Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s Why.
In married life we can misread and overstep our bounds. Even when this is under the umbrella of trying to help, beware of overreaching.
Accept Your Spouse As They Are, Even With Changes
In whatever ways you and your spouse change with age, one thing about you should never change: that you accept your spouse just as they are.
Can Broken Trust Can Be Restored?
Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How can you learn to heal? You’re going to need to rebuild your marriage from the bottom up.
How Married Do You Want to Be?
I want my wife to feel loved. I want us to feel connected, together, one. So let me ask you, how married do you want to be?
How to Get Your Husband to Share His Emotions
It's tough for your husband to share his emotions with you. Here's how to help your "tough dude" to open up at home.
3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage
I had to fight that internal battle to ignore fear and listen to the spirit of love so I could see, “You are not the obstacle in our marriage—you are my partner in overcoming obstacles.”
7 Rules for Fighting Fair
I’ve come to recognize that what works for one couple won’t work for another couple. Everyone must create their own rules for fighting fair.
Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!
Sometimes circumstances turn our sex life into something negative, but don't despair. It's possible to reset your sex life!
Initiating (and Declining) Sex Without Starting a Fight
For many married couples initiating sex can be an awkward moment that leads to conflict or hurt feelings. They’re not sure what to say. They fear being rejected. This may begin to sound overwhelming, but there are few simple points to keep in mind when initiating sex with your spouse.
Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!
In the same way that I am benefited by reminding myself of God’s eternal perspective – I must remember that my husband also offers me a unique perspective that I shouldn’t so quickly dismiss.
“Fair” Marriage = Both Spouses Give 100 Percent
The 50/50 marriage is an arrangement of trade-offs and compromises, with spouses keeping score so one person never gets more or gives more than the other. Serving and submitting to one another are replaced by an emphasis on getting what is rightfully yours. Marriages only work when each spouse is giving 100 percent.
Want to Stop a Fight Before It Starts? Here’s How!
Can you sense there might be a fight brewing? Let us encourage you: You can stop a fight before it even starts! Here’s how:
8 Stinking Thinking Thoughts That Hurt Relationships
When I started to recognize the stinking thinking that I entertained, I was able to work on replacing them with thoughts that were true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable excellent and praiseworthy.
“I’m Sorry” Can Make All the Difference In Your Marriage
Today, it might feel like a thick wall is dividing you and your spouse. No one is willing to tear down the first brick to come together. But the truth is, you hold a weighty sledgehammer in your hand. Use the power of saying "I'm sorry" to break through to one another again.
The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make
I’ve given my life to helping newlyweds prepare start their marriages off right. Here are four common mistakes I see them make.
How to Stop a Financial Fight Before it Starts
This is an excerpt from Cherie and Brian Lowe’s book, Your Money, Your Marriage, about how to avoid a financial fight.
Stressed Out Spouse: 10 Ways to Help
Ever feel like your stressed out spouse is short with you? What are you going to do to help your spouse through stress? Here are 10 keys.
What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?
What if the arguments you had with your spouse was broadcast out for others to hear? What if every disagreement with you and your spouse was broadcast on Facebook live for all the world to see and hear?
Are You Always Irritated at Your Spouse?
Are you always irritated with your spouse? Funny how some things that attracted you to your lovely spouse now drive you up the wall.
Negative Emotion is Vital For a Healthy Relationship
An intolerance of OTHERS’ negative emotion is precluded by an intolerance of our own negative emotion. This dynamic is a marriage killer.
6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.
The power to forgive in marriage ultimately comes from God. And what you may not realize is there are some myths about forgiveness.
Angry? Don’t Ask “What?” But “Why?”
The default question most angry people ask is, “What?” What triggered my anger? But, that’s too easy and too general.
It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail
It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is the other side of the argument that video is making. Sometimes, it IS about the nail. But even if you don't know what I'm talking about, this is worth your time to read. Enjoy!
Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.
What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I believe this is a symptom of a deeper problem.
7 Christian Marriage Myths. Does #3 Surprise You?
The hard truth about a Christian marriage is that your marriage will not be perfect just because you’re Christians. Don't buy these myths.
