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The Only “Fair” Marriage Is When Both Spouses Give 100 Percent.

Happily married Eric and Jill climbed out of bed at their normal Saturday morning hour. They had a lot to do around...

Fighting Fair: 5 Commitments for Building a Conflict Resilient Connection

When two people choose to walk together in relationship, there is never a question of whether or not they will experience conflict. Believe me,...

There Are Some Problems You Can’t Solve

John Gottman, one of the top marriage researchers, estimates that 69% of marital conflicts are perpetual. That means that couples will have the same...
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Understanding the Mind of the Man you Married

Did you know men and women think differently? I KNOW. Surprising. Turns out there's a perfectly logical, scientific explanation, and today's post from Gary...
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3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
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The Danger of ‘Choice Paralysis’ When Your Marriage is Struggling

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas and is an adaptation from his new book Loving Him Well: Practical Advice for Influencing Your Husband. While the...
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Men, Emotional Intimacy Might Not Come As Easy For Us, But It’s Something We...

For Part 4 in this series on marital intimacy, I’m writing again about emotional intimacy. Often when we think of intimacy our...

Removing the Word Grenades from Your Marriage

For the first time in years I'm attending the Global Leadership Summit sponsored by Willow Creek Community Church. It's one of my favorite conferences...
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Bids for Connection: The Tool This Expert Says Is the Secret to Great...

It’s not big, blow out fights that wreck a marriage. It’s how we treat each other day to day. And that’s why...

The Surprising Reason You’re Angry at Your Spouse Today

Okay some of you aren't angry TODAY, but you were yesterday, or will be tomorrow. This great post from America's Family Coaches explains how...
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Attunement: This Odd Word Can Save Your Marriage

  Have you ever gotten into a big fight with your spouse and not handled it very well? I don’t think I know...
trust

Do You Trust the Person You’re Having Sex With?

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage...
stress

How to Fight Off Stress While Stuck Inside

I haven’t left the house for over a week as my wife and I stay at home to stop the spread of...
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It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail

It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is...
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When Little Fights Become Big Problems

The moment you do or say something that hurts your spouse, you stand at a fork in the road, whether you are aware of it or not.
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What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...

3 Tips to a Stronger Marriage, One Day at a Time

Choose a path. Every action we take, or choose not to take, puts us on a path. The same goes for our beliefs. All of...
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Tone Deaf: Is What You’re Saying Hidden By How You’re Saying It?

I've said this several times, but Doug Fields is both a ludicrously gifted communicator and a very kind mentor and friend of...
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Is Shame Ruining Your Relationship?

Dr. Richard Nicastro, Phd, deftly illuminates the undercurrent of one of the most toxic relationship challenges; shame, often at the root of individual distress...
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Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...

5 Things You’re Responsible for in Your Marriage

In our marriage mentoring, I like to talk about what each one of us is responsible for. Couples are often confused about this. When...
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Should You Bring It Up, Or Let It Go?

For most of my marriage, I’ve had this question, that I just COULDN’T puzzle out. It is this: when...
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Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

God has not called you to change your wife. Instead, He has commanded you to love her as Christ loves the church.

What to Expect When You’re Expecting

Today's post comes from our friends Jim and Doug over at Homeword. You can buy their book here.  Many couples don’t take time to share with...
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About to Lose Your Cool? Self-Control Keys

Do you ever lose your cool in an argument? Self-control comes from our thoughts, which influence how we feel and how we...

2 Lies Culture Tells Us About Love and Romance

1. Love is a feeling. Almost all cultural signs point to this dangerous lie, that love is something you fall in and out of, a...
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The Two Words that Kill a Marriage

Do you know what two words will kill a marriage? Many couples get caught in this two-word trap. Here's how you can break free.
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Why Won’t My Husband Share His Emotions With Me?

Why won't my husband share his emotions with me? It's all... “Man up.” “Suck it up.”...

How I Got My Spouse to Start Apologizing

All marriages have a conflict style, and most of them are at least a little unhealthy ... i mean ... I've heard ... I wouldn't know...
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5 Easy Ways to Stop Fighting With Your Spouse

Stop fighting with your spouse…if only it were so simple! Let’s face it…communication is very complex.
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How To Have Healthy Boundaries With Your In-Laws

Q: My mother-in-law really has my husband under her thumb. How can I get her to back off without hurting either of...
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Why The Hugely Popular Book “Love & Respect” Could Be Harmful to Your Sex...

When I was first married, sex hurt. And I felt terribly guilty about that. Have you ever looked back on your younger self...
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“I’m Faithfully Following Jesus, So Why Is My Marriage Such a Mess?”

Many Christians walk away from their faith because what they know about following Jesus isn’t consistent with the loneliness they face.
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Want a Happy Marriage? Stop Asking Your Spouse to Do This.

Don’t you think it would be cruel to ask your spouse to hold down five jobs? Let’s say your...
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4 Questions That Can Stop Fighting

We all want to stop fighting because it's no fun! I remember the first serious fight my wife and I ever had. It was...

How to Stop a Financial Fight Before it Starts

This is an excerpt from Cherie and Brian Lowe’s  book, Your Money, Your Marriage, about how to avoid a financial fight.  Everyday after school, I...
in-laws

In-Laws Causing Issues? What Can You Do?

It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But how do you go about it?
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Last Year Was One of the Hardest Years of My Life … but One...

Most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we bring you the best content we've found around the web for building a...
tough times

Four Comforting Truths to Remember in Tough Times

Do the hard work during tough times. In the process both of you will become closer to the best version of who God made your marriage will be.
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

I don’t know about you, but I often overlook the Lord’s eternal perspective. He sees all of time, from beginning to end,...
anxiety

Anxiety Doesn’t Always Win: Finding Joy In Stress

Anxiety plagues many of us, stealing our peace of mind, but also inserting itself into our marriages. And that can cause some real...

How to Survive When Your Marriage is Under Attack

Today's post comes from Live Your Best Marriage. In a few weeks my husband and I will celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary. It’s been an exciting...

“O Holy Fight.” Navigating Conflict this Christmas

Every significant relationship will face challenges with communication and conflict resolution. This holds true for couples, families, friends, and co-workers. Married couples...
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What to Do When You’re Not Feeling It

What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.

1 Secret Tip for Marrying the Right Person

Today's post comes from our friends at Homeword. When I was in college I wrote an op-ed for my local newspaper about the kind of...
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5 Questions to Ask During a Fight

Today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy is timely (my wife and I just had a fight last night!) and I basically did the...
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Take Off The Disguise When You’re With Your Spouse

The Pharisees, who loved money, heard all this and were sneering at Jesus. He said to them, “You are the ones who...

How to Find Your Marriage’s “Lost” Love

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas, and features the story of Megan (see link in next paragraph), and how they found new life in...
sex life

Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
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It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start.

A story is told about a factory burning down that was owned and managed by the great inventor Thomas Edison, and the...