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You Teach People How to Treat You

Are there times when you wonder how married life unfolded to this point? Or how you sex life became routine or non-existent? Times when you’re completely...

The $1300 Parking Ticket That Changed Our Marriage

This week we are celebrating our friends Cherie and Brian Lowe’s new book, Your Money, Your Marriage, with a series of posts all about the sexiness of...
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Behind Every Fight Is a Desire For Connection

Beth and Paul were sitting on the coach in front of me struggling to connect. They both felt dismissed, ignored, blamed, angry...
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3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance

When the stress of life gets in the way of our romance, Cathy proactively applies what she calls the Three Golden Rules for Romance.
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The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

Some of the most powerful, life-giving, exciting words you will ever agree to are said during your marriage vows: as long as we both shall live.
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3 Keys to a Healthy Family During Covid-19

“In case you missed this over the weekend, here it is in blog form. If there is anything HomeWord can do to...
communication

5 Ways to Improve Your Communication

This past Memorial Day weekend will go down as one of my least favorite holiday weekends with my family. We scrapped, argued, bickered, and...
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Practice Your Way to Better Sex

For most couples it takes years to make sex work like clockwork, where you’re both enjoying it, and you both climax. Better sex is absolutely possible, if you practice!
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1 Thing Your Spouse Wishes You Knew

Men and women are inherently different; the saying “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” has resonated with every man and woman trying...
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6 Powerful Ways to Fight Off Fear

Today's post about how to fight off fear is from The Love and Life Toolbox isn't directly about marriage, but it is...
triangulation

The Devastating Consequences (on Children) of Distant Marriages

The word “triangulation” should haunt every parent actively raising children, and it should warn all of us to not allow our marriages to grow...
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4 Money Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

Money mistakes are one of the top reasons that marriages end in divorce, yet unfortunately, most engaged and newly married couples fail...
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Staying Power: 5 Signs Your Marriage Will Make It

People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage has staying power? Sometimes it can be hard to tell, but here are 5 keys.
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5 Powerful Reasons to Suck it Up and Say “I Was Wrong”

No one likes admitting they're wrong, but Juli's post today @ Authentic Intimacy makes it a little bit easier. I especially like her point...
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Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
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An Open Letter to My Imperfect Wife

Hey babe, so just so you know up front, I'm writing this private letter to you publicly, and a few thousand other people will see...
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Can Broken Trust Can Be Restored?

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How can you learn to heal? You’re going to need to rebuild your marriage from the bottom up.
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Want a Happy Marriage? Stop Asking Your Spouse to Do This.

Don’t you think it would be cruel to ask your spouse to hold down five jobs? Let’s say your...
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How to Create Routines That Promote Communication

Create routine and structure around making time to talk. Perhaps you take 15 minutes every evening to go over the day and talk about the...

Practical Ideas for a High Maintenance Marriage

Today's post comes from the wonderful Jim Burns at Homeword. Check out the discussion questions at the end and have a conversation with your...
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Being Naked in Your Marriage … & Napoleon Dynamite

Napoleon Dynamite: Well, nobody’s going to go out with ME! Pedro: Have you asked anybody yet? Napoleon Dynamite: No, but who would? I don’t even have...
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“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test

The test is never verbalized but still erodes our marriage's intimacy. What we are really asking is, “Can I trust you with my heart?”
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25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

Use these open ended questions — some silly, some serious — to ask your spouse to talk, laugh, dream, and learn more about each other.
These 20 ways to say i love you to your spouse are great for Valentine's Day romance. But they're also good for any day you want to show love to your spouse and strengthen your marriage. #spiceupmarriage #marriageintimacy #christianmarriage #marriageadvice #marriagegoals #Valentine #Valentinesday #love #iloveyou #lovelanguages

20 Easy Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

These are great ways at Valentine's Day or any time of the year to say I love you to your spouse.

