get rid of marital disappointment

Getting Rid of Marital Disappointment

Today's post about marital disappointment comes from our friend Tammie. You can check out more of her work here.  When I go to the hair...

Sometimes “Don’t Go to Bed Angry” is Terrible Advice

There's a scene in the Bill Murray movie Groundhog Day where Bill yells at a groundhog "don't drive angry!" (it makes more sense in...
confrontation in marriage

How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

When it comes to confrontation in marriage, I have a rule of thumb that has proved itself to be true over and over again: The...
married sex

How Bad Married Sex Can Actually Be Good For You!

Steve meets Michelle. They fall in love and get married shortly after graduation. For our story...
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s The Reason Why.

The scene is a couple driving in the car on the way to dinner: Silence for several minutes. “What’s wrong?” “Nothing.” A few more minutes of...
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The Question You’re Not Asking

Malcolm and Jenny have been married for ten years. They have three children who keep them busy and exhausted most of the time. Their...
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My Spouse Watches Porn: Now What?

Today's post involves a wife asking Juli Slattery @ Authentic Intimacy what she should do after catching her husband viewing pornography. A thought up front:...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...
communication

3 Communication Breakdowns You Can Fix Today

Communication is so important in a relationship. It’s the way we express our needs and wants to our partner. But sometimes, the message doesn’t...
In-Laws

How To Have Healthy Boundaries With Your In-Laws

Q: My mother-in-law really has my husband under her thumb. How can I get her to back off without hurting either of...
the stories we tell ourselves

The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Why Most of Our Fights Start in Our Imagination...

In her recent Netflix special author, researcher, and all-around national treasure Brené Brown describes an argument she  had with her husband. They were...
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Smoke Detector Batteries & Warning Signs in Your Marriage

A short thought today to start your week: I am notoriously bad at ignoring things I don't want to deal with. Once in college I...

These Are the Words Your Spouse Desperately Needs to Hear

So today's post by Doug Fields isn't about marriage ... but it also totally is. Do the words you speak into your spouse's life...
Warmth

How to Add Warmth to Your Frozen Marriage

It's easy for marriages to become civil but distant, where a continued lack of warmth slowly freezes out love. The good news, coming today...
goals

Set These Realistic Goals for Your Marriage in 2019

A few years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, Troy and I began the tradition of setting goals for our marriage...
100 percent

The Only “Fair” Marriage Is When Both Spouses Give 100 Percent.

Happily married Eric and Jill climbed out of bed at their normal Saturday morning hour. They had a lot to do around...
conflict

Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same Thing. Here’s Why That Matters.

I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage,...
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7 Things Your Husband Won’t Tell You He Needs

Several years ago I graduated with a degree in civil engineering. But this wasn’t my first choice. That title belonged to chemical engineering. I...

10 Mental Habits That Fuel Anxiety

I (Josh) struggle with anxiety. So does my wife. Learning how to recognize our anxiety, communicate about it, and manage it has been one...
tough times

Four Amazing Truths to Remember in Tough Times

All marriages hit tough times, and most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we focus on  how to survive them. A list of...
Good communication: Picking the right time, and sometimes place, can be the difference between being heard and your words missing their mark. #marriage #Christianmarriage #Thrivingmarriages #MarriageAdvice #MarriageTips #MarriageSupport

Good Communication Is Saying the Right Words at the Right Time

You’re in penguin adorned pajamas headed to bed, then your partner starts to talk about their day. Gritty stuff,...
scratches and dents

Your Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are What Make It Priceless. Here’s Why.

Mike and I recently attended a wedding. The bride was stunning, and the groom gleamed with pride. Not a dry eye in...
I call marriage

I Call Marriage

I don’t watch a ton of TV but I have a new show this year, This is Us. And there was one scene between...
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My Spouse Is Weird

Today's post about my spouse is weird comes from Scott Kedersha, and is relevant to every marriage out there because let's be honest, you're...
forgiving your spouse

Forgiving Your Spouse Doesn’t Mean Ignoring Your Feelings

Forgiving your spouse isn't always easy. Many marriages don't work through the pain, honesty, and tension that true forgiveness requires. Instead they bury their...
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

Q: We don’t have big fights, but lots of little disagreements and hurts simmer under the surface. How can we handle these? A: The moment...
conversations

36 Conversations That Will Turn Your Spouse On

Married couples should flirt and have intimate conversations. You stoke the fire of your interest about anything (i.e., job, hobby, faith, politics,...
love is a choice

Love Is a Choice, Especially When You’re Not Feeling It.

  When my wife and I were going through marriage problems, the last thing that I wanted to hear was love is a...
spouse's emotional needs

3 Easy Ways to Meet Your Spouse’s Emotional Needs

For some of us, when we hear the word generosity in terms of meeting our spouse's emotional needs, we may think of giving financially....

Not Spending Time With Your Spouse Is Okay

Okay, okay, that's not entirely true. Of course you need to spend time together. But this is a great article for the younger marrieds...
forgiveness and trust

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and trust is critical to every marriage. When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were...
year

Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

I don’t know about you, but I often overlook the Lord’s eternal perspective. He sees all of time, from beginning to end,...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
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40 Texts to Send to Your Spouse

What I love about today's post from Marriage Laboratory is how simple, fun, and original it is. It definitely gave me some inspiration, and...

The Surprising Reason You’re Angry at Your Spouse Today

Okay some of you aren't angry TODAY, but you were yesterday, or will be tomorrow. This great post from America's Family Coaches explains how...
reasons for divorce

God’s Solutions to the Reasons For Divorce

Do you feel just plain unhappy in your marriage? Or that you’re no longer in love with your spouse? Some would say you should...
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....
to do list

What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
secret to having good conversation habits

The Secret to Setting Good Conversation Habits

It’s easy in conversation with  to think ahead, hurry to answer, interrupt, or cut them off mid-sentence. Sometimes we’re busy, but mostly it’s about...
i was wrong say sorry

5 Powerful Reasons to Suck it Up and Say “I Was Wrong”

No one likes admitting they're wrong, but Juli's post today @ Authentic Intimacy makes it a little bit easier. I especially like her point...

This 1 Powerful Truth Will Change How You See Your Spouse

Gary Thomas sets up this post on his own, so I'll keep my setup brief: you should read this!  This post continues an ongoing series,...
questions to ask your spouse

25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

John Gottman calls them love maps. We call them open ended questions to ask your spouse. The point here is that you talk,...
community

4 Ways To Build A Strong Community That Supports Your Marriage

We all need a marriage community – a support system around us of couples our age, and maybe a mentor couple that’s a...
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...
Ted talks

5 TED Talks for Your Marriage

Our friends over at simplemarriage.net recently posted 5 TED talks for your marriage that would be great for you and your spouse to watch...

This Powerful Habit Will Revolutionize Your Marriage

My pastor's sermon this Sunday leveled me. He was teaching from the verse in James about being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to...
negative spouse

The Destructive Danger of a Negative Spouse

A negative spouse reeks destruction on marriages. Here's how... Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion...
stop fighting

5 Easy Ways to Stop Fighting With Your Spouse

Stop fighting with your spouse…if only it were so simple! Let’s face it…communication is very complex.
pursue your spouse

What Are You Doing to Pursue Your Spouse?

You need to make it one of your highest priorities to pursue your spouse. One of my biggest concerns as a married...