help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s Why.

In married life we can misread and overstep our bounds. Even when this is under the umbrella of trying to help, beware of overreaching.
accept your spouse

Accept Your Spouse As They Are, Even With Changes

In whatever ways you and your spouse change with age, one thing about you should never change: that you accept your spouse just as they are.
broken trust

Can Broken Trust Can Be Restored?

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How can you learn to heal? You’re going to need to rebuild your marriage from the bottom up.
marriage

How Married Do You Want to Be?

I want my wife to feel loved. I want us to feel connected, together, one. So let me ask you, how married do you want to be?
husband share his emotions

How to Get Your Husband to Share His Emotions

It's tough for your husband to share his emotions with you. Here's how to help your "tough dude" to open up at home.
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

I had to fight that internal battle to ignore fear and listen to the spirit of love so I could see, “You are not the obstacle in our marriage—you are my partner in overcoming obstacles.” 
fighting fair

7 Rules for Fighting Fair

I’ve come to recognize that what works for one couple won’t work for another couple. Everyone must create their own rules for fighting fair.
sex life

Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!

Sometimes circumstances turn our sex life into something negative, but don't despair. It's possible to reset your sex life!
initiating

Initiating (and Declining) Sex Without Starting a Fight

For many married couples initiating sex can be an awkward moment that leads to conflict or hurt feelings. They’re not sure what to say. They fear being rejected. This may begin to sound overwhelming, but there are few simple points to keep in mind when initiating sex with your spouse.
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

In the same way that I am benefited by reminding myself of God’s eternal perspective – I must remember that my husband also offers me a unique perspective that I shouldn’t so quickly dismiss.
100 percent

“Fair” Marriage = Both Spouses Give 100 Percent

The 50/50 marriage is an arrangement of trade-offs and compromises, with spouses keeping score so one person never gets more or gives more than the other. Serving and submitting to one another are replaced by an emphasis on getting what is rightfully yours. Marriages only work when each spouse is giving 100 percent.
fight

Want to Stop a Fight Before It Starts? Here’s How!

Can you sense there might be a fight brewing? Let us encourage you: You can stop a fight before it even starts! Here’s how: 
stinking thinking

8 Stinking Thinking Thoughts That Hurt Relationships

When I started to recognize the stinking thinking that I entertained, I was able to work on replacing them with thoughts that were true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable excellent and praiseworthy.
I'm sorry

“I’m Sorry” Can Make All the Difference In Your Marriage

Today, it might feel like a thick wall is dividing you and your spouse. No one is willing to tear down the first brick to come together. But the truth is, you hold a weighty sledgehammer in your hand. Use the power of saying "I'm sorry" to break through to one another again.
newlyweds

The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make

I’ve given my life to helping newlyweds prepare start their marriages off right. Here are four common mistakes I see them make.

How to Stop a Financial Fight Before it Starts

This is an excerpt from Cherie and Brian Lowe’s  book, Your Money, Your Marriage, about how to avoid a financial fight. 

Stressed Out Spouse: 10 Ways to Help

Ever feel like your stressed out spouse is short with you? What are you going to do to help your spouse through stress? Here are 10 keys.
arguments

What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?

What if the arguments you had with your spouse was broadcast out for others to hear? What if every disagreement with you and your spouse was broadcast on Facebook live for all the world to see and hear?
spouse

Are You Always Irritated at Your Spouse?

Are you always irritated with your spouse? Funny how some things that attracted you to your lovely spouse now drive you up the wall.
negative emotion

Negative Emotion is Vital For a Healthy Relationship

An intolerance of OTHERS’ negative emotion is precluded by an intolerance of our own negative emotion. This dynamic is a marriage killer.
forgiveness

6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.

The power to forgive in marriage ultimately comes from God. And what you may not realize is there are some myths about forgiveness.
angry

Angry? Don’t Ask “What?” But “Why?”

