questions to ask your spouse

25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

John Gottman calls them love maps. We call them open ended questions to ask your spouse. The point here is that you talk,...
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

Q: We don’t have big fights, but lots of little disagreements and hurts simmer under the surface. How can we handle these? A: The moment...
communication

3 Communication Breakdowns You Can Fix Today

Communication is so important in a relationship. It’s the way we express our needs and wants to our partner. But sometimes, the message doesn’t...
shame

Is Shame Ruining Your Relationship?

Dr. Richard Nicastro, Phd, deftly illuminates the undercurrent of one of the most toxic relationship challenges; shame, often at the root of individual distress...
communication

Communication is a Kind of Communion

There’s no doubt about it: Communication is vital in marriage. When couples don’t share their lives and hearts with each other consistently, the atmosphere in...
physically affectionate

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
emotional intimacy

How to Build Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

For women, emotional intimacy is crucial to a deep, thriving relationship. And the research proves it! For our book, The Five Love Needs of...
conflict

8 Sources of Conflict You Can Remove Immediately

What Are Your Conflict Blocks? Dealing with conflict in appropriate and positive ways is a learned trait. Typically, we’ll begin learning conflict management at about...
seasons

Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

As we enter a new season, I find my thoughts slowly shifting from warm, sunny days enjoying the freedom and flexibility of a summer...
arguments

What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?

A few days ago while in a disagreement with one of my boys, we exchanged a few “pleasantries” that I don’t want to repeat...
marriage vows

The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

This is the third in a series of posts excerpted from my new book, Preparing Your Heart for Marriage, a devotional for engaged couples. The second...
reasons for divorce

God’s Solutions to the Reasons For Divorce

Do you feel just plain unhappy in your marriage? Or that you’re no longer in love with your spouse? Some would say you should...
tough times

Four Amazing Truths to Remember in Tough Times

All marriages hit tough times, and most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we focus on  how to survive them. A list of...
confrontation

How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

When it comes to confrontation, I have a rule of thumb that has proved itself to be true over and over again: The one who...
I was wrong

Why Saying “I Was Wrong” Will Transform Your Marriage

If you are old enough to recall the sitcom Happy Days, you’ll remember “The Fonz.” Henry Winkler played the character of Arthur Fonzarelli, the coolest...
emotional responsibility

Why Emotional Responsibility Will Save Your Marriage

In the early years of our marriage, confrontations between Sheri and me usually involved her turning into a T-rex and me turning into a...
annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Minimize the Annoying Moments in Marriage It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these large...
lonely

Why Do I Feel So Lonely In My Marriage?

With thanks to Thomas Nelson for sponsoring this post. I’m not sure if I can point to a single time in my life where I...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
fall in love

How to Fall in Love All Over Again

No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt when we first fell...
better sex

Practice Your Way to Better Sex

For many women, sex just isn’t that great at the beginning of the marriage. This week we’ve been looking at specific ways to have better...
negative spouse

The Destructive Danger of a Negative Spouse

Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion American Ninja Warrior skips over a water obstacle....
forgiveness in marriage

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were in tough shape. Jason had just found out about his wife’s affair...
Warmth

How to Add Warmth to Your Frozen Marriage

It's easy for marriages to become civil but distant, where a continued lack of warmth slowly freezes out love. The good news, coming today...
triangulation

The Devastating Consequences (on Children) of Distant Marriages

The word “triangulation” should haunt every parent actively raising children, and it should warn all of us to not allow our marriages to grow...

Forgiveness is Better than Regret

Today's great post comes from our friends at Live Your Best Marriage. Enjoy! Ever noticed how difficult it is at times to forgive your spouse...

The $1300 Parking Ticket That Changed Our Marriage

This week we are celebrating our friends Cherie and Brian Lowe’s new book, Your Money, Your Marriage, with a series of posts all about the sexiness of...

How to Stop a Financial Fight Before It Starts

This week we are celebrating our friends Cherie and Brian Lowe’s new book, Your Money, Your Marriage, with a series of posts all about the sexiness of...

5 Practical Ways to Change the Temperature of Your Marriage

Today's post comes from the always amazing Doug Fields. Enjoy. Mending wounded relationships is NOT simple and band aids are rarely effective, but there are...

What Do You Want to Believe About Your Spouse?

Today's great post on what we choose to believe about our spouse comes from Marriage Laboratory. Enjoy! There is a person in my life with...

5 Questions to Ask During a Fight

Today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy is timely (my wife and I just had a fight last night!) and I basically did the...

Practical Ideas for a High Maintenance Marriage

Today's post comes from the wonderful Jim Burns at Homeword. Check out the discussion questions at the end and have a conversation with your...

Your Husband Loves You, He Just Can’t Read Your Mind

Early in my marriage I surprised my wife by setting up a Christmas tree (that shed wanted but I'd said we shouldn't get) while...

This 1 Powerful Truth Will Change How You See Your Spouse

Gary Thomas sets up this post on his own, so I'll keep my setup brief: you should read this!  This post continues an ongoing series,...

Forgiving Your Spouse Doesn’t Mean Ignoring Your Feelings

Many marriages don't work through the pain, honesty, and tension that true forgiveness requires. Instead they bury their feelings, build resentments, and slowly drift...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...

4 Tips for Dodging Drama

In lieu of my normal introduction, I'll just let Homeword introduce today's topic and say I wholeheartedly agree. I love all things John Townsend. He...

Don’t Want to Drift Apart? Make Plans to Grow Together

As I was reading this post from Gary Thomas, I was reminded of a catchphrase from one of my all-time favorite show: LOST. The...

Are You Still Curious About Your Spouse?

I really love this post from Scott Kedersha about the power of curiosity, and the humility of never assuming you have your spouse figured...

Is Your Marriage’s Health At Risk? Here’s How to Find Out

Today's post from America's Family Coaches is absolutely right on. Behind all the details and distractions, how is the heart of your marriage doing?...
managing emotions

6 Tips For Managing Your Emotions

Today's post comes from our partners at Connected Marriages. Make sure to check out the great resources they offer! Tips for Emotional Regulation Have you ever...

This 1 Question Can Reignite Your Marriage

 I love the simplicity of today's post. What if you made time to sit down with your spouse and ask this simple question: "what...

How to Avoid World War III AND Be Honest

Today's post from our partners at Engaged Marriages shares some great, practical communication tips. Enjoy! When you’re married, it’s inevitable that some things your partner...

Do You Know Your Marriage’s Superpower?

I really, really enjoyed this post from Scott Kedersha. It's a creative angle on a topic we haven't covered much here at Thriving Marriages,...

The Surprising Reason You’re Angry at Your Spouse Today

Okay some of you aren't angry TODAY, but you were yesterday, or will be tomorrow. This great post from America's Family Coaches explains how...

10 Mental Habits That Fuel Anxiety

I (Josh) struggle with anxiety. So does my wife. Learning how to recognize our anxiety, communicate about it, and manage it has been one...

Sometimes “Don’t Go to Bed Angry” is Terrible Advice

There's a scene in the Bill Murray movie Groundhog Day where Bill yells at a groundhog "don't drive angry!" (it makes more sense in...

Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

I'm a little hesitant to share today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy - not because it isn't amazing, because it's really good! -...

4 Steps Toward a “Chore War” Ceasefire

Do you and your spouse fight over day-to-day household chores? It's time to declare a ceasefire! Today's great post comes from Kathi Lipp, and...

1 Secret Tip for Marrying the Right Person

Today's post comes from our friends at Homeword. When I was in college I wrote an op-ed for my local newspaper about the kind of...