third

Husbands, You Come Third On Your Wife’s List of Priorities

One of the most frequent requests I get is to write a book specifically for husbands. The reason I haven’t done that...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Needs to Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...

How to Find Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse While Raising Kids

Finding times of spiritual connection is hard in marriage no matter what, but once you have kids it can seem near impossible. Today's post...
discouragement

How To Find The Other Side of Discouragement.

Have you ever faced a difficult season only to have friends tell you to trust in God? While you know their advice...
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How to Have More Love in Your Marriage

Marriage is hard, but that doesn't mean it's always complicated. As we head into the weekend here's one simple thought for your marriage: how...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
toxic

Toxic People Can Poison a Fruitful Marriage

When I start writing a book, I wear the hat of an explorer. I have a general destination in mind, but I...
following Jesus

“I’m Faithfully Following Jesus, So Why Is My Marriage Still Such a Mess?”

I recently met with a friend who shared openly with me about her struggles in marriage. “It’s like living with a robot!...
4 steps to forgiveness

4 Steps to Forgiveness

My wife and I went on a much-needed date night last night and - after 15 minutes of looking at each other and wondering...
sexual pleasure

God Cares About Sexual Pleasure In Your Marriage.

God cares about your sex life. It may seem weird to see the words God and sex in the same sentence. Sometimes when I teach women...
Valentine's Day

The Sexiest Thing You Can Wear This Valentine’s Day

On Valentine’s Day, perhaps millions of men will get to see their wives wearing something they’ve never worn before and the husbands...
inject

Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.

There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh...
forgive

A Marriage That Can’t Forgive, Won’t Survive

Miranda had been spending money on a secret credit card for months. She hid receipts, she removed price tags, she sometimes even...
avoid marital heart attack

How to Avoid a Marital “Heart Attack”

One of the most significant, and hardest, parts of my marriage has been dealing with my past. Like so, so, so many people I...
spiritual intimacy

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse

Developing spiritual intimacy as a couple is very similar to developing other important life disciplines. All disciplines require time, focus, and energy....
self-righteousness

Self-Righteousness is Satan’s Favorite Attack Against Your Marriage. Here’s What You Can Do About...

What if one of the most dangerous attitudes for believers is self-righteousness? What if it’s possible to be “right” and toxic at the...
past

Your Past Can Be a Benefit, Not a Barrier, In Your Sex Life

In our house, we like this show called Impossible Engineering. It’s documentary style and the basic premise is they look at a phenomenal...
marriage under spiritual attack

Is Your Marriage Under Spiritual Attack?

Is your marriage under spiritual attack? We don't talk very often about the spiritual warfare marriages face, but it's very real, and very important....
husbands

Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my...
self care

Self-Care is Not Selfish. It’s Vital For Your Marriage.

Suffering is life’s greatest teacher. I don’t know why this is true. But it is. For the last five-plus years, I have...
change

Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

I’ve been asked several times, “Gary, what do you do when Sacred Marriage doesn’t work?” At first, I was confused by the question....
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Affair-Proof Your Marriage: emotional amnesia

This is part 3 of a series called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage.” While each week can stand alone, here are part 1 and...
marriage

The Two Words that Will Kill a Marriage: “I deserve”

This past weekend the pastor at the church I attended was speaking about God's grace, and how everything at that (or really any) church...
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed–or only one. Mary has...
control

Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic

Trying to control someone—in marriage, parenting, the church, or government—is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but it takes a strong stand against control. If...
forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the Core of Every Happy Marriage

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me?...
obstacles

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
if only

What To Do With The “If Only” Regrets of Life

While this post only indirectly talks about marriage, it's a GREAT marriage tool. What do we do with the "if only" moments...
significance

Search For Significance, Not Others’ Ideas of Success

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rules of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials...

How to Survive When Your Marriage is Under Attack

Today's post comes from Live Your Best Marriage. In a few weeks my husband and I will celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary. It’s been an exciting...
integrity

Should You Bring It Up, Or Let It Go?

For most of my marriage, I’ve had this question, that I just COULDN’T puzzle out. It is this: when...
7 prayers for a struggling marriage

7 Prayers for a Struggling Marriage

While not every marriage is struggling right this moment, nearly all marriages hit crisis moments at some point in time. Today's post from Elizabeth...

The Magic Question That Will Change Your Marriage

This is the fifth post in an ongoing series from Gary Thomas featuring the message of Loving Him Well: Practical Advice on Influencing Your Husband. Since...
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The New Year’s Resolution That Will Save Your Marriage

I've never liked New Year's Resolutions. There are already about 18 current areas I want to improve in, so adding something to that list...
strong marriage

You Have a Strong Marriage, When You’re Doing This Together.

I first fell in love with my wife during a conversation about an ex-girlfriend. Granted, this "ex" was a girl I dated...
grateful

The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
serving

Your Day Isn’t Complete Until You’ve Served Your Spouse

The way Lisa treats me might make some young women nauseous, because she serves me like we’re living in a 1950s sitcom....
spiritual intimacy

7 Tips for Increasing the Spiritual Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's post comes from our friends over at Homeword. They have a lot of great resources, especially for parents, so give their site a...

When a Pregnancy Doesn’t Go As Planned

I was so impressed by Katie Westenberg's post yesterday I went to her site - I Choose Brave - and found her four part blog...
forgiven

A Healthy Marriage Flows From a Forgiven Past

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners–and I was the worst of them all. But that is why God had...
shame

Shame Doesn’t Get the Last Word In Your Marriage

I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood...
surrender

Surrender to the Reality That Marriage Isn’t Easy

Several years ago, I met with a spiritual mentor with whom I shared an ongoing battle with a particular sin. We had...
accountability partner

Why You Should Have An Accountability Partner

Can I contradict the title of this post in the first sentence? #BadBloggingHabit I don’t like the word “accountability partner” any more than I like...
forgiveness and trust

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...

4 Ways to Provide the Spiritual Intimacy Your Wife Craves

Spiritual intimacy in my (Josh's) marriage has always been tough. It's the most vulnerable part of me, and opening that up to my wife...
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The Danger of ‘Choice Paralysis’ When Your Marriage is Struggling

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas and is an adaptation from his new book Loving Him Well: Practical Advice for Influencing Your Husband. While the...
communication

Communication is a Kind of Communion

There’s no doubt about it: Communication is vital in marriage. When couples don’t share their lives and hearts with each other consistently, the atmosphere in...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
spiritual intimacy

Spiritual Intimacy Can Feel Scary. Here’s 4 Reasons It’s Worth It.

Eight years in to marriage there are still some things I refuse to do with my wife. I refuse to use the...