initiating

Initiating (and Declining) Sex Without Starting a Fight

For many married couples initiating sex can be an awkward moment that leads to conflict or hurt feelings. They’re not sure what...
motivation

“What’s My Motivation?” 5 Reasons to Improve Your Sex Life

Yup. You know there is an issue. You know the sexual connection with your spouse is waning a bit. Maybe you haven’t had...
sex life

Does Your Sex Life Feel Broken? You Can Always Rebuild It! Here’s How.

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
needs

Your Wife’s Top 3 Sexual Needs

Women long to have a solid relationship with their husbands, but the sex part—at least the way they feel that their husbands...
how to be sexy

How to Be Sexy…It Has Nothing to Do With Your Body

When I talk to women about how to be sexy in marriage, one of the most common concerns is their bodies. “I’m...
conversations

36 Conversations That Will Turn Your Spouse On

Married couples should flirt and have intimate conversations. You stoke the fire of your interest about anything (i.e., job, hobby, faith, politics,...
cherishing

The Secret Ingredient to Having the Best Sex

One of the most delightful discoveries on my journey to cherish Lisa was finding out the difference cherishing makes with sexual intimacy. A...
prayer

Prayer Will Supercharge Your Marriage (Including Your Sex Life!)

Hi Thriving Marriages community, this is Josh, the guy bringing you this content each day. In addition to running this site I...
past

Your Past Can Be a Benefit, Not a Barrier, In Your Sex Life

In our house, we like this show called Impossible Engineering. It’s documentary style and the basic premise is they look at a phenomenal...
sex should feel good

Ladies: Sex Should Feel Good For You Too, So Speak Up!

Believe it or not: sex should feel good. But, do you have difficulty letting your husband know what feels good in bed? Even saying...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
golden rule

Why the Golden Rule Doesn’t Work During Sex

If you’re married, we’re sure this will come as no surprise to you: Men and women view sex differently. Very differently.
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
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10 Ways to Get Back the Spark in Your Marriage

How do you get that spark in marriage if you feel like you’ve lost it? How do you rekindle...
intimacy

I Love My Wife, But I Just Don’t Know How To Show Her That.

If we've said it once we've said it a thousand times: Men and women often don't view intimacy the same way! For...
sex

Why So Many Christian Marriages Are Missing Great Sex

Sex has the potential to be the most profoundly satisfying and rich part of a marriage. Sex the way God intended it...
hardest

Last Year Was One of the Hardest Years of My Life … but One...

Most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we bring you the best content we've found around the web for building a...
trust

Do You Trust the Person You’re Having Sex With?

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage...
rekindling romance

3 Golden Rules for Rekindling Romance

Many couples expect romance to just happen, but we have found that intentionality is the key to rekindling romance. In two places...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
intimacy men need

The Intimacy Men Need But Don’t Know They Need

A blockbuster quote from a blockbuster book (Unwanted) by Jay Stringer unmasks what I have seen but been unable to describe in marriage about...
wife doesn't want to have sex

10 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

I have a lot of guys who read the blog, and I get tons of emails from guys who tell me your wife doesn't...
better sex

Want Better Sex? ONE Thing You Must STOP First

Do you want better sex in your marriage? Does your spouse want that, too? The crux of many couples’ sexual intimacy struggles is that one...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
extramarital affair

An Extramarital Affair Is Always Intentional

Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every extramarital affair is...
better sex

Practice Your Way to Better Sex

For many women, sex just isn’t that great at the beginning of the marriage. This week we’ve been looking at specific ways to have better...

3 Great Reasons to Schedule Your Sex Life

Today's topic is yet another great post from Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Today's debates the pros and cons of calendaring out...

Your Sexuality Isn’t a Sin

Man oh man is this post about sexuality comes from Juli at Authentic Intimacy good. I've been spending a lot of time lately writing...
why is sex such a big deal

Why Is Sex Such a Big Deal to (Most) Men?

