ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.
lusting

The Truth About Lusting: Why We Need to Reframe the Conversation about Men, Sin,...

Is there a difference between lusting and noticing? Lusting is a deliberate act. Sexual attraction is a hard-wired state of being over which we have no control.
marriage

The Two Words that Kill a Marriage

Do you know what two words will kill a marriage? Many couples get caught in this two-word trap. Here's how you can break free.

Actually, You CAN Change Your Spouse. Here’s How.

Do you help your spouse see both the person they are and could be? You can change your spouse — here's the secret.
husbands

Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.

When the Bible tells husbands to love their wives like Christ loves the church, it’s calling us to an initiating, reaching-out love.
test

“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test

The test is never verbalized but still erodes our marriage's intimacy. What we are really asking is, “Can I trust you with my heart?”
love is a choice

What to Do When You’re Not Feeling It

What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.

The Affair You Don’t Even Know You’re Having

Now more than ever, technology addiction is a threat to meaningful connection. Is it leading you straight to an affair?
nag

Nag or Treasure? How Do You Treat Your Wife?

Pastor Brandon Cox drops an important truth bomb: when a guy continually complains that his wife is a nag, she might not be the main problem.
in-laws

In-Laws Causing Issues? What Can You Do?

It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But how do you go about it?
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy. My husband...
perfect marriage

Help, My Imperfect Spouse Is Ruining My Perfect Marriage!

Let’s say it plainly because we all know it’s true: Nobody has a perfect marriage. Your differences and flaws can lead to...
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
spouse less annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...

The Secret to “Happily Ever After” In Your Marriage

Is it really possible to find "happily ever after" in your marriage? It won't be easy, but Les and Leslie Parrott share how couples...

The #1 Marriage Killer … and How to Get Rid of It

Over the years, we’ve heard many sad stories from people. A lot of these people were on the brink of separation or divorce, or...
lead to an affair

3 Lies That Lead to An Affair

There are three lies that every couple should not believe because they could lead to an affair. A common pitfall, which all...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
best marriage story

The Best Marriage Story is . . . Boring?!?

The best marriage story you’ll ever hear might sound a little boring, but it’s the story you and I both want for our children.
i wasn't ready

I Wasn’t Ready for Marriage

The more I would grow to love my husband, the more vulnerable to hurt I would become, and I wasn't ready for that.
debt free

Steps Toward a Debt Free Marriage

I believe God wants every couple to do the debt free dance of joy, and I believe that while getting there isn't easy, it's also not complicated.
healthy marriage

Four MORE Ways to a Healthy Marriage

In search of a healthy marriage, I share four more ways couples can increase their commitment and strengthen their marriage.
unconditional love

Unconditional Love – The One Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You

Marriage is at its best when we see a glimpse of the unconditional love of God reflected in our spouse’s eyes. Here's how.
strengthen your marriage

7 Suggestions to Strengthen Your Marriage

The key in those difficult times of of trouble isn’t to panic, but to intentionally work to strengthen your marriage.
commitment in marriage

3 Ways to Grow Your Commitment in Marriage

Words alone don’t ensure fidelity but they sure do help strengthen your commitment in marriage to each other.
low maintenance spouse

The Dangers of a Low Maintenance Spouse

Because she is such a low maintenance spouse, I might take her for granted or even take advantage of her. I don’t want this to be our story.
healthy

Healthy Marriage Habits: Daily, Weekly, Monthly, & Yearly

To develop a healthy marriage, it is important that two vital elements come together. First, at some point you must draw a line...
dangerous person

How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: the dangerous person profile

There's a famous line from the movie Jerry Maguire: "you complete me." When Tom Cruise says this he has realized that Renée Zellweger is his once-in-a-lifetime,...
flee

How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: “it’s time to flee”

This is part 2 of a series, this week on knowing when, like Joseph from the Bible, it's time to flee from temptation. You...
affair

How to Protect Your Marriage From An Affair

In 25% of current marriages one or both spouses are having an affair. That's 1-in-4. It's a staggering, heartbreaking statistic, and highlights an important truth: every...
reasons

19 Reasons I Love My Wife.

On this date, 19 years ago, Kristen and I said, “I do”! Apart from following Jesus, I can’t think of a better...
relational revelation

The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
you can choose

You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.

There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
protecting

Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them

If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
hurt your spouse

What To Do When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse

Have you ever hurt your spouse in some way? All right, so it’s a trick question. Of course you have hurt your...
chores

How Do You Dole Out Your Household Chores?

Household chores represent probably the most pressing “minor issue” in marriage for a lot of couples because it’s a conflict that never...
thinking

Are You Thinking About What You’re Thinking?

If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we...
emotional affair

Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
hero

Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage

It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
spouse

Remember to Cherish What’s Special In Your Spouse.

Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. –Ephesians 5:33 One...
think

Think About It: Who You Focus On Is Who You Love

Do you want to cultivate and enjoy a great marriage? Do you want to be more energized and less discouraged, regardless...
spouse

The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse

This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
cherishing

The Key to Cherishing Your Spouse For a Lifetime

Neuroscience tells us that the shelf-life of an infatuation is about twelve to eighteen months. It’s a nice run while it lasts,...
real love

Real Love is Tough Like Tires (But in a Romantic Way)

Images matter, and how we imagine what love should look like has a huge impact on our satisfaction in marriage and our...
boundaries in marriage

Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David

David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
never surrender

“Never Surrender.” Don’t Give Up, Your Marriage Can Thrive For a Lifetime.

A divorce lawyer recently posted an article arguing that the vow “till death do us part” is passé, unrealistic, and needs to...
grateful

The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. 3 Keys.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Eph 5:25 Pastors often preach it, but are we living by it?
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...