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sexual pleasure

God Cares About Sexual Pleasure In Your Marriage.

Why is there such a disconnect for a woman to consider that God cares about her sexual pleasure? I see that most women view sex as earthy, dirty, and shameful—everything that God is not.
following Jesus

“I’m Faithful to Jesus — Why Is My Marriage a Mess?”

Many Christians walk away from their faith because what they know about following Jesus isn’t consistent with the loneliness they face.
Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She'll Fix My Sexual Lust

Lies Men Believe About Marriage: She’ll Fix My Sexual Lust

Getting married doesn’t give you victory over sexual lust because singleness isn’t what causes lust.

The Weak Spot in Your Marriage Isn’t Your Spouse

"Marriage is kind of like beach volleyball—marriage in a bikini." Learn a surprising lesson about your marriage's weak spot.
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. 3 Keys.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Eph 5:25 Pastors often preach it, but are we living by it?
if only

What To Do With The “If Only” Regrets of Life

I find that “if only” pops up in conversations with people where it’s clear they are living in regret over the decisions they’ve made.
heart of the matter

The Heart Is The Heart Of The Matter. How’s Yours?

Whenever a marriage self-destructs, the heart is the heart of the matter. But it's also the reason a marriage thrives, and you choose which!

A Magic Question That Might Change Your Marriage

Sometimes a better marriage is closer than you think. Listen to Rich and Pat's story, and the power of one simple magic question.
transformation

Godly Marriage Brings Spiritual Transformation

A marriage which does bring transformation is no marriage at all. Godly marriage always brings transformation.
steps to spiritual intimacy in your marriage

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's post about spiritual intimacy in your marriage comes from our friends at refineus.org. Spiritual growth isn’t easy. Spiritual growth as a couple is even more difficult.
toxic

Toxic People Can Poison a Fruitful Marriage

If we value fruitfulness as Jesus does, then literally, all of us need to weed out the toxic relationships that are around our marriage.

Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse—With Kids?

Finding times of spiritual intimacy is hard in marriage no matter what. Set reasonable expectations for spiritual intimacy.
pray for your husband

Why My Wife Was Sneaking Out of Bed at 2 A.M.

You might be shocked by why one former pastor's wife was sneaking out of bed at two in the morning (in the best kind of way).
inject

Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.

There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh wave of intimacy into your relationship. Here's how to inject some "A.W.E." into your marriage. 
tongue

Your Marriage Needs Less Tongue, Not More.

It can feel like a major victory when I control my tongue, giving my unspoken words to my Father instead of pouring them out on others.
7 prayers for a struggling marriage

7 Prayers for a Struggling Marriage

While not every marriage is struggling right this moment, nearly all marriages hit crisis moments at some point in time. Today's post from Elizabeth Klein is a great guide for prayers for a struggling marriage.
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

I had to fight that internal battle to ignore fear and listen to the spirit of love so I could see, “You are not the obstacle in our marriage—you are my partner in overcoming obstacles.” 
secret

1 Secret Every Man Must Know About Their Wives

This secret applies to women and men: if you really want to change your marriage, you have to understand the secret where you have power.
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

Let’s be our spouse’s chief encourager. No one else can offer them words of encouragement the way we can. It’s our job to survey whatever threatens our spouse’s physical and spiritual well-being and cooperate with God to say, “I have some good news for you. Some wonderful news…”
surrender

Surrender to the Reality That Marriage Isn’t Easy

Lay down your efforts of self-control and give your life totally and completely to the work of God. You have one job … it is to surrender.
spiritual intimacy

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse

As a couple making a commitment to developing spiritual intimacy, you will want to find a plan that works for you.
mission

What Mission Is Your Marriage is Called To?

We were married for a mission. When we give away our life, we find it. When we focus outside our marriage, we end up strengthening it.
discouragement

How To Find The Other Side of Discouragement.

