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The Intimacy Men Need But Don’t Know They Need

A blockbuster quote from a blockbuster book (Unwanted) by Jay Stringer unmasks what I have seen but been unable to describe in marriage about...
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10 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

I have a lot of guys who read the blog, and I get tons of emails from guys who tell me your wife doesn't...
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Want Better Sex? ONE Thing You Must STOP First

Do you want better sex in your marriage? Does your spouse want that, too? The crux of many couples’ sexual intimacy struggles is that one...
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1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
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An Extramarital Affair Is Always Intentional

Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every extramarital affair is...
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Practice Your Way to Better Sex

For many women, sex just isn’t that great at the beginning of the marriage. This week we’ve been looking at specific ways to have better...

3 Great Reasons to Schedule Your Sex Life

Today's topic is yet another great post from Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Today's debates the pros and cons of calendaring out...

Your Sexuality Isn’t a Sin

Man oh man is this post about sexuality comes from Juli at Authentic Intimacy good. I've been spending a lot of time lately writing...
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Why Is Sex Such a Big Deal to (Most) Men?

Why is sex such a big deal to most men? Guys, read this and feel validated. Ladies, read this and understand your husbands more....
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How to Have Sex Be More Fun in Marriage

Yet again, Sheila from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum comes through with a great post about how to have sex be more...

6 Signs of Healthy Sexuality

I (Josh) hear regularly from spouses in marriages with a sex life that is abusive, exploitative, unsatisfying, or absent. Today's great post from Gary...
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Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

Does your husband really need sex? In many marriages (but not all), sexual intimacy is very high on a husband’s list. In books like...
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Why Sex Matters in Your Marriage

This is a fantastic post from Nancy Houston, a licensed Christian sex therapist, on why sex matters in your marriage and how to please...
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The Difference Between Love and Desire

Today's post on the difference between love and desire is another great one from one of our most popular contributors, Gary Thomas. Enjoy! When an...
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7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

It's worth studying how to avoid an affair. As someone who got dangerously close to an affair myself, several of these points rang true...
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Why Your Awkward Sex Life is Okay

Growing up in the Bible belt as a pre-teen, sex always seemed awkward or dirty. It was only talked about as an example of...
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How to Satisfy Your Wife in Bed

We recently ran a post about satisfying a husband's sexual needs. Today, it's the wife's turn. Husbands, want your wife to be satisfied in...

How to Stay Attracted to Your Spouse

Today's tip is an excerpt from a new book by counselor Debra Fileta called Choosing Marriage. If you like what you read today you should...

10 Ways Men Can Improve Their Marriage’s Sex Life

Today's thoughts come from longtime Friend of the Newsletter™ Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and is written by guest poster Keith Schooley.  Psst…...

What the Enemy Wants You to Believe About Sex

Today's post from our friends at Authentic Intimacy and guest blogger Jerusha Clark is so, so, SO good. I (Josh) regularly receive emails from readers...
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What To Do When You Have Mismatched Sex Drives

Today's post is from Bonny Logsdon Burns, who writes at OysterBed7.com. Follow Bonny there for more great resources on Christian Marriage, and thanks to Beth...
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My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?

Today's post involves a wife asking Juli Slattery @ Authentic Intimacy what she should do after catching her husband viewing pornography. A thought up front:...
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Making Time for Making Love

Today's post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy post is a practical, honest look at the challenges of making sex a priority when you have...
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Bringing Sexy Back to Your Self-Image

Today's post comes from Joy McMillan, author of XES: Why Church Girls Tend to Get it Backwards...And How to Get It Right, and Friend of the Newsletter™...
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3 Ground Rules for Sexual Playfulness

Today's great post from Julie at Intimacy in Marriage has some great thoughts on why turning your spouse on is great, and how to do...
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50 Shades of Silly: Why ‘Grey’ Sex Isn’t All That Great

I (Josh) tend to be a contrarian, which means when marriage blogs got on an anti-50 Shades of Grey kick I kinda rolled my...
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When the Husband Has the “Headache”

