3 things you think you know about your spouse

3 Things You Think You Know About Your Spouse (but don’t)

The past couple weeks I've been learning (in therapy ... because I see a therapist ... because good therapy is awesome) about something called...

Are You Still Curious About Your Spouse?

I really love this post from Scott Kedersha about the power of curiosity, and the humility of never assuming you have your spouse figured...
communication

3 Communication Breakdowns You Can Fix Today

Communication is so important in a relationship. It’s the way we express our needs and wants to our partner. But sometimes, the message doesn’t...
conversations

36 Conversations That Will Turn Your Spouse On

Married couples should flirt and have intimate conversations. You stoke the fire of your interest about anything (i.e., job, hobby, faith, politics,...
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The Question You’re Not Asking

Malcolm and Jenny have been married for ten years. They have three children who keep them busy and exhausted most of the time. Their...

5 Daily Messages to Transform Your Marriage

Today's post comes from new Friend of the Newsletter™ Ketsia and her blog at purecouples.org. If you like her thoughts here, make sure you...

The $1300 Parking Ticket That Changed Our Marriage

This week we are celebrating our friends Cherie and Brian Lowe’s new book, Your Money, Your Marriage, with a series of posts all about the sexiness of...
goals

Set These Realistic Goals for Your Marriage in 2019

A few years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, Troy and I began the tradition of setting goals for our marriage...
pursue

What Are You Doing to Pursue Your Spouse?

One of my biggest concerns as a married man is that our home and marriage would become boring. I fear getting stuck...
Ted talks

5 TED Talks for Your Marriage

Our friends over at simplemarriage.net recently posted 5 TED talks for your marriage that would be great for you and your spouse to watch...
conversation starters

70 Great Conversation Starters for You and Your Spouse

Have you ever had a date night where you just stare at your spouse and think "I have no idea what to talk about?"...
tough times

Four Amazing Truths to Remember in Tough Times

All marriages hit tough times, and most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we focus on  how to survive them. A list of...
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....
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How to Ask For What You Need Without Arguing

Sometimes you just have to ask your husband for what you need! I’ve been talking all month about how to change the dynamic...
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Don’t Say Everything You Think

I love this post for two reasons: one is because Doug Fields is a friend and mentor of mine and I think everything he...

Don’t Want to Drift Apart? Make Plans to Grow Together

As I was reading this post from Gary Thomas, I was reminded of a catchphrase from one of my all-time favorite show: LOST. The...
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

Q: We don’t have big fights, but lots of little disagreements and hurts simmer under the surface. How can we handle these? A: The moment...
community

4 Ways To Build A Strong Community That Supports Your Marriage

We all need a marriage community – a support system around us of couples our age, and maybe a mentor couple that’s a...
I call marriage

I Call Marriage

I don’t watch a ton of TV but I have a new show this year, This is Us. And there was one scene between...

Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Talk, They Want to Connect

Doug is one of my (Josh's) favorite authors. Today's post is typical of his practical, straight-to-the-point style. Enjoy! Most men I know break into hives...
forgive your spouse

Forgive Your Spouse…It’s Far Better Than Regret

Today's great post about how to forgive your spouse comes from our friends at Live Your Best Marriage. Enjoy! Ever noticed how difficult it is...
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5 Easy Ways to Stop Fighting With Your Spouse

Stop fighting with your spouse…if only it were so simple! Let’s face it…communication is very complex.
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Tone Deaf: Is What You’re Saying Hidden By How You’re Saying It?

I've said this several times, but Doug Fields is both a ludicrously gifted communicator and a very kind mentor and friend of...
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1 Vital Conversation to Keep Your Marriage on Track

I recently started a fantastic new book titled You Are What You Love. It's not a book about marriage exactly, but it's definitely worth checking out. There's...

