nudges

Don’t Miss the Nudges!

Nudges.  They are easy to miss if we’re not paying attention. A couple of weeks ago, Tom and I were watching television, and saw a commercial...
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...
shame

Is Shame Ruining Your Relationship?

Dr. Richard Nicastro, Phd, deftly illuminates the undercurrent of one of the most toxic relationship challenges; shame, often at the root of individual distress...
five love languages

1 Thing Your Spouse Wishes You Knew

Men and women are inherently different; the saying “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” has resonated with every man and woman trying...
routines that promote communication

How to Create Routines That Promote Communication

Create routine and structure around making time to talk. Perhaps you take 15 minutes every evening to go over the day and talk about the...

4 Steps Toward a “Chore War” Ceasefire

Do you and your spouse fight over day-to-day household chores? It's time to declare a ceasefire! Today's great post comes from Kathi Lipp, and...
lonely in my marriage

Why Do I Feel So Lonely In My Marriage?

With thanks to Thomas Nelson for sponsoring this post. I’m not sure if I can point to a single time in my life where I...
difficult conversations

3 Tips for Difficult Conversations

No one sets out to be disconnected in their marriage. However, we can easily end up there when we allow hurts and misunderstandings to...
trust

Do You Trust the Person You’re Having Sex With?

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage...

Your Husband Loves You, He Just Can’t Read Your Mind

Early in my marriage I surprised my wife by setting up a Christmas tree (that shed wanted but I'd said we shouldn't get) while...
discontentment burn your marriage

How to Keep Discontentment from Burning Down Your Marriage

Today's marriage tip about discontentment comes from our friend Sara. Sara is a prolific author who has written several great books that you can...

Not Spending Time With Your Spouse Is Okay

Okay, okay, that's not entirely true. Of course you need to spend time together. But this is a great article for the younger marrieds...
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....
forgiveness and trust

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
goals

Set These Realistic Goals for Your Marriage in 2019

A few years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, Troy and I began the tradition of setting goals for our marriage...
fight off fear

6 Powerful Ways to Fight Off Fear

Today's post about how to fight off fear is from The Love and Life Toolbox isn't directly about marriage, but it is...
reasons for divorce

God’s Solutions to the Reasons For Divorce

Do you feel just plain unhappy in your marriage? Or that you’re no longer in love with your spouse? Some would say you should...
secret to having good conversation habits

The Secret to Setting Good Conversation Habits

It’s easy in conversation with  to think ahead, hurry to answer, interrupt, or cut them off mid-sentence. Sometimes we’re busy, but mostly it’s about...
busy

If the Devil Can’t Make You Bad, He’ll Make You Busy

“If the Devil can’t make you bad, he’ll make you busy!” That’s what a friend of mine wrote me on the day...

1 Simple Way to Avoid Saying Something You’ll Regret

Today's great post comes from Doug Fields. He and Jim Burns wrote a great book about your first few years of marriage that's a...

Is Your Past Hurt Making You Kind or Cold To Your Spouse?

Today's post from Doug Fields doesn't directly mention marriage, but man is it so applicable. In marriage our personal wounds, past experiences,...

3 Marriage-Saving Things to Do When Your Husband Is Terrible at Mother’s Day

(Editor's note: the photo in this post is intended to be funny. It is not an accurate depiction of the author's husband. LOL! We...

These Are the Words Your Spouse Desperately Needs to Hear

So today's post by Doug Fields isn't about marriage ... but it also totally is. Do the words you speak into your spouse's life...
Good communication: Picking the right time, and sometimes place, can be the difference between being heard and your words missing their mark. #marriage #Christianmarriage #Thrivingmarriages #MarriageAdvice #MarriageTips #MarriageSupport

Good Communication Is Saying the Right Words at the Right Time

You’re in penguin adorned pajamas headed to bed, then your partner starts to talk about their day. Gritty stuff,...