Today's post comes from new Friends of the Newsletter,™  the team over at Authentic Intimacy. I love how it flips the stereotype of "women...
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10 Ways to Turn Up the Heat This Valentine’s Day

Today's post about Valentine's Day from Sheila at to love, honor, and vacuum is a lot of things - insightful, romantic, practical. Hope it...
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10 Easy Ways to Boost Marriage Intimacy

Today's post about marriage intimacy comes from Scott Kedersha. What I like about this post isn't just the content, but the links to some...
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Two Ways to Fire Up Passion in the Bedroom

If you've been part of the Thriving Marriages community for awhile then today's post from Les and Leslie Parrott is a "back to basics"...
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10 Ways Porn Kills a Marriage

Porn kills because the effects of porn are devastating. Porn kills healthy sex in marriages. Pornography is ravaging marriages. In our culture porn is treated...
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4 Things Newlyweds Should Know About Sex

Today's post about what newlyweds should know about sex comes from our friends at tolovehonorandvacuum.com and guest writer Ngina Otiende. Check out her blog here. As a...
Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice for men too. #Christianmarriage #Christianhusband #Christianwife #marriageintimacy #prayer

3 Things to Pray For Your Sex Life

Donna at tolovehonorandvacuum.com wrote a great post about how to pray for your sex life. While it's written to women, this is great advice...
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Why It’s Okay to Flirt

Today's post comes from a new friend of ours here at Thriving Marriages. Brie Gowen wrote a great post recently about why it's still...
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10 Ways to Kill Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today's article about 10 ways to kill intimacy in your marriage comes from our friend Frank. Check out his website to see more resources...
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Awkward Sex Life? That’s Okay

So if before marriage you, like one of our editors, thought your sex life would be the most incredible, easiest thing in the world...you...
sex

2 Ways to Cultivate a Great Sex Life

Our friends Les and Leslie Parrott are an invaluable resource for any marriage - you can check them out here - and today's post...
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1 Easy Way to Have a Great Weekend with Your Spouse

Want to have a great weekend with your spouse? Sometimes here at Thriving Marriages we post long, detailed content that dives into the deep waters...
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5 TED Talks for Your Marriage

Our friends over at simplemarriage.net recently posted 5 TED talks for your marriage that would be great for you and your spouse to watch...
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“His” and “Her” Sex Nights

If you want to balance getting spicy in the bedroom with feeling like you totally respect and honor each other, “his” and “hers” nights...
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1 Easy Way to Have a Great Weekend with Your Spouse

It's easy to overcomplicate marriage. Life becomes so busy, important conversations go unspoken, the kids demand every ounce of emotional energy you have, work is...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 5 – Nonsexual touch

For women: Nonsexual Touch Most women need and desire physical touch that does not lead to sex. They need to feel secure that every physical...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 4 – Initiation

For Men: Initiation In an earlier post, when we discussed a husband’s need for his wife to respond, we said that her resistance to his...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 3 – Spiritual Intimacy

For Women: How is tending to your wife’s spiritual side a sexual need? Women all over the country have told us the same thing: "When...
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Ingredients to Good Sex: Pt. 2 – Affirmation

For Men: Sex Affirmations "I don't understand why Josh is so withdrawn," Lila told Gary during a counseling session.  During the entire session, she had...
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Necessary Ingredients to Good Sex: Romance in Marriage

The sex need that rated the fifth highest among women in our survey was romance. Nearly 53% of the women placed romance as a...
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Don’t Let Resentment Steal Intimacy in Your Marriage

Resentment can steal intimacy in your marriage, but don't let it. Recently I was speaking at a women's gathering, and one of the women asked...
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What Your Marriage Vows Really Mean

When you get married, you vow faithfulness to your spouse. You vow exclusivity to them. You promise to never flirt, lust, or seek attention...
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8 Ways to Fall in Love All Over Again

Schedule your next date night and don’t tell your spouse the plans. The anticipation will spark a renewed sense of fun. Practice the daily...
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7 Areas of Intimacy That Are Present In Your Marriage

One simple and useful definition of intimacy is “shared privacy”. David Olson, co-founder of Prepare-Enrich, family specialist and member of Better Marriages Advisory Board,...