stages of marriage

What Stage of Marriage Are You In?

Social scientists have observed that marriages typically move through a series of at least four stages. Each stage presents unique learning opportunities and blessings,...
spouse is weird

My Spouse Is Weird

Today's post about my spouse is weird comes from Scott Kedersha, and is relevant to every marriage out there because let's be honest, you're...
forgiving your spouse

Forgiving Your Spouse Doesn’t Mean Ignoring Your Feelings

Forgiving your spouse isn't always easy. Many marriages don't work through the pain, honesty, and tension that true forgiveness requires. Instead they bury their...
communication

3 Communication Breakdowns You Can Fix Today

Communication is so important in a relationship. It’s the way we express our needs and wants to our partner. But sometimes, the message doesn’t...
In-Laws

How To Have Healthy Boundaries With Your In-Laws

Q: My mother-in-law really has my husband under her thumb. How can I get her to back off without hurting either of...
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...
strong communication

A Strong Marriage Based on Strong Communication

Is communication a strength in your marriage? Or a weakness? Do you and your spouse connect well? Strong communication is the process of...
spouse's emotional needs

3 Easy Ways to Meet Your Spouse’s Emotional Needs

For some of us, when we hear the word generosity in terms of meeting our spouse's emotional needs, we may think of giving financially....

Not Spending Time With Your Spouse Is Okay

Okay, okay, that's not entirely true. Of course you need to spend time together. But this is a great article for the younger marrieds...
Warmth

How to Add Warmth to Your Frozen Marriage

It's easy for marriages to become civil but distant, where a continued lack of warmth slowly freezes out love. The good news, coming today...
goals

Set These Realistic Goals for Your Marriage in 2019

A few years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, Troy and I began the tradition of setting goals for our marriage...
100 percent

The Only “Fair” Marriage Is When Both Spouses Give 100 Percent.

Happily married Eric and Jill climbed out of bed at their normal Saturday morning hour. They had a lot to do around...
watch-tone

Watch Your Tone! Say Things In a Way Your Spouse Will Hear

When it comes to communication, even more important than words is the tone that accompanies them. You’ve most likely heard the phrase,...
hero

Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage

It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
text messages for spouse

40 Texts to Send to Your Spouse

What I love about today's post from Marriage Laboratory is how simple, fun, and original it is. It definitely gave me some inspiration, and...

The Surprising Reason You’re Angry at Your Spouse Today

Okay some of you aren't angry TODAY, but you were yesterday, or will be tomorrow. This great post from America's Family Coaches explains how...
tough times

Four Amazing Truths to Remember in Tough Times

All marriages hit tough times, and most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we focus on  how to survive them. A list of...
Good communication: Picking the right time, and sometimes place, can be the difference between being heard and your words missing their mark. #marriage #Christianmarriage #Thrivingmarriages #MarriageAdvice #MarriageTips #MarriageSupport

Good Communication Is Saying the Right Words at the Right Time

You’re in penguin adorned pajamas headed to bed, then your partner starts to talk about their day. Gritty stuff,...
scratches and dents

Your Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are What Make It Priceless. Here’s Why.

Mike and I recently attended a wedding. The bride was stunning, and the groom gleamed with pride. Not a dry eye in...
football

“My Husband Enjoys Football More Than Me!”

Q: My husband seems to enjoy watching football and spending time with his friends more than he enjoys spending time with me....
silent treatment

2 Reasons to Stop Giving Your Spouse the Silent Treatment

The silent treatment creates distance instead of unity Marriage involves a lot of decisions, big and small. The small ones may not seem like a big...
i was wrong say sorry

5 Powerful Reasons to Suck it Up and Say “I Was Wrong”

No one likes admitting they're wrong, but Juli's post today @ Authentic Intimacy makes it a little bit easier. I especially like her point...

This 1 Powerful Truth Will Change How You See Your Spouse

Gary Thomas sets up this post on his own, so I'll keep my setup brief: you should read this!  This post continues an ongoing series,...
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

Q: We don’t have big fights, but lots of little disagreements and hurts simmer under the surface. How can we handle these? A: The moment...
conversations

36 Conversations That Will Turn Your Spouse On

Married couples should flirt and have intimate conversations. You stoke the fire of your interest about anything (i.e., job, hobby, faith, politics,...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...
regrets

How To Build a Marriage That Has No Regrets

To answer before listening, that is folly and shame. –Proverbs 18:13 Like most, I have some significant regrets in my life! I have several...
Ted talks

5 TED Talks for Your Marriage

Our friends over at simplemarriage.net recently posted 5 TED talks for your marriage that would be great for you and your spouse to watch...

This Powerful Habit Will Revolutionize Your Marriage

My pastor's sermon this Sunday leveled me. He was teaching from the verse in James about being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to...
forgiveness and trust

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
year

Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

I don’t know about you, but I often overlook the Lord’s eternal perspective. He sees all of time, from beginning to end,...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
communication

3 Simple Habits For Better Communication

The ministry of serving love involves discovering and meeting needs. Being committed to serving love is one thing; knowing how to discover and...
easy way to make spouse feel loved

1 Easy Way to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved

“There’s something you do that really annoys me.” We’d just finished dinner on a random Tuesday, and I was all ears. My husband never complains. Like, never. And he was...

Do You Know Your Marriage’s Superpower?

I really, really enjoyed this post from Scott Kedersha. It's a creative angle on a topic we haven't covered much here at Thriving Marriages,...
reasons for divorce

God’s Solutions to the Reasons For Divorce

Do you feel just plain unhappy in your marriage? Or that you’re no longer in love with your spouse? Some would say you should...
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....
to do list

What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
words of affirmation

Why Men Need Words of Affirmation in the Bedroom

Today's post is about the needs of men, but husbands, your wives need words of affirmation too! Here's 102 ways you can...
difficult conversations

3 Tips for Difficult Conversations

No one sets out to be disconnected in their marriage. However, we can easily end up there when we allow hurts and misunderstandings to...
fuel marriage

Running on Empty? Here’s How to Keep Your Marriage’s Fuel Tank Full

Today's marriage tip comes from Patrick Schwenk as a guest blogger for Gary Thomas's site. It leads to a great question: what's one way...

Your Husband Loves You, He Just Can’t Read Your Mind

Early in my marriage I surprised my wife by setting up a Christmas tree (that shed wanted but I'd said we shouldn't get) while...
questions to ask your spouse

25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

John Gottman calls them love maps. We call them open ended questions to ask your spouse. The point here is that you talk,...
community

4 Ways To Build A Strong Community That Supports Your Marriage

We all need a marriage community – a support system around us of couples our age, and maybe a mentor couple that’s a...
words of affirmation

Good News! Your Spouse’s Needs Aren’t As Hard to Meet as You Think. This...

My wife is super in to any sort of words of affirmation. It is easily, without a doubt, her number one love...
covid-19

3 Keys to a Healthy Family During Covid-19

“In case you missed this over the weekend, here it is in blog form. If there is anything HomeWord can do to...
keep marriage on track

1 Vital Conversation to Keep Your Marriage on Track

I recently started a fantastic new book titled You Are What You Love. It's not a book about marriage exactly, but it's definitely worth checking out. There's...

Why You Should Be Nice … Even When Your Spouse Isn’t

Being nice to your spouse is easy! Until they're not nice to you. Today's post explains why we should fight for nice, even when it...
negative spouse

The Destructive Danger of a Negative Spouse

A negative spouse reeks destruction on marriages. Here's how... Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion...