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Real Love is Tough Like Tires (But in a Romantic Way)

Images matter, and how we imagine what love should look like has a huge impact on our satisfaction in marriage and our...
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Marriage Advice You Never Expected: Fight Like Mad

I went to a wedding today. It was a good wedding. A stunning dress, beautiful flowers, a moving exchange, a promising kiss, the thunderous...
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How 2 Minutes a Day Can Change Your Marriage

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas, and our friends at Homeword. While working on my book Cherish: The One Word That Changes Everything for Your Marriage, I...

How to Have an Increasingly Happy Marriage

I have always been annoyed by the whole "marriage is for holiness, not happiness" mantra, and in today's post Gary Thomas explains why: holiness...
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Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
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Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
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Remember to Cherish What’s Special In Your Spouse.

Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. –Ephesians 5:33 One...
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How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: “it’s time to flee”

This is part 2 of a series, this week on knowing when, like Joseph from the Bible, it's time to flee from temptation. You...
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The Two Words that Kill a Marriage: “I Deserve”

Our Thriving Marriages community has grown a LOT in the past year, which is exciting! It also means that most of you missed out...
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The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
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4 Ways To Build A Strong Community That Supports Your Marriage

We all need a marriage community – a support system around us of couples our age, and maybe a mentor couple that’s a...
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Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
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Finding a Spouse You Can Suffer With

Today's post is not only a well-written and very powerful post from www.newsanchortohomemaker.com, but something that resonates deeply with me (Josh) as my wife...

Your Marriage’s Weak Spot Isn’t Your Spouse

Everything you need to learn about marriage comes from watching women in bikinis - who knew?!? Today's post comes from the always-amazing Gary Thomas....
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How to Build Emotional Intimacy in Marriage

For women, emotional intimacy in marriage is crucial to a deep, thriving relationship. And the research proves it! For our book, The Five Love...
energy

What to Do When You Don’t Have Any Energy Left For Your Spouse

After a full day of work and dealing with the kids, do you feel like you don’t have much time or energy...
roots

4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime

In 1962 someone built our home. I don’t have the deeds for the other homes on our street, but I assume they...
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Do You Feel Like Your Spouse’s Lowest Priority?

We often hear from people who feel as if they just aren't a priority in their spouse’s life. Often it's the wife who feels...
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Is My Marriage Too Broken, Even for Counseling?

Today's post comes from Andre and Timberly at livingourpriorities.com. Do you feel like your marriage is so far gone that even counseling won’t work? Well, we...

Is Your Marriage’s Health At Risk? Here’s How to Find Out

Today's post from America's Family Coaches is absolutely right on. Behind all the details and distractions, how is the heart of your marriage doing?...
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You Have a Strong Marriage, When You’re Doing This Together.

I first fell in love with my wife during a conversation about an ex-girlfriend. Granted, this "ex" was a girl I dated...
adultery

Adultery Is Alarmingly Common, But It Doesn’t Have to Happen to You.

For men and women, adultery begins in the heart. And for men particularly, it begins when the heart is not guarded against...
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Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage

It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
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How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: the dangerous person profile

Every Monday in the month of July we’re doing a series called “How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage.” While each week can stand alone, here...
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Why My Wife Was Sneaking Out of Bed at 2 A.M.

This article comes from Jerrad Lopes, the dad and husband behind the DadTired.com community, which helps men lead their family well! Jerrad originally shared...
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The Destructive Danger of a Negative Spouse

A negative spouse reeks destruction on marriages. Here's how... Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion...

Is Your Past Hurt Making You Kind or Cold To Your Spouse?

Today's post from Doug Fields doesn't directly mention marriage, but man is it so applicable. In marriage our personal wounds, past experiences,...
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Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.

There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh...
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The Vow I Failed to Make on My Wedding Day

Today's post comes from friend and blogger Eryn Lynum. The laughter from the 150 people sitting before us offered me a gracious moment to compose myself. I...

Your Spouse Doesn’t Deserve Your Love

One of the most challenging and beautiful aspects of the Christian faith is grace: undeserved kindness. Today's post comes from our longtime partners at...
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10 Things Kids Learn from Their Parents’ Marriage

What do kids learn from their parents' marriage? Not long ago, I was asked if I intentionally taught my kids about marriage. My answer...
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Why Your Spouse NEEDS You To Have Other Friends

There’s something wonderful you can do for your marriage that will feed and protect it.  I’m not talking about reading a marriage...
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The Key to Cherishing Your Spouse For a Lifetime

Neuroscience tells us that the shelf-life of an infatuation is about twelve to eighteen months. It’s a nice run while it lasts,...
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Are You Taking Your Low-Maintenance Spouse For Granted?

Traps You Can Fall Into If Your Spouse Is Low-Maintenance 1. It’s easy to put your needs before their needs. Marriage calls for us to...
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7 Steps to Get the Most out of Marriage Counseling

This isn't the first time we've said this, but we're a big fan of therapy (done well) here at Thriving Marriages. Today's great post...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...
unconditional love

The 1 Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You Today

A quick note up front. I (Josh) love talking about how to create and sustain healthy marriages. If you are a pastor...
ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit) someone else. While they may have...
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Building Rock Solid Marriages That Last.

If you’re married, you’ve probably figured out that marriage isn’t always easy.  And it’s not supposed to be.  Like anything, time comes...
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How to be a Cheerleader in Your Marriage

"See to it that you really do love each other intensely with all your hearts." 1 Peter 1:22 In the early 1990s, William and Esther flew...

The Secret to Finding “Happily Ever After” In Your Marriage (Yes, It’s Possible!)

Why is everyone hungry for more? “More, more,” they say. “More, more.” I have God’s more-than-enough. More joy in one ordinary day. Psalm 4:6-7 Every couple about to be...
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How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Fall in love again? No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt...
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A Marriage That Can’t Forgive, Won’t Survive

Miranda had been spending money on a secret credit card for months. She hid receipts, she removed price tags, she sometimes even...
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
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What I’d Tell Myself on My Wedding Day

Today's post comes from Pam Blosser and her blog, www.journeytohim.com.   A couple of weeks ago I watched my daughter walk down a flower-edged aisle dressed in...

11 Boring Habits that Build an Exhilarating Marriage

The truth is that every great accomplishment you've witnessed, whether in sports, the arts, or a great relationship, happened because of years of practice...
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How Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage Now

The term family of origin is familiar to some but many not everyone.  Everyone should have an understanding of it, being that...
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
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Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my...
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When Something We Value Is Broken, We Fix It.

One major key to our 30 plus-year marriage is that Ramona has been blessed with startlingly low expectations. Today she was ECSTATIC when I...