3 things you think you know about your spouse

3 Things You Think You Know About Your Spouse (but don’t)

The past couple weeks I've been learning (in therapy ... because I see a therapist ... because good therapy is awesome) about something called...

This 1 Question Can Reignite Your Marriage

 I love the simplicity of today's post. What if you made time to sit down with your spouse and ask this simple question: "what...
arguments

What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?

A few days ago while in a disagreement with one of my boys, we exchanged a few “pleasantries” that I don’t want to repeat...
marriage of your dreams

This Weekly Routine Will Build the Marriage of Your Dreams

Companionship inventory, marriage meeting, weekly marriage check in or check up- whatever you call it, if you want the marriage of your...
it's not about the nail

It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail

It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is...
in-laws

In-Laws An Issue? Here’s What To Do About It.

The holidays can be a wonderful time of laughter and love and gatherings with family. But it can also be a time...
secret fears behind asking for help

The Secret Fears Behind Asking for Help

What’s the big deal about letting our husbands help with things? Depending on the woman, I think the reasons can vary for why it’s so...

The Night My Marriage Almost Ended

Today's post comes from our long-time partner, Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and was written by Ketsia Gutsave, from the blog Pure Couples. Ketsia is...
fight

5 Questions to Ask During a Fight

Today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy is timely (my wife and I just had a fight last night!) and I basically did the...
connection

Behind Every Fight Is a Desire For Connection

Beth and Paul were sitting on the coach in front of me struggling to connect. They both felt dismissed, ignored, blamed, angry...
positivity

Want a Happier Marriage? Practice the Power of Positivity

One of the most often asked questions I get related to relationships is, “What are key ingredients that make up a successful relationship?” The...
broken trust

Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
same goals in marriage

Are Your Goals the Same in Your Marriage?

We know that not all of the Thriving Marriages community are parents, and because of that we usually steer clear of parenting-focused articles. However,...
how to make up

How to Make Up After a Fight

We all want to know how to make up after a fight! So there's a pretty stupid famous moment from the 1970 film Love Story where the lead...
fall in love

How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Fall in love again? No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt...
unconditional love

The 1 Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You Today

A quick note up front. I (Josh) love talking about how to create and sustain healthy marriages. If you are a pastor...
husbands

Husbands, Your Wives Need These 10 Things, They Just Don’t Know How to Ask

I remember watching What Women Want not long after its release in 2001. The movie chronicles a man, Nick Marshall, who receives a fresh...
types of conflict

3 Types of Conflict in Marriage, And The Danger of Confusing Them

There is no one-size-fits-all for dealing with marriage problems, because not all types of conflict are alike. This month, our Wednesday series is...
dont say everything you think

Don’t Say Everything You Think

I love this post for two reasons: one is because Doug Fields is a friend and mentor of mine and I think everything he...
managing emotions

6 Tips For Managing Your Emotions

Today's post comes from our partners at Connected Marriages. Make sure to check out the great resources they offer! Tips for Emotional Regulation Have you ever...
seasons

Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

As we enter a new season, I find my thoughts slowly shifting from warm, sunny days enjoying the freedom and flexibility of a summer...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
negative emotion

Negative Emotion is Vital For a Healthy Relationship

In preparation for my shiny new blog plan (month long themes complete with corresponding love experiments, social media posts and podcast episodes),...
teach people how to treat you

You Teach People How to Treat You

Are there times when you wonder how married life unfolded to this point? Or how you sex life became routine or non-existent? Times when you’re completely...

5 Daily Messages to Transform Your Marriage

Today's post comes from new Friend of the Newsletter™ Ketsia and her blog at purecouples.org. If you like her thoughts here, make sure you...

What Do You Want to Believe About Your Spouse?

Today's great post on what we choose to believe about our spouse comes from Marriage Laboratory. Enjoy! There is a person in my life with...
trust

Do You Trust the Person You’re Having Sex With?

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage...
obstacles

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
discontentment burn your marriage

How to Keep Discontentment from Burning Down Your Marriage

Today's marriage tip about discontentment comes from our friend Sara. Sara is a prolific author who has written several great books that you can...
conversation starters

70 Great Conversation Starters for You and Your Spouse

Have you ever had a date night where you just stare at your spouse and think "I have no idea what to talk about?"...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
intimacy

I Love My Wife, But I Just Don’t Know How To Show Her That.

If we've said it once we've said it a thousand times: Men and women often don't view intimacy the same way! For...
changes

Want to Improve Your Marriage? These 3 Small Changes Will Lead to Huge Results.

I am often trying to find ways of making myself a better person. I imagine all of us at some point wish we...
golden rules

3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not...
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Fight the Power … of your spouse’s halitosis (bad breath)

So many of our posts are tackling these massive, 35,000 feet topics about marriage. But marriage is also about the small moments and individual...

Is Your Marriage’s Health At Risk? Here’s How to Find Out

Today's post from America's Family Coaches is absolutely right on. Behind all the details and distractions, how is the heart of your marriage doing?...
conflict

8 Sources of Conflict You Can Remove Immediately

What Are Your Conflict Blocks? Dealing with conflict in appropriate and positive ways is a learned trait. Typically, we’ll begin learning conflict management at about...
finances

Are Finances Supposed to Be the Man’s Job?

Q: My husband is terrible at handling the finances because he hates paperwork. I like to take care of the bills, but...
words of affirmation

102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Longs to Hear

People can't get enough words of affirmation. A while back I was speaking and asked for a show of hands, “How many of...
household chores

Household Chores Can Make or Break a Marriage

It’s an argument as old as marriage: Who helps out most with household chores? In a recent survey, more than half of...
routines that promote communication

How to Create Routines That Promote Communication

Create routine and structure around making time to talk. Perhaps you take 15 minutes every evening to go over the day and talk about the...

Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Talk, They Want to Connect

Doug is one of my (Josh's) favorite authors. Today's post is typical of his practical, straight-to-the-point style. Enjoy! Most men I know break into hives...

5 Practical Ways to Change the Temperature of Your Marriage

Today's post comes from the always amazing Doug Fields. Enjoy. Mending wounded relationships is NOT simple and band aids are rarely effective, but there are...
spouse

Are You Always Irritated at Your Spouse?

Think back to the day you were married.  How did you feel about your partner?  If you’re like many couples, you were...
quiet

Silence Isn’t Always Golden. Your Marriage Needs Your Voice

While today's fantastic post from Pure Couples is written to women, this is something that applies to everyone. A marriage needs the...
conflict

Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same Thing. Here’s Why That Matters.

I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage,...
your marriage is drifting

10 Signs Your Marriage is Drifting

Today's post come from our friends at refineus.org. Check out their book here. Most people don’t get married so they can be unhappy. Most people...

1 Secret Tip for Marrying the Right Person

Today's post comes from our friends at Homeword. When I was in college I wrote an op-ed for my local newspaper about the kind of...