first wedding

My First Wedding: “Three for Eternity, Please.”

I officiated my first wedding and realized that the best seat is when you get to stand before the bride and groom and do the service.
spiritual intimacy

Spiritual Intimacy Can Feel Scary. Here’s 4 Reasons It’s Worth It.

Eight years in to marriage there are still some things I refuse to do with my wife. I refuse to use the...
fresh start

It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
what vacation reveal about marriage

What a Vacation Reveals About Your Marriage

Today's post from Gary Thomas begins talking about vacations before transitioning to something way more universal ... and convicting. There isn't a marriage that...
forgiveness and trust

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...

The #1 Marriage Killer … and How to Get Rid of It

Over the years, we’ve heard many sad stories from people. A lot of these people were on the brink of separation or divorce, or...
boundaries in marriage

Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David

David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
past

Your Past Can Be a Benefit, Not a Barrier, In Your Sex Life

In our house, we like this show called Impossible Engineering. It’s documentary style and the basic premise is they look at a phenomenal...
what is love agape

What Is Love? (and why are we so bad at it?)

Back in 1993 the band Haddaway released a dance track called "What is Love?" You might remember it from this old SNL skit. The...
forgive

A Marriage That Can’t Forgive, Won’t Survive

Miranda had been spending money on a secret credit card for months. She hid receipts, she removed price tags, she sometimes even...
integrity

Should You Bring It Up, Or Let It Go?

For most of my marriage, I’ve had this question, that I just COULDN’T puzzle out. It is this: when...
Christian marriage

The 1 Thing Your Christian Marriage Needs More Than Passion

Your Christian marriage needs this more than passion. One thought from Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance struck me as...
significance

Search For Significance, Not Others’ Ideas of Success

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rules of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials...

How to Survive When Your Marriage is Under Attack

Today's post comes from Live Your Best Marriage. In a few weeks my husband and I will celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary. It’s been an exciting...
anxiety

Anxiety Doesn’t Always Win: Finding Joy In Stress

Anxiety plagues many of us, stealing our peace of mind, but also inserting itself into our marriages. And that can cause some real...
Valentine's Day

The Sexiest Thing You Can Wear This Valentine’s Day

On Valentine’s Day, perhaps millions of men will get to see their wives wearing something they’ve never worn before and the husbands...
Christmas gift

The Best Christmas Gift You Can Give Your Spouse

“But the angel said to them, ‘Don’t be afraid, for look, I proclaim to you good news of great joy that will...
vision for your family

Do You Have a Vision for Your Family?

You may have an idea of what your ideal family would look like, but do you truly have a vision for your family -- its purpose?
pain

Don’t Waste the Pain of a Difficult Season

Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in...
relational revelation

The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the Core of Every Happy Marriage

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me?...
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed–or only one. Mary has...
how to love

The Greatest Gift Marriage Offers Us Isn’t What You Think

Today's post from Gary Thomas is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We think marriage is a place to receive...
forgiven

A Healthy Marriage Flows From a Forgiven Past

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners–and I was the worst of them all. But that is why God had...

Why Facing Your Past May Save Your Marriage’s Future

Today's post from Kay Bruner is a topic I (Josh) am particularly passionate about. Trauma I experienced in MY past nearly wrecked my marriage, and...
marriage biggest flaw

Why You’re Overlooking Your Marriage’s Biggest Flaw

When we forget that evil exists within our own hearts; indeed, when we stop ordering our thinking and feeling around God and begin to...
out of debt

Get Out of Debt Fast, With These 10 Steps.

Debt can cause all kinds of stress in a marriage. Have you found yourself feeling hopeless, like there's no way to get...
strong marriage

You Have a Strong Marriage, When You’re Doing This Together.

I first fell in love with my wife during a conversation about an ex-girlfriend. Granted, this "ex" was a girl I dated...
husbands

Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

When the Bible tells husbands to love their wives like Christ loves the church, it’s calling us to an initiating, reaching-out love.

A Magic Question That Might Change Your Marriage

Sometimes a better marriage is closer than you think. Listen to Rich and Pat's story, and the power of one simple magic question. Although Rich...
choice paralysis struggling marriage

The Danger of ‘Choice Paralysis’ When Your Marriage is Struggling

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas and is an adaptation from his new book Loving Him Well: Practical Advice for Influencing Your Husband. While the...
trinity in marriage

Finding the Trinity in Your Marriage

The more I learn about God, the more convinced I am that intimacy is at the core of human existence. We are made, first and...

5 Steps to Freedom from Shame

When I was in elementary school, I was molested by a family member. That same family member introduced me to porn for the first...
surrender

Surrender to the Reality That Marriage Isn’t Easy

Several years ago, I met with a spiritual mentor with whom I shared an ongoing battle with a particular sin. We had...
importance of leaving for sake of marriage

The Importance of “Leaving” for the Sake of Your Marriage

Mark: Yesterday at church, our pastor, Mike Baker, preached on Genesis 12:1-9. It’s the story of when God told Abram he needed to leave where...

When a Pregnancy Doesn’t Go As Planned

I was so impressed by Katie Westenberg's post yesterday I went to her site - I Choose Brave - and found her four part blog...
new year resolution for marriage

The New Year’s Resolution That Will Save Your Marriage

I've never liked New Year's Resolutions. There are already about 18 current areas I want to improve in, so adding something to that list...
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
shame

Shame Doesn’t Get the Last Word In Your Marriage

I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood...
self care

Self-Care is Not Selfish. It’s Vital For Your Marriage.

Suffering is life’s greatest teacher. I don’t know why this is true. But it is. For the last five-plus years, I have...

Is Your Past Hurt Making You Kind or Cold To Your Spouse?

Today's post from Doug Fields doesn't directly mention marriage, but man is it so applicable. In marriage our personal wounds, past experiences,...

Your Marriage’s Weak Spot Isn’t Your Spouse

Everything you need to learn about marriage comes from watching women in bikinis - who knew?!? Today's post comes from the always-amazing Gary Thomas....
transformation

Godly Marriage Brings Spiritual Transformation

Wouldn’t it be a shame to stay married to the same spouse for a lifetime and not be changed by the process...
mission

What Mission Is Your Marriage is Called To?

When Kevin Miller asked his future wife Karen to marry him, her response was a quick and enthusiastic yes. Karen would later...
pray for your husband

Why My Wife Was Sneaking Out of Bed at 2 A.M.

This article comes from Jerrad Lopes, the dad and husband behind the DadTired.com community, which helps men lead their family well! Jerrad originally shared...
discouragement

How To Find The Other Side of Discouragement.

Have you ever faced a difficult season only to have friends tell you to trust in God? While you know their advice...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Must Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...