Jealousy Isn’t Always Unhealthy
Legitimate jealousy guards the heart of a marriage. It comes from your spouse as a warning of potential danger ahead, & you need to listen.
Why People Cheat (and Whose Fault Is It?)
A cheater is solely responsible for the infidelity. Asking "why?" is less important than the cheater acknowledging it was their choice.
3 Lies That Lead to An Affair
If you are frustrated with your marriage and you’re thinking about starting something new, here are three lies that could lead to an affair.
Pornography Really IS Insidious. Here’s Why.
Pornography is powerful, insidious, and addictive.Just a mouse click away, there’s never been greater access to such a destructive evil.
Trust Can Be Rebuilt Over Time. Here’s How.
Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage. How can you learn to trust again?
Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.
But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.
Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are Priceless
I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.
“Submission” Misunderstanding Kills Marriages
If you misunderstand what "submission" is all about, you are headed in the wrong direction and it can kill your marriage.
Watch Your Tone! Say Things In a Way Your Spouse Will Hear
Couples who don't consider the advice of "watch your tone," who are not careful with their communication tone in marriage, can quickly become “tone deaf.”
How To Be Your Spouse’s Biggest Cheerleader
How can you become your spouse’s cheerleader? Start is by applying the “one another” passages of the New Testament in your marriage.
An Emotional Affair: How to Guard Your Marriage
Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but also preventable.
3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage
I had to fight that internal battle to ignore fear and listen to the spirit of love so I could see, “You are not the obstacle in our marriage—you are my partner in overcoming obstacles.”
My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?
What can you do if your spouse watches porn? As you seek authentic intimacy in your marriage, here are a few practical steps to take.
My Husband Won’t Touch Me … Now What?
At one point it felt like my husband did everything not to touch me. Here are four ways we recaptured the magic.
How God’s Purpose for Marriage Will Protect Your Marriage
We should strive to accomplish God's purpose for marriage is given, to us by grace: it reflects Christ’s perfect bond with His church.
Delight: The Secret Ingredient of a Great Marriage
I’m leaning on Teresa to rediscover the joys and fulfillment (not just duty and obligation) of prayer. We can learn how to marshal the positive power of spiritual delight. Teresa is adamant that the only thing that wooed her away from sin were the superior pleasures she enjoyed while communing with God.
3 Obstacles to Forgiveness, And How to Fight Them
Once you identify obstacles to forgiveness, they tend to dissolve and allow you to proceed with your conscious wish to forgive.
Infatuation Is Normal, And An Affair is Preventable.
In a sacred marriage, there’s so much more keeping us together than a momentary emotional storm of infatuation. Don’t take it too seriously.
How to Build Trust in a Marriage
After being married nearly 20 years, Kristen and I work like crazy to be on the same team and to build trust with one another.
Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic
Trying to control someone in marriage, parenting, or the church, is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but takes a stand against control.
Husbands Don’t Need To Be The “Tie-Breaker”
If people are so sure they need a tie-breaker in their marriage, chances are they’ve lived life taking shortcuts to finding a real solution.
How to Forgive Your Spouse After An Affair
An affair does not have to be the end of your marriage. Here's how to forgive your spouse after an affair. It’s difficult, but it can happen.
5 Reasons Why We All Need Christian Community
Good, faithful friends are hard to find, which is why Christian community is so precious, especially for our marriages.
What To Do When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse
Have you ever hurt your spouse in some way? All right, so it’s a trick question. Of course you have hurt your...
Get Out of Debt Fast, With These 10 Steps.
Debt can cause all kinds of stress in a marriage. Have you found yourself feeling hopeless, like there's no way to get...
Married Sex: “How Do I Meet My Husband’s Needs?”
Over the past few months, we’ve been digging into the married sex needs of husbands and wives – and how you can...
Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David
David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
Adultery Is Alarmingly Common, But It Doesn’t Have to Happen to You.
For men and women, adultery begins in the heart. And for men particularly, it begins when the heart is not guarded against...
We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?
A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
Silence Isn’t Always Golden. Your Marriage Needs Your Voice
While today's fantastic post from Pure Couples is written to women, this is something that applies to everyone. A marriage needs the...
The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them
The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
A Marriage That Can’t Forgive, Won’t Survive
Miranda had been spending money on a secret credit card for months. She hid receipts, she removed price tags, she sometimes even...
Are Finances Supposed to Be the Man’s Job?
Q: My husband is terrible at handling the finances because he hates paperwork. I like to take care of the bills, but...
6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day
You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!
Steve meets Michelle.
They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation.
For our story...
6 Powerful Ways to Fight Off Fear
Today's post about how to fight off fear is from The Love and Life Toolbox isn't directly about marriage, but it is...
5 Easy Ways to Stop Fighting With Your Spouse
Stop fighting with your spouse…if only it were so simple!
Let’s face it…communication is very complex.
Why So Many Christian Marriages Are Missing Great Sex
Sex has the potential to be the most profoundly satisfying and rich part of a marriage. Sex the way God intended it...
6 Ways to Make Your Marriage Last a Lifetime
Want to know how to make your marriage last a lifetime? The Christian life is a marathon, not a sprint. What’s the...
An Extramarital Affair Is Always Intentional
Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every extramarital affair is...
The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust
Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
It’s Not a Fight About Money, It’s a Battle For Your Marriage’s Soul
If your marriage is at all like mine, money is a regular conversation and - sometimes - a source of tension. What I like...
Can Marriage Survive When the Unthinkable Happens?
Today's post from Intimacy in Marriage is real, and raw, and a gruelingly painful description of a marriage fighting to survive the death of...
How to Protect Your Marriage from Temptation
Today's post from our long-time friends at America's Family Coaches is a great reminder that steering a marriage away from temptation takes intentionality. Which...
Don’t Be the Bubble-Buster in Your Marriage
Today's post comes from new Friend of the Newsletter ™ Gary Thomas. Gary is a well-known author and speaker about marriage and when you...
The 1 Emotional Skill Most Needed in Your Marriage
Today's post from our friends at Connected Marriage. In addition to marriage advice, they also provide certification to become a marriage mentor. Check out...
5 Ways Being a Submissive Wife Changed My Marriage
As you probably know, when it comes to the theology of marriage - and specifically the Biblical roles of a husband and wife -...
How to Stop Being a Control Freak
This article about how to stop being a control freak is from our friends over at America's Family Coaches. Check out the great work...
3 Steps Toward Restoring Trust in Your Marriage
Fear and love are enemies. Nowhere do we see this clearer than when betrayal has torn a connection apart, and two hurting people are...
1 Hard Habit That Will Transform Your Marriage
If we want transformed lives and a transformed marriage, we need to confess our sins to each other regularly. Confession is simply an honest,...