Have you ever faced a difficult season only to be told to trust in God? What does it actually look like to do that during discouragement? 
third

Husbands, You Are Third On Your Wife’s Priorities List

To have a God-honoring marriage, I must realize that I am third in my wife’s allegiance. The best marriages are built on these priorities.
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I believe this is a symptom of a deeper problem.
christian marriage

7 Christian Marriage Myths. Does #3 Surprise You?

The hard truth about a Christian marriage is that your marriage will not be perfect just because you’re Christians. Don't buy these myths.
forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the Core of Every Happy Marriage

God invites us to make it a priority not only to practice forgiveness occasionally, but to keep forgiving…all the time if need be.
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

Don’t despair. No matter how ugly the fighting is now, it’s only temporary. Eternity is just around the corner. Hang in there!
God's purpose for marriage

How God’s Purpose for Marriage Will Protect Your Marriage

We should strive to accomplish God's purpose for marriage is given, to us by grace: it reflects Christ’s perfect bond with His church.
christian marriage

Christian Marriage – Pilgrims Traveling Same Path

The Apostle Peter sets Christian marriage on the highest plane possible—husbands and wives possess the same eternal inheritance.
first wedding

My First Wedding: “Three for Eternity, Please.”

I officiated my first wedding and realized that the best seat is when you get to stand before the bride and groom and do the service.
praying with your husband

10 Tips for Praying With Your Husband

Praying with your husband can be challenging. Many of us aren’t comfortable praying out loud, and so we’re not sure how to bring prayer into our marriage.
delight

Delight: The Secret Ingredient of a Great Marriage

I’m leaning on Teresa to rediscover the joys and fulfillment (not just duty and obligation) of prayer. We can learn how to marshal the positive power of spiritual delight. Teresa is adamant that the only thing that wooed her away from sin were the superior pleasures she enjoyed while communing with God.
anger

Is It Way Too Easy for Your Husband to Push Your Anger Button?

If we want to get emotionally healthy, with ourselves and with others, we need to be willing to go below the surface of our anger.
control

Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic

Trying to control someone in marriage, parenting, or the church, is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but takes a stand against control.
marriage commitment

Your Spouse Doesn’t Complete You

Your spouse is supposed to complete you, right? That might be true in romantic comedies, but let's talk about real life.
pain

Don’t Waste the Pain of a Difficult Season

My one prayer for us as individuals and for our world is this: “God, don’t let us waste this pain.” Here's how we can live that reality.
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

The lesson is painfully clear: connecting with Jesus is a better choice than busyness.There will always be more to do! Know what I mean?
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...

The #1 Marriage Killer … and How to Get Rid of It

Over the years, we’ve heard many sad stories from people. A lot of these people were on the brink of separation or divorce, or...
covid 19

How to Love Your Spouse During Covid-19

Let's talk about Covid-19 for a second. Or wait, let's not. Not yet. Instead let's talk about how the movie About Time isn't a...
anxiety

Anxiety Doesn’t Always Win: Finding Joy In Stress

Anxiety plagues many of us, stealing our peace of mind, but also inserting itself into our marriages. And that can cause some real...
boundaries in marriage

Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David

David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
how to love

The Greatest Gift Marriage Offers Us Isn’t What You Think

Today's post from Gary Thomas is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We think marriage is a place to receive...
prayer

The 1 Thing Your Wife Needs You to Do For Her Every Day

2922 days ago on 31 March 2006 I married my wonderful and beautiful wife. On that day I made a commitment to...

Is It Good Friday In Your Marriage? A Resurrection is Coming.

Good Friday is traditionally in the church calendar a day of grief. Today, we reflect on how Jesus was tortured, nailed to...
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
spiritual intimacy

Spiritual Intimacy Can Feel Scary. Here’s 4 Reasons It’s Worth It.

Eight years in to marriage there are still some things I refuse to do with my wife. I refuse to use the...
self-righteousness

Self-Righteousness is Satan’s Favorite Attack Against Your Marriage. Here’s What You Can Do About...

What if one of the most dangerous attitudes for believers is self-righteousness? What if it’s possible to be “right” and toxic at the...
present

Husbands, We Need to Be Fully Present With Our Wives. Here’s How.

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I feel like most men do. We think about our bills, the check...