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4 Ways to Provide the Spiritual Intimacy Your Wife Craves

Spiritual intimacy in my (Josh's) marriage has always been tough. It's the most vulnerable part of me, and opening that up to my wife...
obstacles

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...

5 Steps to Freedom from Shame

When I was in elementary school, I was molested by a family member. That same family member introduced me to porn for the first...
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...
marriage

Satan’s 4 Tools to Shatter a Marriage

Today's blog post about spiritual warfare comes from Beth Steffaniak and her website, messymarriage.com Today, I’m continuing to unpack my series on spiritual warfare in...
year

Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...

How to Find Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse While Raising Kids

Finding times of spiritual connection is hard in marriage no matter what, but once you have kids it can seem near impossible. Today's post...
present

Husbands, We Need to Be Fully Present With Our Wives. Here’s How.

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I feel like most men do. We think about our bills, the check...
marriage commitment

Your Spouse Doesn’t Complete You

When is the last time you felt disappointed by your marriage? Notice that I asked when, not if. Disappointment is a normal part of any relationship, but...
delight

Delight: The Secret Ingredient of a Great Marriage

Can a celibate nun who was born over five hundred years ago unlock the secret to a more intimate marriage? Yes, she can. In...
husband quality

I Never Knew I Needed a Husband Who Did This …

Today's post comes from Brie Gowen. If you like this article, check out more of her work here. When I was a girl I looked...
strong marriage

You Have a Strong Marriage, When You’re Doing This Together.

I first fell in love with my wife during a conversation about an ex-girlfriend. Granted, this "ex" was a girl I dated...
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
marriage under spiritual attack

Is Your Marriage Under Spiritual Attack?

Is your marriage under spiritual attack? We don't talk very often about the spiritual warfare marriages face, but it's very real, and very important....
self-righteousness

Self-Righteousness is Satan’s Favorite Attack Against Your Marriage. Here’s What You Can Do About...

What if one of the most dangerous attitudes for believers is self-righteousness? What if it’s possible to be “right” and toxic at the...
how to affair proof your marriage and danger of emotional amnesia

Affair-Proof Your Marriage: emotional amnesia

This is part 3 of a series called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage.” While each week can stand alone, here are part 1 and...
forgiveness and trust

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...
new year resolution for marriage

The New Year’s Resolution That Will Save Your Marriage

I've never liked New Year's Resolutions. There are already about 18 current areas I want to improve in, so adding something to that list...
unconditional love

The 1 Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You Today

A quick note up front. I (Josh) love talking about how to create and sustain healthy marriages. If you are a pastor...
out of debt

Get Out of Debt Fast, With These 10 Steps.

Debt can cause all kinds of stress in a marriage. Have you found yourself feeling hopeless, like there's no way to get...

The #1 Killer of a Marriage … and How to Get Rid of It

Over the years, we’ve heard many sad stories from people. A lot of these people were on the brink of separation or divorce, or...
spiritual intimacy

Spiritual Intimacy Can Feel Scary. Here’s 4 Reasons It’s Worth It.

Eight years in to marriage there are still some things I refuse to do with my wife. I refuse to use the...
trinity in marriage

Finding the Trinity in Your Marriage

The more I learn about God, the more convinced I am that intimacy is at the core of human existence. We are made, first and...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
following Jesus

“I’m Faithfully Following Jesus, So Why Is My Marriage Still Such a Mess?”

I recently met with a friend who shared openly with me about her struggles in marriage. “It’s like living with a robot!...
never meant for perfect marriage

God Never Meant Your Marriage to Be Perfect

God never meant your marriage to be perfect. Don’t we all wish we could say the following? “We have such a good marriage. We hardly...
Christian marriage

The 1 Thing Your Christian Marriage Needs More Than Passion

Your Christian marriage needs this more than passion. One thought from Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance struck me as...
sexual pleasure

God Cares About Sexual Pleasure In Your Marriage.

God cares about your sex life. It may seem weird to see the words God and sex in the same sentence. Sometimes when I teach women...

What Are You Feeding Your Mind About Marriage?

Today's post about how we think about marriage comes from the always amazing Gary Thomas.  The old cliché, “stupid is as stupid does” is painfully...
husbands

Husbands, Your Wives Need These 10 Things, They Just Don’t Know How to Ask

I remember watching What Women Want not long after its release in 2001. The movie chronicles a man, Nick Marshall, who receives a fresh...
god prioritize men in marriage

Does God Prioritize Men in Marriage?

One of the biggest theological/cultural disagreements in Christian circles is how God feels about the role of men and women in marriage. Our friend...
accountability partner

Why You Should Have An Accountability Partner

Can I contradict the title of this post in the first sentence? #BadBloggingHabit I don’t like the word “accountability partner” any more than I like...
hopelessness

Your Marriage Can Survive, Even During the Hopelessness of Depression

NO ONE GETS MARRIED EXPECTING SOMETHING LIKE CRIPPLING DEPRESSION TO DIG IN ITS DIRTY CLAWS AND WREAK HAVOC, BUT IT HAPPENS ALL...
what vacation reveal about marriage

What a Vacation Reveals About Your Marriage

Today's post from Gary Thomas begins talking about vacations before transitioning to something way more universal ... and convicting. There isn't a marriage that...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
forgiven

A Healthy Marriage Flows From a Forgiven Past

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners–and I was the worst of them all. But that is why God had...

When a Pregnancy Doesn’t Go As Planned

I was so impressed by Katie Westenberg's post yesterday I went to her site - I Choose Brave - and found her four part blog...
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
spiritual intimacy

7 Tips for Increasing the Spiritual Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's post comes from our friends over at Homeword. They have a lot of great resources, especially for parents, so give their site a...
communication

Communication is a Kind of Communion

There’s no doubt about it: Communication is vital in marriage. When couples don’t share their lives and hearts with each other consistently, the atmosphere in...
grateful

The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
choice paralysis struggling marriage

The Danger of ‘Choice Paralysis’ When Your Marriage is Struggling

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas and is an adaptation from his new book Loving Him Well: Practical Advice for Influencing Your Husband. While the...
past

Your Past Can Be a Benefit, Not a Barrier, In Your Sex Life

In our house, we like this show called Impossible Engineering. It’s documentary style and the basic premise is they look at a phenomenal...
forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the Core of Every Happy Marriage

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me?...

This 1 Powerful Truth Will Change How You See Your Spouse

Gary Thomas sets up this post on his own, so I'll keep my setup brief: you should read this!  This post continues an ongoing series,...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Needs to Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
marriage

The Two Words that Will Kill a Marriage: “I deserve”

This past weekend the pastor at the church I attended was speaking about God's grace, and how everything at that (or really any) church...
what does the Bible say about marriage?

What Does the Bible Say About Marriage?

I want whatever we do to be based on the Bible. But what does the Bible say about marriage? Here are the Bible's top...