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Why My Wife Was Sneaking Out of Bed at 2 A.M.

You might be shocked by why one former pastor's wife was sneaking out of bed at two in the morning (in the best kind of way).
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Husbands, We Need to Be Fully Present With Our Wives. Here’s How.

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I feel like most men do. We think about our bills, the check...
covid-19

3 Keys to a Healthy Family During Covid-19

“In case you missed this over the weekend, here it is in blog form. If there is anything HomeWord can do to...
generosity

Generosity: The Ultimate Aphrodisiac

This week we are celebrating generosity with our friends Cherie and Brian Lowe’s new book, Your Money, Your Marriage, with a series of posts all about the...
delight

Delight: The Secret Ingredient of a Great Marriage

I’m leaning on Teresa to rediscover the joys and fulfillment (not just duty and obligation) of prayer. We can learn how to marshal the positive power of spiritual delight. Teresa is adamant that the only thing that wooed her away from sin were the superior pleasures she enjoyed while communing with God.
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

The lesson is painfully clear: connecting with Jesus is a better choice than busyness.There will always be more to do! Know what I mean?
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How to Avoid a Marital “Heart Attack”

One of the most significant, and hardest, parts of my marriage has been dealing with my past. Like so, so, so many people I...
year

Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
forgiven

A Healthy Marriage Flows From a Forgiven Past

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners–and I was the worst of them all. But that is why God had...
anger

Is It Way Too Easy for Your Husband to Push Your Anger Button?

If we want to get emotionally healthy, with ourselves and with others, we need to be willing to go below the surface of our anger.

Your Marriage’s Weak Spot Isn’t Your Spouse

"Marriage is kind of like beach volleyball—marriage in a bikini." Learn a surprising lesson about your marriage's weak spot.
self-righteousness

Self-Righteousness is Satan’s Favorite Attack Against Your Marriage. Here’s What You Can Do About...

What if one of the most dangerous attitudes for believers is self-righteousness? What if it’s possible to be “right” and toxic at the...
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

Don’t despair. No matter how ugly the fighting is now, it’s only temporary. Eternity is just around the corner. Hang in there!

5 Steps to Freedom from Shame

When I was in elementary school, I was molested by a family member. That same family member introduced me to porn for the first...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. 3 Keys.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Eph 5:25 Pastors often preach it, but are we living by it?
relational revelation

The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
steps to spiritual intimacy in your marriage

How to Form Spiritual Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's post about spiritual intimacy in your marriage comes from our friends at refineus.org. Spiritual growth isn’t easy. Spiritual growth as a couple is even...
strong marriage

You Have a Strong Marriage, When You’re Doing This Together.

I first fell in love with my wife during a conversation about an ex-girlfriend. Granted, this "ex" was a girl I dated...
forgiveness

Forgiveness is at the Core of Every Happy Marriage

God invites us to make it a priority not only to practice forgiveness occasionally, but to keep forgiving…all the time if need be.
christian community

5 Reasons Why We All Need Christian Community

Good, faithful friends are hard to find, which is why Christian community is so precious, especially for our marriages.

4 Ways to Provide the Spiritual Intimacy Your Wife Craves

Spiritual intimacy in my (Josh's) marriage has always been tough. It's the most vulnerable part of me, and opening that up to my wife...
spiritual intimacy

Spiritual Intimacy Can Feel Scary. Here’s 4 Reasons It’s Worth It.

Eight years in to marriage there are still some things I refuse to do with my wife. I refuse to use the...
pain

Don’t Waste the Pain of a Difficult Season

My one prayer for us as individuals and for our world is this: “God, don’t let us waste this pain.” Here's how we can live that reality.
importance of leaving for sake of marriage

The Importance of “Leaving” for the Sake of Your Marriage

Mark: Yesterday at church, our pastor, Mike Baker, preached on Genesis 12:1-9. It’s the story of when God told Abram he needed to leave where...
marriage commitment

Your Spouse Doesn’t Complete You

Your spouse is supposed to complete you, right? That might be true in romantic comedies, but let's talk about real life.
following Jesus

“I’m Faithfully Following Jesus, So Why Is My Marriage Such a Mess?”

Many Christians walk away from their faith because what they know about following Jesus isn’t consistent with the loneliness they face.
shame

Shame Doesn’t Get the Last Word In Your Marriage

I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood...
marriage

Satan’s 4 Tools to Shatter a Marriage

Today's blog post about spiritual warfare comes from Beth Steffaniak and her website, messymarriage.com Today, I’m continuing to unpack my series on spiritual warfare in...
Christian marriage

The 1 Thing Your Christian Marriage Needs More Than Passion

Your Christian marriage needs this more than passion. One thought from Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance struck me as...
self care

Self-Care is Not Selfish. It’s Vital For Your Marriage.

Suffering is life’s greatest teacher. I don’t know why this is true. But it is. For the last five-plus years, I have...
praying with your husband

10 Tips for Praying With Your Husband

Praying with your husband can be challenging. Many of us aren’t comfortable praying out loud, and so we’re not sure how to bring prayer into our marriage.

How to Find Spiritual Intimacy With Your Spouse While Raising Kids

Finding times of spiritual intimacy is hard in marriage no matter what, but once you have kids it can seem near impossible. Today's post...
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
toxic

Toxic People Can Poison a Fruitful Marriage

If we value fruitfulness as Jesus does, then literally, all of us need to weed out the toxic relationships that are around our marriage.
how to affair proof your marriage and danger of emotional amnesia

Affair-Proof Your Marriage: emotional amnesia

This is part 3 of a series called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage.” While each week can stand alone, here are part 1 and...
forgiveness and trust

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
grateful

The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
significance

Search For Significance, Not Others’ Ideas of Success

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rules of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials...
husband quality

I Never Knew I Needed a Husband Who Did This …

Today's post comes from Brie Gowen. If you like this article, check out more of her work here. When I was a girl I looked...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
Valentine's Day

The Sexiest Thing You Can Wear This Valentine’s Day

On Valentine’s Day, perhaps millions of men will get to see their wives wearing something they’ve never worn before and the husbands...
transformation

Godly Marriage Brings Spiritual Transformation

Wouldn’t it be a shame to stay married to the same spouse for a lifetime and not be changed by the process...
marriage under spiritual attack

Is Your Marriage Under Spiritual Attack?

Is your marriage under spiritual attack? We don't talk very often about the spiritual warfare marriages face, but it's very real, and very important....
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
if only

What To Do With The “If Only” Regrets of Life

While this post only indirectly talks about marriage, it's a GREAT marriage tool. What do we do with the "if only" moments...
4 steps to forgiveness

4 Steps to Forgiveness

My wife and I went on a much-needed date night last night and - after 15 minutes of looking at each other and wondering...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
how to forgive

How to Forgive Your Spouse After An Affair

An affair does not have to be the end of your marriage. Here's how to forgive your spouse after an affair. It’s difficult, but it can happen.
control

Trying to Control Your Spouse is Toxic

Trying to control someone in marriage, parenting, or the church, is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but takes a stand against control.
new year resolution for marriage

The New Year’s Resolution That Will Save Your Marriage

I've never liked New Year's Resolutions. There are already about 18 current areas I want to improve in, so adding something to that list...