The default question most angry people ask is, “What?” What triggered my anger? But, that’s too easy and too general.
it's not about the nail

It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail

It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is the other side of the argument that video is making. Sometimes, it IS about the nail. But even if you don't know what I'm talking about, this is worth your time to read. Enjoy!
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I believe this is a symptom of a deeper problem.
christian marriage

7 Christian Marriage Myths. Does #3 Surprise You?

The hard truth about a Christian marriage is that your marriage will not be perfect just because you’re Christians. Don't buy these myths.
disguise

Take Off The Disguise When You’re With Your Spouse

I do it because wearing a disguise is comfortable and easy, while being real requires vulnerability. Being real requires courage and risk.
imperfect

How to Unconditionally Love An Imperfect Spouse

The call to cherish your wife or husband is a call to respond in an understanding way to a sometimes imperfect and even unhealthy spouse.
forgiveness myths

Forgiveness Myths: 5 That Keep Spouses Apart

There are a number of misconceptions that get in the way of the healing process.Look at these 5 forgiveness myths. Any sound familiar?
little annoyances

How to Minimize Marriage’s Little Annoyances.

Here’s the truth: the chances are very high that some of these little annoyances your spouse does, won’t ever change. So what do you do?
parents' divorce

Your Parents’ Divorce Doesn’t Mean You’re Doomed to Get Divorced Too.

You may be more tempted to consider divorce as an option because you’ve seen your parents' divorce, but don’t do it. Break the pattern of divorce, give your kids what you didn’t have, and above all learn to work everything out together.
obstacles to forgiveness

3 Obstacles to Forgiveness, And How to Fight Them

Once you identify obstacles to forgiveness, they tend to dissolve and allow you to proceed with your conscious wish to forgive.
anger

Is It Way Too Easy for Your Husband to Push Your Anger Button?

If we want to get emotionally healthy, with ourselves and with others, we need to be willing to go below the surface of our anger.
little annoyances

Don’t Let Little Annoyances Become Huge Problems

Identifying little annoyances allows you to train yourself to let them go, and refuse to give them power over your attitude.
high sex drive

10 Questions High Sex Drive Spouses Should Ask

Are you the high sex drive husband, and you’re wondering what to do because your wife rarely wants sex? Here are 10 questions you should ask.

All Marriage is Difficult – Here’s Why

If my wife and I have learned one thing in our marriage, it is how to sin against each other. This is why marriage is difficult -- for everyone.
change

Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

God has not called you to change your wife. Instead, He has commanded you to love her as Christ loves the church.
healing

Healing From Your Past Is Hard. It’s Also Worth It.

Often the familiarity of bondage is more appealing than the fear and pain of deliverance. Sometimes healing is more scary than hurting.
fresh start

It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start.

Let me share some good news. It doesn’t matter what age you are; a fresh start is possible for everything and everybody. Even your marriage.
control

Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic

Trying to control someone in marriage, parenting, or the church, is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but takes a stand against control.
stop being a doormat

How (and When) to Stop Being a Doormat

Sometimes we get in a rut in marriage where we actually hurt our spouses because we enable sin. Sometimes we need to learn how to stop being a doormat.
fighting about money

Stop Fighting About Money – 10 Ways Forward

Fighting about money is the number one predictor of divorce, so having a game plan going into financial discussions is a crucial part of a healthy marriage. Discover more about ways to stop fighting about money.
confrontation in marriage

How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

In confrontation in marriage, this rule of thumb has proved itself to be true over and over again: The one who listens the best first wins. 

The Surprising Secret for Marital Satisfaction

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas, who offers what might be a surprising spiritual secret for marital satisfaction. 
stay

Staying Power: 5 Signs Your Marriage Will Make It

People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage has staying power? Sometimes it can be hard to tell, but here are 5 keys.
reconciliation

Ruthlessly Pursue Reconciliation With Your Spouse

This isn’t just about our marriage; it’s about our discipleship before God. Ruthlessly pursuing reconciliation is a command from Jesus.
mental load

Husbands, Help Carry Your Wife’s Mental Load.

Women’s mental load is not a problem with men as much as it is a problem with the way our whole culture sees the responsibilities of women.
angry

Angry Spouses: Here’s 1 Way To Change Today.

The goal in confronting anger is to bring the relationship to a place of healing that will help you feel accepted and connected again.
how to fight

How to Fight Fair: 25 Tips for Better Arguments

Everyone has fights in their marriage, but not everyone knows how to fight. Not all conflict is created equal: some conflict brings you closer together while some leaves you farther apart. So how do you fight fair in your marriage? How do you fight in a way that leaves you more bonded, connected, and in love? 
family origin impacts marriage

How Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage Now

Whether you're familiar with the term or not, your family origin impacts marriage in critical ways, for good or bad. Find out how.

“O Holy Fight.” Navigating Conflict this Christmas

Following these 3 principles of conflict resolution can turn your marital fight into opportunities for relational growth.