Why is sex such a big deal to most men? Guys, read this and feel validated. Ladies, read this and understand your husbands more....
how to have sex

How to Have Sex Be More Fun in Marriage

Yet again, Sheila from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum comes through with a great post about how to have sex be more...

6 Signs of Healthy Sexuality

I (Josh) hear regularly from spouses in marriages with a sex life that is abusive, exploitative, unsatisfying, or absent. Today's great post from Gary...
husband really need sex

Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

Does your husband really need sex? In many marriages (but not all), sexual intimacy is very high on a husband’s list. In books like...
sex matters

Why Sex Matters in Your Marriage

This is a fantastic post from Nancy Houston, a licensed Christian sex therapist, on why sex matters in your marriage and how to please...
between love and desire

The Difference Between Love and Desire

Today's post on the difference between love and desire is another great one from one of our most popular contributors, Gary Thomas. Enjoy! When an...
avoid an affair

7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

It's worth studying how to avoid an affair. As someone who got dangerously close to an affair myself, several of these points rang true...
awkward sex

Why Your Awkward Sex Life is Okay

Growing up in the Bible belt as a pre-teen, sex always seemed awkward or dirty. It was only talked about as an example of...
satisfy your wife

How to Satisfy Your Wife in Bed

We recently ran a post about satisfying a husband's sexual needs. Today, it's the wife's turn. Husbands, want your wife to be satisfied in...

How to Stay Attracted to Your Spouse

Today's tip is an excerpt from a new book by counselor Debra Fileta called Choosing Marriage. If you like what you read today you should...

10 Ways Men Can Improve Their Marriage’s Sex Life

Today's thoughts come from longtime Friend of the Newsletter™ Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and is written by guest poster Keith Schooley.  Psst…...

What the Enemy Wants You to Believe About Sex

Today's post from our friends at Authentic Intimacy and guest blogger Jerusha Clark is so, so, SO good. I (Josh) regularly receive emails from readers...
mismatched sex drives

What To Do When You Have Mismatched Sex Drives

Today's post is from Bonny Logsdon Burns, who writes at OysterBed7.com. Follow Bonny there for more great resources on Christian Marriage, and thanks to Beth...
spouse watches porn

My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?

Today's post involves a wife asking Juli Slattery @ Authentic Intimacy what she should do after catching her husband viewing pornography. A thought up front:...
making time making love

Making Time for Making Love

Today's post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy post is a practical, honest look at the challenges of making sex a priority when you have...
bringing sexy back self image

Bringing Sexy Back to Your Self-Image

Today's post comes from Joy McMillan, author of XES: Why Church Girls Tend to Get it Backwards...And How to Get It Right, and Friend of the Newsletter™...
sexual playfulness

3 Ground Rules for Sexual Playfulness

Today's great post from Julie at Intimacy in Marriage has some great thoughts on why turning your spouse on is great, and how to do...
50 shades of gray silly sex

50 Shades of Silly: Why ‘Grey’ Sex Isn’t All That Great

I (Josh) tend to be a contrarian, which means when marriage blogs got on an anti-50 Shades of Grey kick I kinda rolled my...
when husband has the headache

When the Husband Has the “Headache”

Today's post comes from new Friends of the Newsletter,™  the team over at Authentic Intimacy. I love how it flips the stereotype of "women...
Valentine's Day

10 Ways to Turn Up the Heat This Valentine’s Day

Today's post about Valentine's Day from Sheila at to love, honor, and vacuum is a lot of things - insightful, romantic, practical. Hope it...
marriage intimacy

10 Easy Ways to Boost Marriage Intimacy

Today's post about marriage intimacy comes from Scott Kedersha. What I like about this post isn't just the content, but the links to some...
2 ways to fire up passion in bedroom

Two Ways to Fire Up Passion in the Bedroom

If you've been part of the Thriving Marriages community for awhile then today's post from Les and Leslie Parrott is a "back to basics"...