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The Vow I Failed to Make on My Wedding Day

Today's post comes from friend and blogger Eryn Lynum. The laughter from the 150 people sitting before us offered me a gracious moment to compose myself. I...

Your Spouse Doesn’t Deserve Your Love

One of the most challenging and beautiful aspects of the Christian faith is grace: undeserved kindness. Today's post comes from our longtime partners at...
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10 Things Kids Learn from Their Parents’ Marriage

What do kids learn from their parents' marriage? Not long ago, I was asked if I intentionally taught my kids about marriage. My answer...
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Why Your Spouse NEEDS You To Have Other Friends

There’s something wonderful you can do for your marriage that will feed and protect it.  I’m not talking about reading a marriage...
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It’s Not About Fighting Fair. It’s About Giving Up on “Fairness” Altogether.

SOME SAY, "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR" - BUT IN MY OPINION, THAT ACTUALLY ISN'T TRUE.  If you really sit down...
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Marriage Advice You Never Expected: Fight Like Mad

I went to a wedding today. It was a good wedding. A stunning dress, beautiful flowers, a moving exchange, a promising kiss, the thunderous...
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7 Steps to Get the Most out of Marriage Counseling

This isn't the first time we've said this, but we're a big fan of therapy (done well) here at Thriving Marriages. Today's great post...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...
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The 1 Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You Today

A quick note up front. I (Josh) love talking about how to create and sustain healthy marriages. If you are a pastor...
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Are Toxic Family Members Hurting Your Marriage? Here’s What to Do.

MEYGAN AND I BOTH ADMIT THAT THERE HAVE BEEN MANY TIMES WE'VE MADE EXCUSES FOR THE BEHAVIOR OF OUR TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS BECAUSE…...
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How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Knowing when it’s time to run

This is part 2 of a series  we're doing every Monday through the month of July. You can find part 1 here. It's the most...

The Secret to Finding “Happily Ever After” In Your Marriage (Yes, It’s Possible!)

Why is everyone hungry for more? “More, more,” they say. “More, more.” I have God’s more-than-enough. More joy in one ordinary day. Psalm 4:6-7 Every couple about to be...
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How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Fall in love again? No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt...
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A Marriage That Can’t Forgive, Won’t Survive

Miranda had been spending money on a secret credit card for months. She hid receipts, she removed price tags, she sometimes even...
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“Never Surrender.” Don’t Give Up, Your Marriage Can Thrive For a Lifetime.

A divorce lawyer recently posted an article arguing that the vow “till death do us part” is passé, unrealistic, and needs to...
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What I’d Tell Myself on My Wedding Day

Today's post comes from Pam Blosser and her blog, www.journeytohim.com.   A couple of weeks ago I watched my daughter walk down a flower-edged aisle dressed in...

11 Boring Habits that Build an Exhilarating Marriage

The truth is that every great accomplishment you've witnessed, whether in sports, the arts, or a great relationship, happened because of years of practice...
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How Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage Now

The term family of origin is familiar to some but many not everyone.  Everyone should have an understanding of it, being that...
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Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
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4 Great Tips on How to Build Trust in a Relationship

TRUST IS THE GLUE THAT HOLDS MARRIAGES TOGETHER. Trust provides an emotional safety net to share your deepest struggles, fears, feelings and desires...
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Do You Feel Like Your Spouse’s Lowest Priority?

We often hear from people who feel as if they just aren't a priority in their spouse’s life. Often it's the wife who feels...
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You Already Have What You’re Looking For in Your Marriage

Today's post is a powerful reminder from Elisabeth Klein. If you like it, be sure to check out one of her books we've linked...
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The 1 Thing Your Wife Needs But Doesn’t Know How to Tell You

What a great, great piece of advice about what your wife needs from our friend at America's Family Coaches.  Every woman has times when she...
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Want a Happy Marriage? Stop Asking Your Spouse to Do This.

Don’t you think it would be cruel to ask your spouse to hold down five jobs? Let’s say your...
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Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit) someone else. While they may have...
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How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: the dangerous person profile

Every Monday in the month of July we’re doing a series called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage.” While each week can stand alone, here...

Your Marriage is More Than Free Sex and Housekeeping

Today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy is a great reminder - our marriages are more than just a contract, a routine, or an...
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An Extramarital Affair Is Always Intentional

Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every extramarital affair is...
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The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

My husband and I are leading a Bible study with mostly newlywed couples. After a few weeks, we noticed how often we...
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Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
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6 Steps to Forgiveness in Your Marriage

Today's post about steps to forgiveness comes from America's Family Coaches. Who is supposed to initiate the process of forgiveness in a marriage relationship: the...

Can Marriage Survive When the Unthinkable Happens?

Today's post from Intimacy in Marriage is real, and raw, and a gruelingly painful description of a marriage fighting to survive the death of...
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3 Lies That Lead to An Affair

There are three lies that every couple should not believe because they could lead to an affair. A common pitfall, which all...
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We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
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Help, My Imperfect Spouse Is Ruining My Perfect Marriage!

Q: Well, the honeymoon is over and I’ve discovered that my spouse is not perfect. Now what? A: Your wedding may have been...
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Are You Taking Your Low-Maintenance Spouse For Granted?

Traps You Can Fall Into If Your Spouse Is Low-Maintenance 1. It’s easy to put your needs before their needs. Marriage calls for us to...
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4 Commitments I Made in Marriage (or: How I’m not the Hulk Anymore)

Today's post is written by me (Josh), your friendly neighborhood Thriving Marriages editor. If you'd like to know more about me, well you're about...

Practical Ideas for a High Maintenance Marriage

Today's post comes from the wonderful Jim Burns at Homeword. Check out the discussion questions at the end and have a conversation with your...
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10 Ways to Get Back the Spark in Your Marriage

How do you get that spark in marriage if you feel like you’ve lost it? How do you rekindle...
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Issues With the In-Laws? Maybe You Need to Create Some Healthy Boundaries. Here’s How.

It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But...
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5 TED Talks for Your Marriage

Our friends over at simplemarriage.net recently posted 5 TED talks for your marriage that would be great for you and your spouse to watch...
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7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

It's worth studying how to avoid an affair. As someone who got dangerously close to an affair myself, several of these points rang true...
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A Marriage Lasting Longer Than the Wedding Ceremony

Looking for a great gift to give to an engaged couple that will help them get spiritually prepared for marriage? Are you half of an...
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Does Your Sex Life Feel Broken? You Can Always Rebuild It! Here’s How.

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
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Reasons For Divorce: The 4 Most Toxic Traits of a Marriage

No one intends to get married with the goal of ending it all. Yet 50% of all couples tying the knot this...
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Therapy Can’t Save Your Marriage, but it CAN Help

In some spheres of Christianity, therapy is looked at suspiciously; however, here at Thriving Marriages we're a huge fan of (good) therapy and believe...
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10 Marriage Lessons After 10 Years of Marriage

Today's tip post about marriage lessons is a charming, honest, funny post from Celeste at Marriage Laboratory. Hope you enjoy! 10 years. Rich and I have...
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How Married Do You Want to Be?

How earnestly do you want to feel close to your spouse? Enough to kill something for it?
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1 Secret Every Man Needs to Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
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When Something We Value Is Broken, We Fix It.

One major key to our 30 plus-year marriage is that Ramona has been blessed with startlingly low expectations. Today she was ECSTATIC when I...