dont say everything you think

Don’t Say Everything You Think

I love this post for two reasons: one is because Doug Fields is a friend and mentor of mine and I think everything he...
managing emotions

6 Tips For Managing Your Emotions

Today's post comes from our partners at Connected Marriages. Make sure to check out the great resources they offer! Tips for Emotional Regulation Have you ever...
seasons

Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

As we enter a new season, I find my thoughts slowly shifting from warm, sunny days enjoying the freedom and flexibility of a summer...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
negative emotion

Negative Emotion is Vital For a Healthy Relationship

In preparation for my shiny new blog plan (month long themes complete with corresponding love experiments, social media posts and podcast episodes),...
heart of the matter

The Heart Is The Heart Of The Matter. How’s Yours?

Whenever a marriage self-destructs, the heart is the heart of the matter. In Proverbs 4:23, wise King Solomon offers a vivid picture of the...
routines that promote communication

How to Create Routines That Promote Communication

Create routine and structure around making time to talk. Perhaps you take 15 minutes every evening to go over the day and talk about the...

5 Daily Messages to Transform Your Marriage

Today's post comes from new Friend of the Newsletter™ Ketsia and her blog at purecouples.org. If you like her thoughts here, make sure you...

What Do You Want to Believe About Your Spouse?

Today's great post on what we choose to believe about our spouse comes from Marriage Laboratory. Enjoy! There is a person in my life with...
trust

Do You Trust the Person You’re Having Sex With?

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage...
obstacles

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
pandemic

Dare to Find the Positive During This Pandemic

As the weeks of pandemic cascade into months of avoidance of our human kind to save lives, new norms are settling in. ...
discontentment burn your marriage

How to Keep Discontentment from Burning Down Your Marriage

Today's marriage tip about discontentment comes from our friend Sara. Sara is a prolific author who has written several great books that you can...
conversation starters

70 Great Conversation Starters for You and Your Spouse

Have you ever had a date night where you just stare at your spouse and think "I have no idea what to talk about?"...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
intimacy

I Love My Wife, But I Just Don’t Know How To Show Her That.

If we've said it once we've said it a thousand times: Men and women often don't view intimacy the same way! For...
changes

Want to Improve Your Marriage? These 3 Small Changes Will Lead to Huge Results.

I am often trying to find ways of making myself a better person. I imagine all of us at some point wish we...
golden rules

3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not...
disguise

Take Off The Disguise When You’re With Your Spouse

The Pharisees, who loved money, heard all this and were sneering at Jesus. He said to them, “You are the ones who...
fight your spouse halitosis bad breath

Fight the Power … of your spouse’s halitosis (bad breath)

So many of our posts are tackling these massive, 35,000 feet topics about marriage. But marriage is also about the small moments and individual...

Is Your Marriage’s Health At Risk? Here’s How to Find Out

Today's post from America's Family Coaches is absolutely right on. Behind all the details and distractions, how is the heart of your marriage doing?...
conflict

8 Sources of Conflict You Can Remove Immediately

What Are Your Conflict Blocks? Dealing with conflict in appropriate and positive ways is a learned trait. Typically, we’ll begin learning conflict management at about...
finances

Are Finances Supposed to Be the Man’s Job?

Q: My husband is terrible at handling the finances because he hates paperwork. I like to take care of the bills, but...
words of affirmation

102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Longs to Hear

People can't get enough words of affirmation. A while back I was speaking and asked for a show of hands, “How many of...
household chores

Household Chores Can Make or Break a Marriage

It’s an argument as old as marriage: Who helps out most with household chores? In a recent survey, more than half of...
high sex drive

10 Questions High Sex Drive Spouses Should Ask

Are you the high sex drive husband, and you’re wondering what to do because your wife rarely wants sex? We opened the week...
resolve conflict in marriage

5 Simple Steps to Resolve Conflict in Your Marriage

 Not all problems are resolvable! I wish more marriage experts would just tell us that from the beginning. Some problems we face are perpetual. These...

Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Talk, They Want to Connect

Doug is one of my (Josh's) favorite authors. Today's post is typical of his practical, straight-to-the-point style. Enjoy! Most men I know break into hives...

5 Practical Ways to Change the Temperature of Your Marriage

Today's post comes from the always amazing Doug Fields. Enjoy. Mending wounded relationships is NOT simple and band aids are rarely effective, but there are...
spouse

Are You Always Irritated at Your Spouse?

Think back to the day you were married.  How did you feel about your partner?  If you’re like many couples, you were...
quiet

Silence Isn’t Always Golden. Your Marriage Needs Your Voice

While today's fantastic post from Pure Couples is written to women, this is something that applies to everyone. A marriage needs the...
conflict

Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same Thing. Here’s Why That Matters.

I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage,...
spouse

The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse

This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
your marriage is drifting

10 Signs Your Marriage is Drifting

Today's post come from our friends at refineus.org. Check out their book here. Most people don’t get married so they can be unhappy. Most people...

1 Secret Tip for Marrying the Right Person

Today's post comes from our friends at Homeword. When I was in college I wrote an op-ed for my local newspaper about the kind of...
lonely in my marriage

Why Do I Feel So Lonely In My Marriage?

With thanks to Thomas Nelson for sponsoring this post. I’m not sure if I can point to a single time in my life where I...
happy marriage

Want a Happy Marriage? Stop Asking Your Spouse to Do This.

Don’t you think it would be cruel to ask your spouse to hold down five jobs? Let’s say your...
lies

We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
love languages

Can Love Languages Be Harmful For Your Marriage?

I like giving and receiving gifts. My wife Lisa doesn’t. In my young stupid pride, I used to double down on gift giving opportunities,...
thinking

Are You Thinking About What You’re Thinking?

If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we...
5 steps hard conversation

5 Steps Toward Having that Hard Conversation

As someone who is both married and writes for a living, I found today's post super relatable. Hope this content from our friends at...

Are You Still Curious About Your Spouse?

I really love this post from Scott Kedersha about the power of curiosity, and the humility of never assuming you have your spouse figured...
emotional intimacy in marriage

How to Build Emotional Intimacy in Marriage

For women, emotional intimacy in marriage is crucial to a deep, thriving relationship. And the research proves it! For our book, The Five Love...
past

Your Past Can Be a Benefit, Not a Barrier, In Your Sex Life

In our house, we like this show called Impossible Engineering. It’s documentary style and the basic premise is they look at a phenomenal...
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...
communication

Plan Your Next Date Around Good Communication

I am always looking for great tools that I can use with couples. I have found a tool that is a great...
five love languages

1 Thing Your Spouse Wishes You Knew

Men and women are inherently different; the saying “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” has resonated with every man and woman trying...

3 Marriage-Saving Things to Do When Your Husband Is Terrible at Mother’s Day

(Editor's note: the photo in this post is intended to be funny. It is not an accurate depiction of the author's husband. LOL! We...