouse? Why is that?
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 2 – Affirmation

For Men: Sex Affirmations "I don't understand why Josh is so withdrawn," Lila told Gary during a counseling session.  During the entire session, she had...
between love and desire

The Difference Between Love and Desire

Today's post on the difference between love and desire is another great one from one of our most popular contributors, Gary Thomas. Enjoy! When an...
sex life

Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!

Sometimes circumstances turn our sex life into something negative, but don't despair. It's possible to reset your sex life!
emotional affair

Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
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10 Ways to Kill Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's article about 10 ways to kill intimacy in your marriage comes from our friend Frank. Check out his website to see more resources...
better sex

Want Better Sex? ONE Thing You Must STOP First

Do you want better sex? Is your spouse hungering for better sex, too? If so, what’s the one thing you must STOP first? 
unhappy marriage

10 Bad Habits That Lead to an Unhappy Marriage

We hope you can learn from our mistakes and start today to reverse any of these habits you might have that lead to an unhappy marriage.

Does God Want You to Have Great Sex?

Most of us have been told that great sex is possible. But for many of us, sex is just “meh” or a cause of division instead of unity.
sex

Are You Entitled To a “Good” Sex Life? Maybe Not!

In marriage, one spouse will often need to nurture the sexual desire of the other. Great sex is something you develop, not deserve.
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Bringing Sexy Back to Your Self-Image

Today's post comes from Joy McMillan, author of XES: Why Church Girls Tend to Get it Backwards...And How to Get It Right, and Friend of the Newsletter™...
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
libido

Your Low Libido Doesn’t Have to Stay That Way

Feel like you have no libido–as if it’s in hibernation or something? You’re not alone! This post contains affiliate links. I love talking on the...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 3 – Spiritual Intimacy

For Women: How is tending to your wife’s spiritual side a sexual need? Women all over the country have told us the same thing: "When...
sex matters

Why Sex Matters in Your Marriage

This is a fantastic post from Nancy Houston, a licensed Christian sex therapist, on why sex matters in your marriage and how to please...
motivation

“What’s My Motivation?” 5 Reasons to Improve Your Sex Life

Yup. You know there is an issue. You know the sexual connection with your spouse is waning a bit. Maybe you haven’t had...
boring in bed

Help! My Spouse Thinks I’m Boring In Bed.

What do you do if your husband accuses you of being boring in bed – or when your wife thinks your sex life is boring? Here are four ideas.
its okay to flirt

Why It’s Okay to Flirt

Today's post comes from a new friend of ours here at Thriving Marriages. Brie Gowen wrote a great post recently about why it's still...
wife doesn't want to have sex

10 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

I have a lot of guys who read the blog, and I get tons of emails from guys who tell me your wife doesn't...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
phone addiction

Is Your Phone Addiction Harming Your Sex Life?

25% of respondents said their phone, not their spouse, is the last thing they see at night. There's a phrase for this: phone addiction.

Candace Cameron Bure: Sex Needs to Be Celebrated Within Marriage

“Sex is the blessing of marriage and I hate when Christians are like, ‘No you have to pretend like you never had sex!’”
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Making Time for Making Love

A practical, honest look at the challenges of making time for making love a priority when you have young kids.
golden rule

Why the Golden Rule Doesn’t Work During Sex

If you’re married, we’re sure this will come as no surprise to you: Men and women view sex differently. Very differently.
newlyweds

The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make

I’ve given my life to helping newlyweds prepare start their marriages off right. Here are four common mistakes I see them make.
ingredients to good sex initiation

Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 4 – Initiation

For Men: Initiation In an earlier post, when we discussed a husband’s need for his wife to respond, we said that her resistance to his...
husband really need sex

Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

Does your husband really need sex? In many marriages (but not all), sexual intimacy is very high on a husband’s list. In books like...
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Initiating (and Declining) Sex Without Starting a Fight

For many married couples initiating sex can be an awkward moment that leads to conflict or hurt feelings. They’re not sure what to say. They fear being rejected. This may begin to sound overwhelming, but there are few simple points to keep in mind when initiating sex with your spouse.
inhibitions

Do You Have Too Many or Too Few Sexual Inhibitions?

I’m talking only about scenarios where the inhibitions are a problem. If you and your spouse are fine with how inhibited you are, great!
Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice for men too. #Christianmarriage #Christianhusband #Christianwife #marriageintimacy #prayer

3 Things to Pray For Your Sex Life

Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice...
intimacy men need

The Intimacy Men Need But Don’t Know They Need

A blockbuster quote from a blockbuster book (Unwanted) by Jay Stringer unmasks what I have seen but been unable to describe in marriage about...

An Emotional Affair: How to Guard Your Marriage

Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but also preventable.
intimacy

1 Question That Will Ignite Your Marriage’s Intimacy

"God, show me one way to serve my spouse today, and give me the courage to do what you show me." That's the path to amazing intimacy.
Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She'll Fix My Sexual Lust

Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She’ll Fix My Sexual Lust

Getting married doesn’t give you victory over sexual lust because singleness isn’t what causes lust.
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My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?

What can you do if your spouse watches porn? As you seek authentic intimacy in your marriage, here are a few practical steps to take.
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
porn is tempting

Porn Is Tempting When You’re Isolated. Fight It.

Since COVID-19 the pornography industry has seen a massive increase in website traffic. On March 24th, one major site announced that their...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 5 – Nonsexual touch

For women: Nonsexual Touch Most women need and desire physical touch that does not lead to sex. They need to feel secure that every physical...

6 Signs of Healthy Sexuality

I (Josh) hear regularly from spouses in marriages with a sex life that is abusive, exploitative, unsatisfying, or absent. Today's great post from Gary...
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
beauty

Beauty Is a Blessing, And Seeing It Isn’t A Sin.

There is a major difference between appreciating beauty and lusting, but I fear some are so wounded they can’t allow for such a distinction.
what newlyweds should know about sex

4 Things Newlyweds Should Know About Sex

Today's post about what newlyweds should know about sex comes from our friends at tolovehonorandvacuum.com and guest writer Ngina Otiende. Check out her blog here. As a...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
why do people cheat

Why Do People Cheat in Relationships, And Whose Fault Is It?

If your spouse has an affair, are you partially to blame? Why do people cheat in relationships anyway?  That’s been something I’ve been...
romantic

10 Tips for Becoming a More Romantic Husband

So what is being romantic? Love is a feeling; romance is love in action. Romance is something you do to express the love that you feel.
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If Your Husband Prefers Sleep to Sex Do You Feel Rejected ?

Do you feel rejected when your husband prefers sleep to sex? What's the dynamic where he has a libido, wants sex, but it may not be everyday.
2 ways to add romance to everyday life

2 Ways to Add Romance to Everyday Life

The loss of passionate romance is a common complaint in marriage. It seems that once the confetti and rice are swept away and the...
mismatched sex drives

What To Do When You Have Mismatched Sex Drives

Today's post is from Bonny Logsdon Burns, who writes at OysterBed7.com. Follow Bonny there for more great resources on Christian Marriage, and thanks to Beth...
sex should feel good

Ladies: Sex Should Feel Good For You Too, So Speak Up!

We grow up assuming that good girls don’t talk about sex. We have strong feelings about sexual pleasure — sex should feel good!
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3 Reasons Women Lose Interest In Sex.

Even though sex is a critical part of a healthy and happy marriage, many women are losing interest in intimacy with their husbands.