In-Laws

How To Have Healthy Boundaries With Your In-Laws

Q: My mother-in-law really has my husband under her thumb. How can I get her to back off without hurting either of...
stay

5 Signs That Your Marriage is Going to Make It

People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage will last? In some cases, it may not be easy to...
busy

If the Devil Can’t Make You Bad, He’ll Make You Busy

“If the Devil can’t make you bad, he’ll make you busy!” That’s what a friend of mine wrote me on the day...
prayer

Prayer Will Supercharge Your Marriage (Including Your Sex Life!)

Hi Thriving Marriages community, this is Josh, the guy bringing you this content each day. In addition to running this site I...
past

Your Past Can Be a Benefit, Not a Barrier, In Your Sex Life

In our house, we like this show called Impossible Engineering. It’s documentary style and the basic premise is they look at a phenomenal...
finances

Are Finances Supposed to Be the Man’s Job?

Q: My husband is terrible at handling the finances because he hates paperwork. I like to take care of the bills, but...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
check in

This Weekly Routine Will Build the Marriage of Your Dreams

Companionship inventory, marriage meeting, weekly marriage check in or check up- whatever you call it, if you want a healthy, long lasting...
These 20 ways to say i love you to your spouse are great for Valentine's Day romance. But they're also good for any day you want to show love to your spouse and strengthen your marriage. #spiceupmarriage #marriageintimacy #christianmarriage #marriageadvice #marriagegoals #Valentine #Valentinesday #love #iloveyou #lovelanguages

20 Easy Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

These are great ways at Valentine's Day or any time of the year to say I love you to your spouse.
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....
Good communication: Picking the right time, and sometimes place, can be the difference between being heard and your words missing their mark. #marriage #Christianmarriage #Thrivingmarriages #MarriageAdvice #MarriageTips #MarriageSupport

Good Communication Is Saying the Right Words at the Right Time

You’re in penguin adorned pajamas headed to bed, then your partner starts to talk about their day. Gritty stuff,...
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
Here are five FREE ideas for every love language your husband or wife speaks. Win their heart and strengthen your marriage today. Not to mention that you'll save money! #Christianmarriage #marriage #marriageadvice #Valentine #ValentinesDay #marriedlove #romance #marriageintimacy #LoveLanguages #speaklove

Here’s a Killer Valentine’s Day Present For Your Spouse That’s Free!

Are you looking for a meaningful Valentine’s Day without spending a dime? Share the gifts below. Gift of Words...
work

Your Spouse is More Important Than Work

It seems like this conversation happened just yesterday, but it actually happened before Cathy and I had kids. I was a youth...
How do you get that spark in your marriage if you feel like you've lost it? How do you rekindle the marriage intimacy and excitement if you feel like you've just become roommates. Never fear! These 10 ways could help you get that spark back into your marriage! #marriage #Christianmarriage #ThrivingMarriages #intimacy #marriagesupport #marriagetips #marriageadvice #sexandintimacy #connectwithyourspouse #Christianhusband #Christianwife #bettermarriage

10 Ways to Get the Spark Back in Your Marriage

How do you get that spark in marriage if you feel like you’ve lost it? How do you rekindle...
variety

Want a Happier Marriage? Stop Asking Your Spouse to Do This.

Don’t you think it would be cruel to ask your spouse to hold down five jobs? Let’s say your...
intimacy

I Love My Wife, But I Just Don’t Know How To Show Her That.

If we've said it once we've said it a thousand times: Men and women often don't view intimacy the same way! For...
unconditional love

The 1 Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You Today

A quick note up front. I (Josh) love talking about how to create and sustain healthy marriages. If you are a pastor...
fear

6 Powerful Ways to Fight Off Fear

Today's post from The Love and Life Toolbox isn't directly about marriage, but it is about something that directly impacts our marriages:...
arguing

5 Easy Ways to Stop Arguing With Your Spouse

Stop arguing with your spouse…if only it were so simple! Let’s face it…communication is very complex.
year

Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
goals

Set These Realistic Goals for Your Marriage in 2019

A few years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, Troy and I began the tradition of setting goals for our marriage...
hardest

Last Year Was One of the Hardest Years of My Life … but One...

