nudges

Don’t Miss the Nudges!

Nudges.  They are easy to miss if we’re not paying attention. A couple of weeks ago, Tom and I were watching television, and saw a commercial...
husband really need sex

Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

Does your husband really need sex? In many marriages (but not all), sexual intimacy is very high on a husband’s list. In books like...
reconnect with your husband

4 Strong Ways to Reconnect With Your Husband

If you feel as if the previous year–or years!–has made you grow apart, let's look again at how to reconnect with your husband.
5 steps hard conversation

5 Steps Toward Having that Hard Conversation

As someone who is both married and writes for a living, I found today's post super relatable. Hope this content from our friends at...
words hurt

Words Hurt, So Don’t Say Everything You Think.

When someone exhausts your patience and you want to hit back with a comeback zinger... just don't. Words hurt, and are never worth it. 
tongue

Your Marriage Needs Less Tongue, Not More.

It can feel like a major victory when I control my tongue, giving my unspoken words to my Father instead of pouring them out on others.
work

Your Spouse is More Important Than Work

It seems like this conversation happened just yesterday, but it actually happened before Cathy and I had kids. I was a youth...
hero

Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage

It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
what communication looks like in marriage

What Does Effective Communication Look Like in Your Marriage?

Today's post comes from our friends over at America's Family Coaches.  Continue with us and do our devotional challenge together as a couple! Long ago God...
scratches and dents

Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are Priceless

I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.
football

“My Husband Enjoys Football More Than Me!”

My husband seems to enjoy watching football more than he enjoys spending time with me. How can I get him to take more interest in us?
communication in marriage

Communication in Marriage – 3 Godly Secrets

James gave us the ultimate plan for better communication (including communication in marriage). It’s made up of three simple phrases.
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s Why.

In married life we can misread and overstep our bounds. Even when this is under the umbrella of trying to help, beware of overreaching.
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

The moment you do or say something that hurts your spouse, you stand at a fork in the road, whether you are aware of it or not.
burn

Words Can Burn it All Down

Words can burn it all down. Words can destroy your family, they can destroy your heart, they can destroy your marriage.
prayer

Prayer Will Supercharge Your Marriage (Including Your Sex Life!)

Hi Thriving Marriages community, this is Josh, the guy bringing you this content each day. In addition to running this site I...

The Night My Marriage Almost Ended

Today's post comes from our long-time partner, Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and was written by Ketsia Gutsave, from the blog Pure Couples. Ketsia is...

Not Spending Time With Your Spouse Is Okay

Okay, okay, that's not entirely true. Of course you need to spend time together. But this is a great article for the younger marrieds...
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

Have you “lost that loving feeling?” of dating and romance. We need to rekindle romance, the fun and enjoyment of marriage.
spouse less annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...
little annoyances

How to Minimize Marriage’s Little Annoyances.

Here’s the truth: the chances are very high that some of these little annoyances your spouse does, won’t ever change. So what do you do?
to do list

What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
goals

Set These Realistic Goals for Your Marriage in 2019

A few years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, Troy and I began the tradition of setting goals for our marriage...
thinking

Are You Thinking About What You’re Thinking?

If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we...
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....
words can bring you down

Words Can Bring You Down

Words can bring you down, burn down a marriage, a family, a church, a workplace, a culture. It’s happening all around us.

Kick Out Fear & Make More Room for Love in Your Marriage

Today's post from Friend of the Newsletter™ Danny at Loving on Purpose wrecked me (Josh) in the best of ways. Sometimes we need reminders of...
100 percent

“Fair” Marriage = Both Spouses Give 100 Percent

The 50/50 marriage is an arrangement of trade-offs and compromises, with spouses keeping score so one person never gets more or gives more than the other. Serving and submitting to one another are replaced by an emphasis on getting what is rightfully yours. Marriages only work when each spouse is giving 100 percent.
present

Husbands, We Need to Be Fully Present With Our Wives. Here’s How.

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I feel like most men do. We think about our bills, the check...
nag

Nag or Treasure? How Do You Treat Your Wife?

Pastor Brandon Cox drops an important truth bomb: when a guy continually complains that his wife is a nag, she might not be the main problem.
tone

Tone Deaf: Is What You’re Saying Hidden By How You’re Saying It?

I've said this several times, but Doug Fields is both a ludicrously gifted communicator and a very kind mentor and friend of...
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy.

How to Stop a Financial Fight Before it Starts

This is an excerpt from Cherie and Brian Lowe’s  book, Your Money, Your Marriage, about how to avoid a financial fight. 
financial issues

4 Tips For Fixing Financial Issues In Your Marriage

Financial issues often stem from how we were raised. No matter how you were raised, it's probably safe to say your spouse was most likely raised with very different “money values” than you. How can you bridge that divide?
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
quality time

Quality Time Quick Tips: Simple Ways to Connect.

I took a selfie of my wife and I recently. At the top of the page, you can see Michelle and I...
in-laws

In-Laws An Issue? Here’s What To Do About It.

These family conflicts are tough because your attitude toward your in-laws can undermine the most important relationship—with your spouse.
money mistakes

4 Money Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

Money mistakes are one of the top reasons that marriages end in divorce, yet unfortunately, most married couples fail to prepare themselves.
obstacles

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
pursue your spouse

What Are You Doing to Pursue Your Spouse?

Over the years I’ve learned it’s the small ways you pursue your spouse in marriage every day that grow a marriage.
Warmth

How to Add Warmth to Your Frozen Marriage

It's easy for marriages to become civil but distant, where a continued lack of warmth slowly freezes out love. The good news, coming today...
clear communication

3 Easy Keys To Clear Communication.

Just because someone’s mouth is moving doesn’t mean clear communication is taking place. Clear communication is sharing yourself verbally and nonverbally in...
negative emotion

Negative Emotion is Vital For a Healthy Relationship

An intolerance of OTHERS’ negative emotion is precluded by an intolerance of our own negative emotion. This dynamic is a marriage killer.
stages of marriage

What Stage of Marriage Are You In?

Social scientists have observed that marriages typically move through a series of at least four stages. Each stage presents unique learning opportunities and blessings,...

10 Mental Habits That Fuel Anxiety

I (Josh) struggle with anxiety. So does my wife. Learning how to recognize our anxiety, communicate about it, and manage it has been one...
arguments

What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?

What if the arguments you had with your spouse was broadcast out for others to hear? What if every disagreement with you and your spouse was broadcast on Facebook live for all the world to see and hear?
fuel marriage

Running on Empty? Here’s How to Keep Your Marriage’s Fuel Tank Full

Today's marriage tip comes from Patrick Schwenk as a guest blogger for Gary Thomas's site. It leads to a great question: what's one way...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...

1 Secret Tip for Marrying the Right Person

Today's post comes from our friends at Homeword. When I was in college I wrote an op-ed for my local newspaper about the kind of...