Jealousy Isn’t Always Unhealthy
You feel jealousy when you experience the unpleasant sensation of a rival. No matter how much your spouse may attempt to reassure...
3 Types of Conflict in Marriage, And The Danger of Confusing Them
There is no one-size-fits-all for dealing with marriage problems, because not all types of conflict are alike.
This month, our Wednesday series is...
Words Hurt, So Don’t Say Everything You Think.
Words hurt, deeply. Check out this verse from the Bible:
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the...
4 Great Tips on How to Build Trust in a Relationship
TRUST IS THE GLUE THAT HOLDS MARRIAGES TOGETHER.
Trust provides an emotional safety net to share your deepest struggles, fears, feelings and desires...
It’s Not About Fighting Fair. It’s About Giving Up on “Fairness” Altogether.
SOME SAY, "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR" - BUT IN MY OPINION, THAT ACTUALLY ISN'T TRUE.
If you really sit down...
3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage
The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
How To Save Your Marriage When Your Life Is In Crisis
Have you ever been in a season where you feel like the "light at the end of the tunnel" will never come...
Watch Your Tone! Say Things In a Way Your Spouse Will Hear
When it comes to communication, even more important than words is the tone that accompanies them. You’ve most likely heard the phrase,...
7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!
Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having?
A: Many...
Why Do People Cheat in Relationships, And Whose Fault Is It?
If your spouse has an affair, are you partially to blame? Why do people cheat in relationships anyway?
That’s been something I’ve been...
Avoiding Conflict Can Ruin a Marriage. Here’s Why.
Do you have a tendency toward avoiding conflict or negative emotions in your marriage? If so, this post is for you. Make...
How to Fight Fair: 25 Tips for Better Arguments
Everyone has fights in their marriage, but not everyone knows how to fight. Not all conflict is created equal: some conflict brings...
How to Forgive Your Spouse After An Affair
An affair does not have to be the end of your marriage. Here's how to forgive your spouse after an affair.
Q: We’ve...
“I’m Sorry” Can Make All the Difference In Your Marriage
You know things are “off” between you. That cutting remark still stings. Time passes with a promise unfulfilled for another day. Loyalties are...
Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same Thing. Here’s Why That Matters.
I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage,...
3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage
A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
Reasons For Divorce: The 4 Most Toxic Traits of a Marriage
No one intends to get married with the goal of ending it all. Yet 50% of all couples tying the knot this...
Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time
Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
“Never Surrender.” Don’t Give Up, Your Marriage Can Thrive For a Lifetime.
A divorce lawyer recently posted an article arguing that the vow “till death do us part” is passé, unrealistic, and needs to...
About to Lose Your Cool? Here’s How to Have Self Control During an Argument
I hear stories all the time about how couples have lost it in an argument.
One of them hears something that triggers their...
What to Do When the Command “Don’t Let the Sun Go Down On Your...
There’s a phrase that we hear often that goes like this: “don’t let the sun go down on your anger.” Or: “don’t...
The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...
Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
Your Parents’ Divorce Doesn’t Mean You’re Doomed to Get Divorced Too.
Q: I want to get married, but my parents had a terrible marriage and got divorced. Does my parents' divorce mean my...
Men, Emotional Intimacy Might Not Come As Easy For Us, But It’s Something We...
For Part 4 in this series on marital intimacy, I’m writing again about emotional intimacy. Often when we think of intimacy our...
“I’m Faithfully Following Jesus, So Why Is My Marriage Still Such a Mess?”
I recently met with a friend who shared openly with me about her struggles in marriage. “It’s like living with a robot!...
Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25
We have all read it...
“Why Am I So Angry?” How to Discover What’s Really Behind This Potentially Destructive...
Did you know that anger is actually a secondary emotion? This means that at the core of everything you’re feeling, your anger...
Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward
The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...
Love Is a Choice, Especially When You’re Not Feeling It.
When my wife and I were going through marriage problems, the last thing that I wanted to hear was love is a...
Want to Know How to Resolve Conflict With Your Spouse? Turn It Into a...
Now that we’re empty nesters, Lisa travels with me on most of my trips, at least the pleasant ones.
Winnipeg in February?
Pass.
New York...
Issues With the In-Laws? Maybe You Need to Create Some Healthy Boundaries. Here’s How.
It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But...
The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Why Most of Our Fights Start in Our Imagination...
In her recent Netflix special author, researcher, and all-around national treasure Brené Brown describes an argument she had with her husband. They were...
Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.
When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit) someone else.
While they may have...
Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.
What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage.
I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...
It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail
It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is...
How to Ask For What You Need Without Arguing
Sometimes you just have to ask your husband for what you need!
I’ve been talking all month about how to change the dynamic...
Angry? The Right Question To Ask Isn’t “What?” But “Why?”
In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. –Psalm 4:4
Recently, I had...
What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?
Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
The Greatest Gift Marriage Offers Us Isn’t What You Think
Today's post from Gary Thomas is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We think marriage is a place to receive...
Accept Your Spouse As They Are, Even When Who They Are Changes
People change. Very few of us have the same figure or physique we had on our wedding day as we walked down...
Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s The Reason Why.
The scene is a couple driving in the car on the way to dinner:
Silence for several minutes.
“What’s wrong?”
“Nothing.”
A few more minutes of...
Bids for Connection: The Tool This Expert Says Is the Secret to Great...
It’s not big, blow out fights that wreck a marriage. It’s how we treat each other day to day. And that’s why...
Messy v. Neat Freak: How to Navigate the Cleanliness War In Your Marriage
Q: One of us is very neat, but the other is very messy. How can we keep from driving each other crazy?
A:...
Tone Deaf: Is What You’re Saying Hidden By How You’re Saying It?
I've said this several times, but Doug Fields is both a ludicrously gifted communicator and a very kind mentor and friend of...
Initiating (and Declining) Sex Without Starting a Fight
For many married couples initiating sex can be an awkward moment that leads to conflict or hurt feelings. They’re not sure what...
Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!
I don’t know about you, but I often overlook the Lord’s eternal perspective. He sees all of time, from beginning to end,...
The Only “Fair” Marriage Is When Both Spouses Give 100 Percent.
Happily married Eric and Jill climbed out of bed at their normal Saturday morning hour. They had a lot to do around...
Self-Righteousness is Satan’s Favorite Attack Against Your Marriage. Here’s What You Can Do About...
What if one of the most dangerous attitudes for believers is self-righteousness?
What if it’s possible to be “right” and toxic at the...
Does Your Sex Life Feel Broken? You Can Always Rebuild It! Here’s How.
Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?”
What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
Want to Stop a Fight Before It Starts? Here’s How!
Do you sometimes feel the frustration simmering below the surface? Can you sense there might be an argument brewing? Let us encourage...