Most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we bring you the best content we've found around the web for building a...
change

Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

I’ve been asked several times, “Gary, what do you do when Sacred Marriage doesn’t work?” At first, I was confused by the question....
communication

A Resolution for Great Communication

In this new year, make a resolution for better communication with your spouse! Communication is the process of sharing yourself verbally and...
emotions

Why Won’t My Husband Share His Emotions With Me?

“Man up.” “Suck it up.” “Real men don’t cry.” Boys learn very...
spouse

Are You Always Irritated at Your Spouse?

Think back to the day you were married.  How did you feel about your partner?  If you’re like many couples, you were...
trust

Do You Trust the Person You’re Having Sex With?

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage...
connection

Behind Every Fight Is a Desire For Connection

Beth and Paul were sitting on the coach in front of me struggling to connect. They both felt dismissed, ignored, blamed, angry...
integrity

Should You Bring It Up, Or Let It Go?

For most of my marriage, I’ve had this question, that I just COULDN’T puzzle out. It is this: when...
questions to ask your spouse

25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

John Gottman calls them love maps. We call them open ended questions to ask your spouse. The point here is that you talk,...
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

Q: We don’t have big fights, but lots of little disagreements and hurts simmer under the surface. How can we handle these? A: The moment...
communication

3 Communication Breakdowns You Can Fix Today

Communication is so important in a relationship. It’s the way we express our needs and wants to our partner. But sometimes, the message doesn’t...
shame

Is Shame Ruining Your Relationship?

Dr. Richard Nicastro, Phd, deftly illuminates the undercurrent of one of the most toxic relationship challenges; shame, often at the root of individual distress...
communication

Communication is a Kind of Communion

There’s no doubt about it: Communication is vital in marriage. When couples don’t share their lives and hearts with each other consistently, the atmosphere in...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
emotional intimacy

How to Build Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

For women, emotional intimacy is crucial to a deep, thriving relationship. And the research proves it! For our book, The Five Love Needs of...
conflict

8 Sources of Conflict You Can Remove Immediately

What Are Your Conflict Blocks? Dealing with conflict in appropriate and positive ways is a learned trait. Typically, we’ll begin learning conflict management at about...
seasons

Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

As we enter a new season, I find my thoughts slowly shifting from warm, sunny days enjoying the freedom and flexibility of a summer...
arguments

What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?

A few days ago while in a disagreement with one of my boys, we exchanged a few “pleasantries” that I don’t want to repeat...
marriage vows

The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

This is the third in a series of posts excerpted from my new book, Preparing Your Heart for Marriage, a devotional for engaged couples. The second...
reasons for divorce

God’s Solutions to the Reasons For Divorce

Do you feel just plain unhappy in your marriage? Or that you’re no longer in love with your spouse? Some would say you should...
tough times

Four Amazing Truths to Remember in Tough Times

All marriages hit tough times, and most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we focus on  how to survive them. A list of...
confrontation

How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

When it comes to confrontation, I have a rule of thumb that has proved itself to be true over and over again: The one who...
I was wrong

Why Saying “I Was Wrong” Will Transform Your Marriage

If you are old enough to recall the sitcom Happy Days, you’ll remember “The Fonz.” Henry Winkler played the character of Arthur Fonzarelli, the coolest...
emotional responsibility

Why Emotional Responsibility Will Save Your Marriage

In the early years of our marriage, confrontations between Sheri and me usually involved her turning into a T-rex and me turning into a...
annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Minimize the Annoying Moments in Marriage It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these large...
lonely

Why Do I Feel So Lonely In My Marriage?

With thanks to Thomas Nelson for sponsoring this post. I’m not sure if I can point to a single time in my life where I...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
fall in love

How to Fall in Love All Over Again

No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt when we first fell...