How to Find Your Marriage’s “Lost” Love

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas, and features the story of Megan (see link in next paragraph), and how they found new life in...

The Surprising Reason You’re Angry at Your Spouse Today

Okay some of you aren't angry TODAY, but you were yesterday, or will be tomorrow. This great post from America's Family Coaches explains how...

Sometimes “Don’t Go to Bed Angry” is Terrible Advice

There's a scene in the Bill Murray movie Groundhog Day where Bill yells at a groundhog "don't drive angry!" (it makes more sense in...

4 Steps Toward a “Chore War” Ceasefire

Do you and your spouse fight over day-to-day household chores? It's time to declare a ceasefire! Today's great post comes from Kathi Lipp, and...

1 Secret Tip for Marrying the Right Person

Today's post comes from our friends at Homeword. When I was in college I wrote an op-ed for my local newspaper about the kind of...

Your Spouse Is Not the Enemy

There are times when I read a marriage article and am absolutely nailed to the wall by it. Today's, from America's Family Coaches, is...
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The Two Words that Kill a Marriage: “I Deserve”

Our Thriving Marriages community has grown a LOT in the past year, which is exciting! It also means that most of you missed out...

The REAL Reason You’re Angry at Your Spouse

I (Josh) am not exaggerating when I say the concept from Doug's post today revolutionized my marriage ... and every other relationship in my...

How I Got My Spouse to Start Apologizing

All marriages have a conflict style, and most of them are at least a little unhealthy ... i mean ... I've heard ... I wouldn't know...

The Night My Marriage Almost Ended

Today's post comes from our long-time partner, Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and was written by Ketsia Gutsave, from the blog Pure Couples. Ketsia is...

7 Rules for Fighting Fair

Today's post is full of that "well yeah, of course" sort of practical advice that I immediately forget the moment things get tense at...
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The Danger of ‘Choice Paralysis’ When Your Marriage is Struggling

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas and is an adaptation from his new book Loving Him Well: Practical Advice for Influencing Your Husband. While the...

What To Do When Your Spouse is a Perfectionist

Today's post comes from Beth Steffaniak and our friends at Homeword. Check out their site for tons of resources for your family.  How to Handle a Perfectionistic Spouse The...

Abuse: More Than Just a Black Eye

A warning up front: today's post is about the different kinds of abuse that happen in a marriage. Sadly, statistics show that in our...

Actually Nicholas Sparks, Marriage ISN’T About Compromise

There's something about my personality that enjoys deconstructing clichés and today's article from Tarah Avery at Start Marriage Right is a great example of...
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Understanding the Mind of the Man you Married

Did you know men and women think differently? I KNOW. Surprising. Turns out there's a perfectly logical, scientific explanation, and today's post from Gary...

12 Ways to Steer Your Marriage Toward Divorce

Today's post comes from homeword.com and Dave Willis. Every married couple has exchanged vows which promise “til death do us part,” but for far too...
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1 Easy Way to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved

“There’s something you do that really annoys me.” We’d just finished dinner on a random Tuesday, and I was all ears. My husband never complains. Like, never. And he was...

When You Should Leave Your Spouse

Today's post is from Josh, part of the Thriving Marriages team. You can check out his book - The God Who Wasn't There -...

What to Expect When You’re Expecting

Today's post comes from our friends Jim and Doug over at Homeword. You can buy their book here.  Many couples don’t take time to share with...

Don’t Fight Hangry

It’s a known fact that conflict will happen in marriage. You and your spouse are going to disagree, argue, and perhaps even fight. But did...
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How to Avoid Emotional Triggers

Here’s a great post about emotional triggers from our friends over at www.connectedmarriage.org I got angry at my wife last weekend. We were lying in...

5 Soothing Tips for Making Up After Conflict

Today's post is from our friends over at loveandlifetoolbox.com.    Not many people actually enjoy conflict. Whether it’s a fight with a friend, a rift with...

3 Antidotes to Disappointment in Your Marriage

Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love. Ephesians 4:2 Unless you really married...

Discovering Your Conflict Style, and How to Improve It

It's a beautiful day, the kind that beckons you to drop what you're doing inside and head outside. So you may do something that...

Removing the Word Grenades from Your Marriage

For the first time in years I'm attending the Global Leadership Summit sponsored by Willow Creek Community Church. It's one of my favorite conferences...

5 Things You’re Responsible for in Your Marriage

In our marriage mentoring, I like to talk about what each one of us is responsible for. Couples are often confused about this. When...

4 Questions That Can Stop a Fight

I remember the first serious fight my wife and I ever had. It was about pizza. This was back when Christina and I were dating....

5 Simple Steps to Resolve Conflict in Your Marriage

 Not all problems are resolvable! I wish more marriage experts would just tell us that from the beginning. Some problems we face are perpetual. These...

2 Lies Culture Tells Us About Love and Romance

1. Love is a feeling. Almost all cultural signs point to this dangerous lie, that love is something you fall in and out of, a...

The Secret to Showing Grace in Marriage

Couples spend a lot of time debating over who was or wasn’t at fault. This is one of the biggest wastes of time. Putting...

3 Attitudes That Promote Healing

1. Own My Part When I’m hurt, it’s difficult to own my part. I want someone else to change. In my marriage, I want my...

What No One Taught You About How to Fight With Your Spouse

1. Here-And-Now If you focus on past issues, you can’t address what is happening between you now. If the old issue wasn’t a problem 24...

One Question You Should Ask Before You Fight With Your Spouse

If you’ve been married for a few months (heck, a few days) you’ve probably been in a situation or conversation when you find yourself...

3 Tips to a Stronger Marriage, One Day at a Time

Choose a path. Every action we take, or choose not to take, puts us on a path. The same goes for our beliefs. All of...

There Are Some Problems You Can’t Solve

John Gottman, one of the top marriage researchers, estimates that 69% of marital conflicts are perpetual. That means that couples will have the same...

Fighting Fair: 5 Commitments for Building a Conflict Resilient Connection

When two people choose to walk together in relationship, there is never a question of whether or not they will experience conflict. Believe me,...

8 Thought Distortions That Hurt Relationships

Distortion #1: All-or-nothing thinking You see things in black-or-white categories. You think in absolutes such as “always”, “never”, or “every”. If a situation falls short of...

Do You Avoid Seeking Support for Your Marriage?

Intermittent “good behavior” can keep a couple from getting needed help for their marriage. I see this all the time, and I know it’s...

Eliminate Name Calling ASAP

If there is one thing I am learning as a wife and mom, it is the power that our words have on the people...

3 Tips for Difficult Conversations

No one sets out to be disconnected in their marriage. However, we can easily end up there when we allow hurts and misunderstandings to...

3 Ways We Fight

Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist and marriage researcher. She developed Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. In her book, Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations...

That Moment When You Hurt Your Spouse

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you are aware...