Significance and Security in Marriage Come From God

security in marriage

Marriages often crumble because one spouse looks to the other to completely satisfy his or her innate need for significance and for security in marriage. It’s too great a burden for any fellow human being to bear. God, on the other hand, is fully capable of supplying both in full measure.

King David discovered this the hard way in his life and wrote about it:

LORD, you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot secure.

~ Psalm 16:5 NIV

In other words, Lord, you are the full measure of everything I truly need and you are the only source of real, eternal security.

As long as you look for significance in anything other than a relationship with your Creator and Savior – like your career, your spouse, popularity or prestige – you’ll always feel the twinge of emptiness and hunger. But when you meet Jesus who is the Bread of Life, the Living Water, you meet the one who supplies your salvation, your gifts, and your calling.

And as long as you look for security in your bank or retirement account or the presumption that your health and financial well-being will never fail, you’ll always have a gap of insecurity. God, who is our shelter, provides true security that lasts forever.

Examine your life today and ask, Am I finding significance or security in marriage anything other than my relationship with Jesus? And then declare in prayer, Lord, YOU are my portion and my cup; YOU make my lot secure!


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