4 Steps Toward a “Chore War” Ceasefire

Do you and your spouse fight over day-to-day household chores? It's time to declare a ceasefire! Today's great post comes from Kathi Lipp, and...
reasons for divorce

God’s Solutions to the Reasons For Divorce

Do you feel just plain unhappy in your marriage? Or that you’re no longer in love with your spouse? Some would say you should...
These 20 ways to say i love you to your spouse are great for Valentine's Day romance. But they're also good for any day you want to show love to your spouse and strengthen your marriage. #spiceupmarriage #marriageintimacy #christianmarriage #marriageadvice #marriagegoals #Valentine #Valentinesday #love #iloveyou #lovelanguages

20 Easy Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

These are great ways at Valentine's Day or any time of the year to say I love you to your spouse.
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7 Tips on How to Keep a Long Distance Marriage Thriving

MARRIAGE IS A WILD AND CHALLENGING JOURNEY ALL ON ITS OWN. So it makes sense that, no matter the reason, when you add...
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Fight the Power … of your spouse’s halitosis (bad breath)

So many of our posts are tackling these massive, 35,000 feet topics about marriage. But marriage is also about the small moments and individual...

4 Tips for Dodging Drama

In lieu of my normal introduction, I'll just let Homeword introduce today's topic and say I wholeheartedly agree. I love all things John Townsend. He...
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25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

John Gottman calls them love maps. We call them open ended questions to ask your spouse. The point here is that you talk,...

Is Your Past Hurt Making You Kind or Cold To Your Spouse?

Today's post from Doug Fields doesn't directly mention marriage, but man is it so applicable. In marriage our personal wounds, past experiences,...
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The Secret to Setting Good Conversation Habits

It’s easy in conversation with  to think ahead, hurry to answer, interrupt, or cut them off mid-sentence. Sometimes we’re busy, but mostly it’s about...

3 Marriage-Saving Things to Do When Your Husband Is Terrible at Mother’s Day

(Editor's note: the photo in this post is intended to be funny. It is not an accurate depiction of the author's husband. LOL! We...
triangulation

The Devastating Consequences (on Children) of Distant Marriages

The word “triangulation” should haunt every parent actively raising children, and it should warn all of us to not allow our marriages to grow...
fight off fear

6 Powerful Ways to Fight Off Fear

Today's post about how to fight off fear is from The Love and Life Toolbox isn't directly about marriage, but it is...
husbands

Husbands, Your Wives Need These 10 Things, They Just Don’t Know How to Ask

I remember watching What Women Want not long after its release in 2001. The movie chronicles a man, Nick Marshall, who receives a fresh...
spiritual intimacy

7 Ways to Increase Spiritual Intimacy

The least developed area of intimacy in your marriage is not sex! No!? In fact, the least developed area of intimacy for most couples is spiritual...
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Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

Does your husband really need sex? In many marriages (but not all), sexual intimacy is very high on a husband’s list. In books like...
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The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

“As long as we both shall live….” After returning from a hard workout one evening, I came home to a wonderful meal prepared by my...
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This Weekly Routine Will Build the Marriage of Your Dreams

Companionship inventory, marriage meeting, weekly marriage check in or check up- whatever you call it, if you want the marriage of your...
it's not about the nail

It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail

It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is...
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5 Steps Toward Having that Hard Conversation

As someone who is both married and writes for a living, I found today's post super relatable. Hope this content from our friends at...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...
integrity

Should You Bring It Up, Or Let It Go?

For most of my marriage, I’ve had this question, that I just COULDN’T puzzle out. It is this: when...
obstacles

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
stages of marriage

What Stage of Marriage Are You In?

Social scientists have observed that marriages typically move through a series of at least four stages. Each stage presents unique learning opportunities and blessings,...

How to Spot a Marriage Breakdown Before It Happens

I (Josh) currently have a car with a "check engine" that won't go away. It just sits there on the dash, it's mustard yellow...
Warmth

How to Add Warmth to Your Frozen Marriage

It's easy for marriages to become civil but distant, where a continued lack of warmth slowly freezes out love. The good news, coming today...
unconditional love

The 1 Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You Today

A quick note up front. I (Josh) love talking about how to create and sustain healthy marriages. If you are a pastor...