Not Spending Time With Your Spouse Is Okay

Okay, okay, that's not entirely true. Of course you need to spend time together. But this is a great article for the younger marrieds...
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How to Stop a Marriage Breakdown Before It Happens

In marriage it's easy for there to be "check engine" lights that we ignore and lead to a marriage breakdown. Maybe it's a pattern...
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The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy. My husband...
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How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

In confrontation in marriage, this rule of thumb has proved itself to be true over and over again: The one who listens the best first wins. 
Here are five FREE ideas for every love language your husband or wife speaks. Win their heart and strengthen your marriage today. Not to mention that you'll save money! #Christianmarriage #marriage #marriageadvice #Valentine #ValentinesDay #marriedlove #romance #marriageintimacy #LoveLanguages #speaklove

Here’s a Killer Valentine’s Day Present For Your Spouse That’s Free!

Are you looking for a meaningful Valentine’s Day without spending a dime? Share the gifts below. Gift of Words...
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The Past Doesn’t Stay in the Past

One of our biggest passion topics here at Thriving Marriages (other than, you know, passion) is the importance of your past. Just like today's...
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My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?

What can you do if your spouse watches porn? As you seek authentic intimacy in your marriage, here are a few practical steps to take.
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3 Easy Ways to Meet Your Spouse’s Emotional Needs

For some of us, when we hear the word generosity in terms of meeting our spouse's emotional needs, we may think of giving financially....
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3 Small Changes Greatly Improve Your Marriage

What is it that makes changing so hard? Over the past few years I believe God has shown me some things about myself that make changing so difficult. These things are universal and I believe once I learn them and understand them it will make changes much easier.
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Nag or Treasure? How Do You Treat Your Wife?

Pastor Brandon Cox drops an important truth bomb: when a guy continually complains that his wife is a nag, she might not be the main problem.
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Words Can Burn it All Down

Words can burn it all down. Words can destroy your family, they can destroy your heart, they can destroy your marriage.
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Your Spouse is More Important Than Work

It seems like this conversation happened just yesterday, but it actually happened before Cathy and I had kids. I was a youth...

4 Tips for Dodging Drama

In lieu of my normal introduction, I'll just let Homeword introduce today's topic and say I wholeheartedly agree. I love all things John Townsend. He...
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Fight the Power … of your spouse’s halitosis (bad breath)

So many of our posts are tackling these massive, 35,000 feet topics about marriage. But marriage is also about the small moments and individual...
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3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
nudges

Don’t Miss the Nudges!

Nudges.  They are easy to miss if we’re not paying attention. A couple of weeks ago, Tom and I were watching television, and saw a commercial...
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My Husband Won’t Touch Me … Now What?

At one point it felt like my husband did everything not to touch me. Here are four ways we recaptured the magic.
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How to Keep Discontentment from Burning Down Your Marriage

Today's marriage tip about discontentment comes from our friend Sara. Sara is a prolific author who has written several great books that you can...
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The Secret Fears Behind Asking for Help

What’s the big deal about letting our husbands help with things? Depending on the woman, I think the reasons can vary for why it’s so...
it's complicated

It’s Complicated – But It Doesn’t Have to Be

As Facebook would attest, many of us would simply say of our closest relationships in life, “It’s complicated.”
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Understanding the Mind of the Man you Married

Did you know men and women think differently? I KNOW. Surprising. Turns out there's a perfectly logical, scientific explanation, and today's post from Gary...
obstacles

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...

5 Daily Messages to Transform Your Marriage

Today's post comes from new Friend of the Newsletter™ Ketsia and her blog at purecouples.org. If you like her thoughts here, make sure you...
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Are You Always Irritated at Your Spouse?

Are you always irritated with your spouse? Funny how some things that attracted you to your lovely spouse now drive you up the wall.
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
emotional intimacy in marriage

How to Build Emotional Intimacy in Marriage

For women, emotional intimacy in marriage is crucial to a deep, thriving relationship. And the research proves it! For our book, The Five Love...