1 Secret Tip for Marrying the Right Person

Today's post comes from our friends at Homeword. When I was in college I wrote an op-ed for my local newspaper about the kind of...
past

Your Past Can Be a Benefit, Not a Barrier, In Your Sex Life

In our house, we like this show called Impossible Engineering. It’s documentary style and the basic premise is they look at a phenomenal...
understanding mind of man you married

Understanding the Mind of the Man you Married

Did you know men and women think differently? I KNOW. Surprising. Turns out there's a perfectly logical, scientific explanation, and today's post from Gary...
lies

We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
sex life

Does Your Sex Life Feel Broken? You Can Always Rebuild It! Here’s How.

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
year

Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

Q: We don’t have big fights, but lots of little disagreements and hurts simmer under the surface. How can we handle these? A: The moment...
connection

Behind Every Fight Is a Desire For Connection

Beth and Paul were sitting on the coach in front of me struggling to connect. They both felt dismissed, ignored, blamed, angry...
it's not about the nail

It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail

It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is...

5 Practical Ways to Change the Temperature of Your Marriage

Today's post comes from the always amazing Doug Fields. Enjoy. Mending wounded relationships is NOT simple and band aids are rarely effective, but there are...

How to Spot a Marriage Breakdown Before It Happens

I (Josh) currently have a car with a "check engine" that won't go away. It just sits there on the dash, it's mustard yellow...

How to Stop a Financial Fight Before It Starts

This week we are celebrating our friends Cherie and Brian Lowe’s new book, Your Money, Your Marriage, with a series of posts all about the sexiness of...
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
seasons

Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

As we enter a new season, I find my thoughts slowly shifting from warm, sunny days enjoying the freedom and flexibility of a summer...
negative spouse

The Destructive Danger of a Negative Spouse

A negative spouse reeks destruction on marriages. Here's how... Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion...
How do you get that spark in your marriage if you feel like you've lost it? How do you rekindle the marriage intimacy and excitement if you feel like you've just become roommates. Never fear! These 10 ways could help you get that spark back into your marriage! #marriage #Christianmarriage #ThrivingMarriages #intimacy #marriagesupport #marriagetips #marriageadvice #sexandintimacy #connectwithyourspouse #Christianhusband #Christianwife #bettermarriage

10 Ways to Get Back the Spark in Your Marriage

How do you get that spark in marriage if you feel like you’ve lost it? How do you rekindle...
confrontation in marriage

How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

When it comes to confrontation in marriage, I have a rule of thumb that has proved itself to be true over and over again: The...
change

Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

I’ve been asked several times, “Gary, what do you do when Sacred Marriage doesn’t work?” At first, I was confused by the question....
i was wrong say sorry

5 Powerful Reasons to Suck it Up and Say “I Was Wrong”

No one likes admitting they're wrong, but Juli's post today @ Authentic Intimacy makes it a little bit easier. I especially like her point...

10 Mental Habits That Fuel Anxiety

I (Josh) struggle with anxiety. So does my wife. Learning how to recognize our anxiety, communicate about it, and manage it has been one...
self-righteousness

Self-Righteousness is Satan’s Favorite Attack Against Your Marriage. Here’s What You Can Do About...

What if one of the most dangerous attitudes for believers is self-righteousness? What if it’s possible to be “right” and toxic at the...
question you are not asking

The Question You’re Not Asking

Malcolm and Jenny have been married for ten years. They have three children who keep them busy and exhausted most of the time. Their...
past emotional wounds

The Past Doesn’t Stay in the Past

One of our biggest passion topics here at Thriving Marriages (other than, you know, passion) is the importance of your past. Just like today's...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
marriage of your dreams

This Weekly Routine Will Build the Marriage of Your Dreams

Companionship inventory, marriage meeting, weekly marriage check in or check up- whatever you call it, if you want the marriage of your...
intimacy

I Love My Wife, But I Just Don’t Know How To Show Her That.

If we've said it once we've said it a thousand times: Men and women often don't view intimacy the same way! For...