resolve conflict in marriage

5 Simple Steps to Resolve Conflict in Your Marriage

 Not all problems are resolvable! I wish more marriage experts would just tell us that from the beginning. Some problems we face are perpetual. These...
cancer

How to Treat “Soul Cancer” In Your Marriage

So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your...
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
marriage breakdown

How to Stop a Marriage Breakdown Before It Happens

In marriage it's easy for there to be "check engine" lights that we ignore and lead to a marriage breakdown. Maybe it's a pattern...
spouse's emotional needs

3 Easy Ways to Meet Your Spouse’s Emotional Needs

For some of us, when we hear the word generosity in terms of meeting our spouse's emotional needs, we may think of giving financially....

Make Your Marriage—and Your Spouse’s Day—With These Texts

Today's post comes from a new Friend of the Newsletter™, Brad Hambrick. In addition to being a pastor and counselor, Brad is the author...
fight

5 Questions to Ask During a Fight

Today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy is timely (my wife and I just had a fight last night!) and I basically did the...
types of conflict

3 Types of Conflict in Marriage: Don’t Confuse Them!

I think types of conflicts in marriage can be divided into three different root causes, and each should be handled differently.
newlyweds

The 4 Common Mistakes Newlyweds Make

Just about every day for the last 14 years I’ve given my life to helping pre-married and newlyweds prepare for and start...
teach people how to treat you

You Teach People How to Treat You

Are there times when you wonder how married life unfolded to this point? Or how you sex life became routine or non-existent? Times when you’re completely...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
as long as we both shall live

The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

Some of the most powerful, life-giving, exciting words you will ever agree to are said during your marriage vows: as long as we both shall live.
finances

Are Finances Supposed to Be the Man’s Job?

Q: My husband is terrible at handling the finances because he hates paperwork. I like to take care of the bills, but...
marriage of your dreams

This Weekly Routine Will Build the Marriage of Your Dreams

Companionship inventory, marriage meeting, weekly marriage check in or check up- whatever you call it, if you want the marriage of your...
intimacy

I Love My Wife, But I Just Don’t Know How To Show Her That.

If we've said it once we've said it a thousand times: Men and women often don't view intimacy the same way! For...
things husbands wont tell you he needs

7 Things Your Husband Won’t Tell You He Needs

Several years ago I graduated with a degree in civil engineering. But this wasn’t my first choice. That title belonged to chemical engineering. I...
burn

Words Can Burn it All Down

Words can burn it all down. Words can destroy your family, they can destroy your heart, they can destroy your marriage. Words...
communication

Plan Your Next Date Around Good Communication

I am always looking for great tools that I can use with couples. I have found a tool that is a great...
bids for connection

Bids for Connection: The Tool This Expert Says Is the Secret to Great...

It’s not big, blow out fights that wreck a marriage. It’s how we treat each other day to day. And that’s why...
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Here’s a Killer Valentine’s Day Present For Your Spouse That’s Free!

Are you looking for a meaningful Valentine’s Day without spending a dime? Share the gifts below. Gift of Words...
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s Why.

In married life we can misread and overstep our bounds. Even when this is under the umbrella of trying to help, beware...
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....
helping

When Helping Isn’t Helping You OR Your Spouse

We are often taught to look out for others. Or to serve one another. Especially our spouse! So how can helping be a bad thing?
nail in the head

It’s Not About the Nail

Heading in to the weekend, here's a really funny, short video about marriage, communication, empathy and ... well someone with a nail in their...
what communication looks like in marriage

What Does Effective Communication Look Like in Your Marriage?

Today's post comes from our friends over at America's Family Coaches.  Continue with us and do our devotional challenge together as a couple! Long ago God...

Not Spending Time With Your Spouse Is Okay

Okay, okay, that's not entirely true. Of course you need to spend time together. But this is a great article for the younger marrieds...

Stressed Out Spouse: 10 Ways to Help

Ever feel like your spouse is stressed all the time–and because of that they’re always short with you? On Mondays I like to...
communication in marriage

Communication in Marriage – 3 Godly Secrets

James gave us the ultimate plan for better communication (including communication in marriage). It’s made up of three simple phrases.
healthy

Healthy Marriage Habits: Daily, Weekly, Monthly, & Yearly

To develop a healthy marriage, it is important that two vital elements come together. First, at some point you must draw a line...
romantic

How To Be Romantic Even When You’re Exhausted

Set aside one night this week where you plan for sex. It doesn't feel romantic, but it gives your spouse something to look forward to.
spouse less annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...
Of course, being physically affectionate can also be difficult when the person that you’re touching isn’t particularly affectionate, either. But don’t let awkwardness stop you, because physical touch does add a lot to a relationship.

How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
you can choose

You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.

There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
I call marriage

I Call Marriage

I don’t watch a ton of TV but I have a new show this year, This is Us. And there was one scene between...
disguise

Take Off The Disguise When You’re With Your Spouse

The Pharisees, who loved money, heard all this and were sneering at Jesus. He said to them, “You are the ones who...
reasons for divorce

God’s Solutions to the Reasons For Divorce

Do you feel just plain unhappy in your marriage? Or that you’re no longer in love with your spouse? Some would say you should...

Is Your Marriage’s Health At Risk? Here’s How to Find Out

Today's post from America's Family Coaches is absolutely right on. Behind all the details and distractions, how is the heart of your marriage doing?...
money mistakes

4 Money Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

Money mistakes are one of the top reasons that marriages end in divorce, yet unfortunately, most engaged and newly married couples fail...
roots

4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime

I can’t fix everything in my marriage but there are a few things I can control. Here are 4 ways I can “strengthen the roots” of our marriage.
scratches and dents

Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are Priceless

I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.
forgiveness and trust

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
being naked in marriage

Being Naked in Your Marriage … & Napoleon Dynamite

Napoleon Dynamite: Well, nobody’s going to go out with ME! Pedro: Have you asked anybody yet? Napoleon Dynamite: No, but who would? I don’t even have...
negative spouse

The Destructive Danger of a Negative Spouse

A negative spouse reeks destruction on marriages. Here's how... Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion...
your marriage is drifting

10 Signs Your Marriage is Drifting

Today's post come from our friends at refineus.org. Check out their book here. Most people don’t get married so they can be unhappy. Most people...
little annoyances

How to Minimize Marriage’s Little Annoyances.

Minimize the Little Annoyances in Marriage It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved,...
arguing

How to Ask For What You Need Without Arguing

Sometimes you just have to ask your husband for what you need! I’ve been talking all month about how to change the dynamic...
work

Your Spouse is More Important Than Work

It seems like this conversation happened just yesterday, but it actually happened before Cathy and I had kids. I was a youth...

Kick Out Fear & Make More Room for Love in Your Marriage

Today's post from Friend of the Newsletter™ Danny at Loving on Purpose wrecked me (Josh) in the best of ways. Sometimes we need reminders of...
conflict

8 Sources of Conflict You Can Remove Immediately

What Are Your Conflict Blocks? Dealing with conflict in appropriate and positive ways is a learned trait. Typically, we’ll begin learning conflict management at about...