what communication looks like in marriage

What Does Effective Communication Look Like in Your Marriage?

Today's post comes from our friends over at America's Family Coaches.  Continue with us and do our devotional challenge together as a couple! Long ago God...

Do You Know Your Marriage’s Superpower?

I really, really enjoyed this post from Scott Kedersha. It's a creative angle on a topic we haven't covered much here at Thriving Marriages,...
romantic

How To Be Romantic Even When You’re Exhausted

Q:  Between work, the kids, and taking care of the house, I have almost no time or energy to dedicate to my...
healthy

Healthy Habits For Each Day, Week, Month, & Year.

To develop a healthy marriage, it is important that two vital elements come together.     First, at some point you must draw a...
positivity

Want a Happier Marriage? Practice the Power of Positivity

One of the most often asked questions I get related to relationships is, “What are key ingredients that make up a successful relationship?” The...
Warmth

How to Add Warmth to Your Frozen Marriage

It's easy for marriages to become civil but distant, where a continued lack of warmth slowly freezes out love. The good news, coming today...
second half of marriage

The 2nd Half of Marriage. Prepping for Life Post Kids.

Emily is a gifted interior design artist. After the birth of her third child and her decision to homeschool her children, she...
navigating difficult conversations

4 Tricks For Navigating Difficult Conversations

This post from Juli @ Authentic Intimacy isn't primarily about marriage, but it could be. Difficult conversations with your spouse are never...

Don’t Want to Drift Apart? Make Plans to Grow Together

As I was reading this post from Gary Thomas, I was reminded of a catchphrase from one of my all-time favorite show: LOST. The...

What Do You Want to Believe About Your Spouse?

Today's great post on what we choose to believe about our spouse comes from Marriage Laboratory. Enjoy! There is a person in my life with...
mental load

Husbands, Help Carry Your Wife’s Mental Load.

It’s the last day of our emotional labor and mental load series! We wrapped up the big teaching points yesterday talking about how...
integrity

Should You Bring It Up, Or Let It Go?

For most of my marriage, I’ve had this question, that I just COULDN’T puzzle out. It is this: when...
to do list

What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
reasons for divorce

God’s Solutions to the Reasons For Divorce

Do you feel just plain unhappy in your marriage? Or that you’re no longer in love with your spouse? Some would say you should...

The Night My Marriage Almost Ended

Today's post comes from our long-time partner, Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and was written by Ketsia Gutsave, from the blog Pure Couples. Ketsia is...
100 percent

The Only “Fair” Marriage Is When Both Spouses Give 100 Percent.

Happily married Eric and Jill climbed out of bed at their normal Saturday morning hour. They had a lot to do around...
question you are not asking

The Question You’re Not Asking

Malcolm and Jenny have been married for ten years. They have three children who keep them busy and exhausted most of the time. Their...

This 1 Powerful Truth Will Change How You See Your Spouse

Gary Thomas sets up this post on his own, so I'll keep my setup brief: you should read this!  This post continues an ongoing series,...
keep marriage on track

1 Vital Conversation to Keep Your Marriage on Track

I recently started a fantastic new book titled You Are What You Love. It's not a book about marriage exactly, but it's definitely worth checking out. There's...
tie-breaker

Husbands Don’t Need To Be The “Tie-Breaker”

When we give husbands "tie-breaker" power, do we end up damaging intimacy? Often the best conversations on this blog don’t happen in the...
communication

Plan Your Next Date Around Good Communication

I am always looking for great tools that I can use with couples. I have found a tool that is a great...
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....
triangulation

The Devastating Consequences (on Children) of Distant Marriages

The word “triangulation” should haunt every parent actively raising children, and it should warn all of us to not allow our marriages to grow...
conversations

36 Conversations That Will Turn Your Spouse On

Married couples should flirt and have intimate conversations. You stoke the fire of your interest about anything (i.e., job, hobby, faith, politics,...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
fight your spouse halitosis bad breath

Fight the Power … of your spouse’s halitosis (bad breath)

So many of our posts are tackling these massive, 35,000 feet topics about marriage. But marriage is also about the small moments and individual...
community

4 Ways To Build A Strong Community That Supports Your Marriage

We all need a marriage community – a support system around us of couples our age, and maybe a mentor couple that’s a...
importance of curiosity in marriage

20 Questions: The Importance of Curiosity for Your Marriage

Today's post comes from regular TM contributor, Scott Kedersha. Last year I co-lead a few discipleship groups with marriage ministry leaders at Watermark. We read...
tough times

Four Amazing Truths to Remember in Tough Times

All marriages hit tough times, and most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we focus on  how to survive them. A list of...
messy

Messy v. Neat Freak: How to Navigate the Cleanliness War In Your Marriage

Q: One of us is very neat, but the other is very messy. How can we keep from driving each other crazy? A:...
secret fears behind asking for help

The Secret Fears Behind Asking for Help

What’s the big deal about letting our husbands help with things? Depending on the woman, I think the reasons can vary for why it’s so...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
unconditional love

The 1 Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You Today

A quick note up front. I (Josh) love talking about how to create and sustain healthy marriages. If you are a pastor...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
In-Laws

How To Have Healthy Boundaries With Your In-Laws

Q: My mother-in-law really has my husband under her thumb. How can I get her to back off without hurting either of...
your marriage is drifting

10 Signs Your Marriage is Drifting

Today's post come from our friends at refineus.org. Check out their book here. Most people don’t get married so they can be unhappy. Most people...
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
difficult conversations

3 Tips for Difficult Conversations

No one sets out to be disconnected in their marriage. However, we can easily end up there when we allow hurts and misunderstandings to...

1 Simple Way to Avoid Saying Something You’ll Regret

Today's great post comes from Doug Fields. He and Jim Burns wrote a great book about your first few years of marriage that's a...
spiritual intimacy

7 Ways to Increase Spiritual Intimacy

The least developed area of intimacy in your marriage is not sex! No!? In fact, the least developed area of intimacy for most couples is spiritual...
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

A friend recently asked me the following questions about how to rekindle romance: “What do you do for fun as a couple? What...
forgive your spouse

Forgive Your Spouse…It’s Far Better Than Regret

Today's great post about how to forgive your spouse comes from our friends at Live Your Best Marriage. Enjoy! Ever noticed how difficult it is...
arguing

How to Ask For What You Need Without Arguing

Sometimes you just have to ask your husband for what you need! I’ve been talking all month about how to change the dynamic...

10 Mental Habits That Fuel Anxiety

I (Josh) struggle with anxiety. So does my wife. Learning how to recognize our anxiety, communicate about it, and manage it has been one...
spouse less annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...
conflict

8 Sources of Conflict You Can Remove Immediately

What Are Your Conflict Blocks? Dealing with conflict in appropriate and positive ways is a learned trait. Typically, we’ll begin learning conflict management at about...
love is a choice

Love Is a Choice, Especially When You’re Not Feeling It.

  When my wife and I were going through marriage problems, the last thing that I wanted to hear was love is a...
ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit) someone else. While they may have...
household chores

Household Chores Can Make or Break a Marriage

It’s an argument as old as marriage: Who helps out most with household chores? In a recent survey, more than half of...