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When Something We Value Is Broken, We Fix It.

One major key to our 30 plus-year marriage is that Ramona has been blessed with startlingly low expectations. Today she was ECSTATIC when I...
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Is My Marriage Too Broken, Even for Counseling?

Today's post comes from Andre and Timberly at livingourpriorities.com. Do you feel like your marriage is so far gone that even counseling won’t work? Well, we...

Is Your Marriage’s Health At Risk? Here’s How to Find Out

Today's post from America's Family Coaches is absolutely right on. Behind all the details and distractions, how is the heart of your marriage doing?...
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Unconditional Love – The One Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You

Marriage is at its best when we see a glimpse of the unconditional love of God reflected in our spouse’s eyes. Here's how.
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Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.
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Building Rock Solid Marriages That Last.

If you’re married, you’ve probably figured out that marriage isn’t always easy.  And it’s not supposed to be.  Like anything, time comes...
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How to be a Cheerleader in Your Marriage

"See to it that you really do love each other intensely with all your hearts." 1 Peter 1:22 In the early 1990s, William and Esther flew...
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Why My Wife Was Sneaking Out of Bed at 2 A.M.

You might be shocked by why one former pastor's wife was sneaking out of bed at two in the morning (in the best kind of way).
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The Destructive Danger of a Negative Spouse

A negative spouse reeks destruction on marriages. Here's how... Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion...
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A Marriage That Can’t Forgive, Won’t Survive

Miranda had been spending money on a secret credit card for months. She hid receipts, she removed price tags, she sometimes even...
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3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
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Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them

If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
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What I’d Tell Myself on My Wedding Day

Today's post comes from Pam Blosser and her blog, www.journeytohim.com.   A couple of weeks ago I watched my daughter walk down a flower-edged aisle dressed in...

Your Spouse Doesn’t Deserve Your Love

One of the most challenging and beautiful aspects of the Christian faith is grace: undeserved kindness. Today's post comes from our longtime partners at...
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How Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage Now

Whether you're familiar with the term or not, your family origin impacts marriage in critical ways, for good or bad. Find out how.
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Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
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Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

When the Bible tells husbands to love their wives like Christ loves the church, it’s calling us to an initiating, reaching-out love.
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3 Ways to Grow Your Commitment in Marriage

Words alone don’t ensure fidelity but they sure do help strengthen your commitment in marriage to each other.
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How to Get Engaged –When You’re Already Married

Recently we sat on the floor in a crowded airline terminal and played a game of Scrabble on our trusty iPad. We had about...
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7 Steps to Get the Most out of Marriage Counseling

This isn't the first time we've said this, but we're a big fan of therapy (done well) here at Thriving Marriages. Today's great post...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...
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Want a Happy Marriage? Stop Asking Your Spouse to Do This.

Don’t you think it would be cruel to ask your spouse to hold down five jobs? Let’s say your...
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In-Laws Causing Issues? What Can You Do?

It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But how do you go about it?
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Your Marriage Is a Marathon You’re Running Together.

Christian marriage is tandem marathon. You and your spouse have linked hearts to serve God and navigate the ups and downs of life together.
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5 TED Talks for Your Marriage

Our friends over at simplemarriage.net recently posted 5 TED talks for your marriage that would be great for you and your spouse to watch...

The Secret to “Happily Ever After” In Your Marriage

Is it really possible to find "happily ever after" in your marriage? It won't be easy, but Les and Leslie Parrott share how couples...
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How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Celebrating love usually isn’t something that “comes over” you. You don’t just sit around and wait to fall in love again.
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The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy. My husband...

An Emotional Affair: How to Guard Your Marriage

Today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a great look at why an emotional affair is dangerous, but...
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You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.

There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
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6 Steps to Forgiveness in Your Marriage

Today's post about steps to forgiveness comes from America's Family Coaches. Who is supposed to initiate the process of forgiveness in a marriage relationship: the...

11 Boring Habits that Build an Exhilarating Marriage

The truth is that every great accomplishment you've witnessed, whether in sports, the arts, or a great relationship, happened because of years of practice...
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3 Lies That Lead to An Affair

There are three lies that every couple should not believe because they could lead to an affair. A common pitfall, which all...
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We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
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6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.

Forgiveness can be costly. A major step in the process of forgiveness is releasing your offending spouse, giving up on revenge and...
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7 Suggestions to Strengthen Your Marriage

The key in those difficult times of of trouble isn’t to panic, but to intentionally work to strengthen your marriage.
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3 Habits of Couples Who Persevere

Every couple I have ever known has times when they are disillusioned, angry, depressed, tired, or just plain ready to give up. It could...
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You Already Have What You’re Looking For in Your Marriage

Today's post is a powerful reminder from Elisabeth Klein. If you like it, be sure to check out one of her books we've linked...
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The 1 Thing Your Wife Needs But Doesn’t Know How to Tell You

What a great, great piece of advice about what your wife needs from our friend at America's Family Coaches.  Every woman has times when she...
How do you get that spark in your marriage if you feel like you've lost it? How do you rekindle the marriage intimacy and excitement if you feel like you've just become roommates. Never fear! These 10 ways could help you get that spark back into your marriage! #marriage #Christianmarriage #ThrivingMarriages #intimacy #marriagesupport #marriagetips #marriageadvice #sexandintimacy #connectwithyourspouse #Christianhusband #Christianwife #bettermarriage

10 Ways to Get Back the Spark in Your Marriage

How do you get that spark in marriage if you feel like you’ve lost it? How do you rekindle...
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What to Do When You’re Not Feeling It

What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.
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Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
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1 Easy Way to Have a Great Weekend with Your Spouse

Want to have a great weekend with your spouse? Sometimes here at Thriving Marriages we post long, detailed content that dives into the deep waters...

Marriage is More Than Free Sex and Housekeeping

Today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy is a great reminder - our marriages are more than free sex and housekeeping, much more than...
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An Extramarital Affair Is Always Intentional

Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every extramarital affair is...
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Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
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Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David

David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
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Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

The lesson is painfully clear: connecting with Jesus is a better choice than busyness.There will always be more to do! Know what I mean?
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Therapy Can’t Save Your Marriage, but it CAN Help

In some spheres of Christianity, therapy is looked at suspiciously; however, here at Thriving Marriages we're a huge fan of (good) therapy and believe...

Can Marriage Survive When the Unthinkable Happens?

Today's post from Intimacy in Marriage is real, and raw, and a gruelingly painful description of a marriage fighting to survive the death of...