“Fair” Marriage = Both Spouses Give 100 Percent
The 50/50 marriage is an arrangement of trade-offs and compromises, with spouses keeping score so one person never gets more or gives more than the other. Serving and submitting to one another are replaced by an emphasis on getting what is rightfully yours. Marriages only work when each spouse is giving 100 percent.
Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.
Let’s be our spouse’s chief encourager. No one else can offer them words of encouragement the way we can. It’s our job to survey whatever threatens our spouse’s physical and spiritual well-being and cooperate with God to say, “I have some good news for you. Some wonderful news…”
3 Small Changes Greatly Improve Your Marriage
What is it that makes changing so hard? Over the past few years I believe God has shown me some things about myself that make changing so difficult. These things are universal and I believe once I learn them and understand them it will make changes much easier.
The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make
I’ve given my life to helping newlyweds prepare start their marriages off right. Here are four common mistakes I see them make.
3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance
When the stress of life gets in the way of our romance, Cathy proactively applies what she calls the Three Golden Rules for Romance.
Words Can Bring You Down
Words can bring you down, burn down a marriage, a family, a church, a workplace, a culture. It’s happening all around us.
My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?
What can you do if your spouse watches porn? As you seek authentic intimacy in your marriage, here are a few practical steps to take.
How to Stop a Financial Fight Before it Starts
This is an excerpt from Cherie and Brian Lowe’s book, Your Money, Your Marriage, about how to avoid a financial fight.
Stressed Out Spouse: 10 Ways to Help
Ever feel like your stressed out spouse is short with you? What are you going to do to help your spouse through stress? Here are 10 keys.
What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?
What if the arguments you had with your spouse was broadcast out for others to hear? What if every disagreement with you and your spouse was broadcast on Facebook live for all the world to see and hear?
Practice Your Way to Better Sex
For most couples it takes years to make sex work like clockwork, where you’re both enjoying it, and you both climax. Better sex is absolutely possible, if you practice!
Are You Always Irritated at Your Spouse?
Are you always irritated with your spouse? Funny how some things that attracted you to your lovely spouse now drive you up the wall.
Negative Emotion is Vital For a Healthy Relationship
An intolerance of OTHERS’ negative emotion is precluded by an intolerance of our own negative emotion. This dynamic is a marriage killer.
My Husband Won’t Touch Me … Now What?
At one point it felt like my husband did everything not to touch me. Here are four ways we recaptured the magic.
It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail
It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is the other side of the argument that video is making. Sometimes, it IS about the nail. But even if you don't know what I'm talking about, this is worth your time to read. Enjoy!
Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.
What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I believe this is a symptom of a deeper problem.
7 Christian Marriage Myths. Does #3 Surprise You?
The hard truth about a Christian marriage is that your marriage will not be perfect just because you’re Christians. Don't buy these myths.
How to Treat “Soul Cancer” In Your Marriage
As you look at your own life, don’t wait for issues to fester, allowing soul cancer to grow. Find those who can help you prep for surgery.
Take Off The Disguise When You’re With Your Spouse
I do it because wearing a disguise is comfortable and easy, while being real requires vulnerability. Being real requires courage and risk.
How to Unconditionally Love An Imperfect Spouse
The call to cherish your wife or husband is a call to respond in an understanding way to a sometimes imperfect and even unhealthy spouse.
How to Minimize Marriage’s Little Annoyances.
Here’s the truth: the chances are very high that some of these little annoyances your spouse does, won’t ever change. So what do you do?
Words Can Burn it All Down
Words can burn it all down. Words can destroy your family, they can destroy your heart, they can destroy your marriage.
3 Obstacles to Forgiveness, And How to Fight Them
Once you identify obstacles to forgiveness, they tend to dissolve and allow you to proceed with your conscious wish to forgive.
Is It Way Too Easy for Your Husband to Push Your Anger Button?
If we want to get emotionally healthy, with ourselves and with others, we need to be willing to go below the surface of our anger.
Don’t Let Little Annoyances Become Huge Problems
Identifying little annoyances allows you to train yourself to let them go, and refuse to give them power over your attitude.
10 Questions High Sex Drive Spouses Should Ask
Are you the high sex drive husband, and you’re wondering what to do because your wife rarely wants sex? Here are 10 questions you should ask.
How to Build Trust in a Marriage
After being married nearly 20 years, Kristen and I work like crazy to be on the same team and to build trust with one another.
How to Fall in Love All Over Again
Celebrating love usually isn’t something that “comes over” you. You don’t just sit around and wait to fall in love again.
The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”
Some of the most powerful, life-giving, exciting words you will ever agree to are said during your marriage vows: as long as we both shall live.
Husbands, Help Carry Your Wife’s Mental Load.
Women’s mental load is not a problem with men as much as it is a problem with the way our whole culture sees the responsibilities of women.
Husbands Don’t Need To Be The “Tie-Breaker”
If people are so sure they need a tie-breaker in their marriage, chances are they’ve lived life taking shortcuts to finding a real solution.
About to Lose Your Cool? Self-Control Keys
Do you ever lose your cool in an argument? Self-control comes from our thoughts, which influence how we feel and how we...
Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives
Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying
Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...
70 Great Conversation Starters for Couples
Have you ever had a date night where you just stare at your spouse and think "I have no idea what to talk about?"...
The Night My Marriage Almost Ended
Today's post comes from our long-time partner, Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and was written by Ketsia Gutsave, from the blog Pure Couples. Ketsia is...
Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts
If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
Healthy Marriage Habits: Daily, Weekly, Monthly, & Yearly
To develop a healthy marriage, it is important that two vital elements come together.
First, at some point you must draw a line...
3 Easy Keys To Clear Communication.
Just because someone’s mouth is moving doesn’t mean clear communication is taking place. Clear communication is sharing yourself verbally and nonverbally in...
You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.
There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
What To Do When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse
Have you ever hurt your spouse in some way? All right, so it’s a trick question. Of course you have hurt your...
Quality Time Quick Tips: Simple Ways to Connect.
I took a selfie of my wife and I recently. At the top of the page, you can see Michelle and I...
Are You Thinking About What You’re Thinking?
If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we...
Loving, Not Resenting, That Your Spouse is Different.
I have sought to suck the marrow out of life. Since I am married for life, I want to be intensely married, to explore...
3 Simple Habits For Better Communication
The ministry of serving love involves discovering and meeting needs. Being committed to serving love is one thing; knowing how to discover and...
Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage
It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
All Marriages Are Imperfect. And All Can Improve.
“You know, your prayers are pretty shallow. Why don’t you pray a real prayer?”
The young man was reeling—was she really going to leave him...
The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse
This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
Dare to Find the Positive During This Pandemic
As the weeks of pandemic cascade into months of avoidance of our human kind to save lives, new norms are settling in. ...
4 Ways to Navigate Covid-19: A Survival Guide
Life in 2020 is filled with concerns about health, jobs, and the economy. Yet your most worrisome problem right now might not be...