Take Off The Disguise When You’re With Your Spouse
I do it because wearing a disguise is comfortable and easy, while being real requires vulnerability. Being real requires courage and risk.
How to Unconditionally Love An Imperfect Spouse
The call to cherish your wife or husband is a call to respond in an understanding way to a sometimes imperfect and even unhealthy spouse.
Forgiveness Myths: 5 That Keep Spouses Apart
There are a number of misconceptions that get in the way of the healing process.Look at these 5 forgiveness myths. Any sound familiar?
How to Minimize Marriage’s Little Annoyances.
Here’s the truth: the chances are very high that some of these little annoyances your spouse does, won’t ever change. So what do you do?
Your Parents’ Divorce Doesn’t Mean You’re Doomed to Get Divorced Too.
You may be more tempted to consider divorce as an option because you’ve seen your parents' divorce, but don’t do it. Break the pattern of divorce, give your kids what you didn’t have, and above all learn to work everything out together.
3 Obstacles to Forgiveness, And How to Fight Them
Once you identify obstacles to forgiveness, they tend to dissolve and allow you to proceed with your conscious wish to forgive.
Is It Way Too Easy for Your Husband to Push Your Anger Button?
If we want to get emotionally healthy, with ourselves and with others, we need to be willing to go below the surface of our anger.
Don’t Let Little Annoyances Become Huge Problems
Identifying little annoyances allows you to train yourself to let them go, and refuse to give them power over your attitude.
10 Questions High Sex Drive Spouses Should Ask
Are you the high sex drive husband, and you’re wondering what to do because your wife rarely wants sex? Here are 10 questions you should ask.
All Marriage is Difficult – Here’s Why
If my wife and I have learned one thing in our marriage, it is how to sin against each other. This is why marriage is difficult -- for everyone.
Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife
God has not called you to change your wife. Instead, He has commanded you to love her as Christ loves the church.
Healing From Your Past Is Hard. It’s Also Worth It.
Often the familiarity of bondage is more appealing than the fear and pain of deliverance. Sometimes healing is more scary than hurting.
It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start.
Let me share some good news. It doesn’t matter what age you are; a fresh start is possible for everything and everybody. Even your marriage.
Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic
Trying to control someone in marriage, parenting, or the church, is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but takes a stand against control.
How (and When) to Stop Being a Doormat
Sometimes we get in a rut in marriage where we actually hurt our spouses because we enable sin. Sometimes we need to learn how to stop being a doormat.
Stop Fighting About Money – 10 Ways Forward
Fighting about money is the number one predictor of divorce, so having a game plan going into financial discussions is a crucial part of a healthy marriage. Discover more about ways to stop fighting about money.
How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage
In confrontation in marriage, this rule of thumb has proved itself to be true over and over again: The one who listens the best first wins.
The Surprising Secret for Marital Satisfaction
Today's post comes from Gary Thomas, who offers what might be a surprising spiritual secret for marital satisfaction.
Staying Power: 5 Signs Your Marriage Will Make It
People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage has staying power? Sometimes it can be hard to tell, but here are 5 keys.
Ruthlessly Pursue Reconciliation With Your Spouse
This isn’t just about our marriage; it’s about our discipleship before God. Ruthlessly pursuing reconciliation is a command from Jesus.
Husbands, Help Carry Your Wife’s Mental Load.
Women’s mental load is not a problem with men as much as it is a problem with the way our whole culture sees the responsibilities of women.
Angry Spouses: Here’s 1 Way To Change Today.
The goal in confronting anger is to bring the relationship to a place of healing that will help you feel accepted and connected again.
How to Fight Fair: 25 Tips for Better Arguments
Everyone has fights in their marriage, but not everyone knows how to fight. Not all conflict is created equal: some conflict brings you closer together while some leaves you farther apart. So how do you fight fair in your marriage? How do you fight in a way that leaves you more bonded, connected, and in love?
How Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage Now
Whether you're familiar with the term or not, your family origin impacts marriage in critical ways, for good or bad. Find out how.
“O Holy Fight.” Navigating Conflict this Christmas
Following these 3 principles of conflict resolution can turn your marital fight into opportunities for relational growth.