forgiveness

6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.

The power to forgive in marriage ultimately comes from God. And what you may not realize is there are some myths about forgiveness.
rock solid marriage

Building Rock Solid Marriages That Last.

If you’d like a rock solid marriage these principles of the most successful couples can get you moving on the right track.
third

Husbands, You Are Third On Your Wife’s Priorities List

To have a God-honoring marriage, I must realize that I am third in my wife’s allegiance. The best marriages are built on these priorities.
christian marriage

7 Christian Marriage Myths. Does #3 Surprise You?

The hard truth about a Christian marriage is that your marriage will not be perfect just because you’re Christians. Don't buy these myths.
fighting

4 Ways to Keep Fighting When You Want to Give Up

Don’t despair. No matter how ugly the fighting is now, it’s only temporary. Eternity is just around the corner. Hang in there!
christian marriage

Christian Marriage – Pilgrims Traveling Same Path

The Apostle Peter sets Christian marriage on the highest plane possible—husbands and wives possess the same eternal inheritance.
parents' divorce

Your Parents’ Divorce Doesn’t Mean You’re Doomed to Get Divorced Too.

You may be more tempted to consider divorce as an option because you’ve seen your parents' divorce, but don’t do it. Break the pattern of divorce, give your kids what you didn’t have, and above all learn to work everything out together.
living together

Living Together – Is Marriage “Just a Piece of Paper?”

The option of living together, rather than moving into a formal marriage contract, has proliferated in our culture.
infatuation

Infatuation Is Normal, And An Affair is Preventable.

In a sacred marriage, there’s so much more keeping us together than a momentary emotional storm of infatuation. Don’t take it too seriously.
fall in love

How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Celebrating love usually isn’t something that “comes over” you. You don’t just sit around and wait to fall in love again.
fresh start

It’s Never Too Late For a Fresh Start.

Let me share some good news. It doesn’t matter what age you are; a fresh start is possible for everything and everybody. Even your marriage.
as long as we both shall live

The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

Some of the most powerful, life-giving, exciting words you will ever agree to are said during your marriage vows: as long as we both shall live.
marriage commitment

Your Spouse Doesn’t Complete You

Your spouse is supposed to complete you, right? That might be true in romantic comedies, but let's talk about real life.
Jesus

Find Time To Find Jesus In The Middle of Busyness.

The lesson is painfully clear: connecting with Jesus is a better choice than busyness.There will always be more to do! Know what I mean?
challenge

The Challenge That Could Change Your Marriage

The “cherish challenge” will run through the summer, with hundreds of couples saying, “If such a marriage is possible, I want it.”
beauty

Beauty Is a Blessing, And Seeing It Isn’t A Sin.

There is a major difference between appreciating beauty and lusting, but I fear some are so wounded they can’t allow for such a distinction.
marriage will make it

Your Marriage Will Make it Through This Season

Your marriage will make it. There are so many things we have outlasted that I TRULY miss, but in my heart, I know that there is TRULY nothing better than walking forward hand in hand. Come what may.
marriage

The Two Words that Kill a Marriage

Do you know what two words will kill a marriage? Many couples get caught in this two-word trap. Here's how you can break free.

The Affair You Don’t Even Know You’re Having

Now more than ever, technology addiction is a threat to meaningful connection. Is it leading you straight to an affair?
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
spouse less annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...

The #1 Marriage Killer … and How to Get Rid of It

Over the years, we’ve heard many sad stories from people. A lot of these people were on the brink of separation or divorce, or...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
i wasn't ready

I Wasn’t Ready for Marriage

The more I would grow to love my husband, the more vulnerable to hurt I would become, and I wasn't ready for that.
debt free

Steps Toward a Debt Free Marriage

I believe God wants every couple to do the debt free dance of joy, and I believe that while getting there isn't easy, it's also not complicated.
healthy marriage

Four MORE Ways to a Healthy Marriage

In search of a healthy marriage, I share four more ways couples can increase their commitment and strengthen their marriage.
unconditional love

Unconditional Love – The One Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You

Marriage is at its best when we see a glimpse of the unconditional love of God reflected in our spouse’s eyes. Here's how.
strengthen your marriage

7 Suggestions to Strengthen Your Marriage

The key in those difficult times of of trouble isn’t to panic, but to intentionally work to strengthen your marriage.
low maintenance spouse

The Dangers of a Low Maintenance Spouse

Because she is such a low maintenance spouse, I might take her for granted or even take advantage of her. I don’t want this to be our story.
healthy

Healthy Marriage Habits: Daily, Weekly, Monthly, & Yearly

To develop a healthy marriage, it is important that two vital elements come together. First, at some point you must draw a line...
dangerous person

How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: the dangerous person profile

There's a famous line from the movie Jerry Maguire: "you complete me." When Tom Cruise says this he has realized that Renée Zellweger is his once-in-a-lifetime,...
flee

How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: “it’s time to flee”

This is part 2 of a series, this week on knowing when, like Joseph from the Bible, it's time to flee from temptation. You...
affair

How to Protect Your Marriage From An Affair

In 25% of current marriages one or both spouses are having an affair. That's 1-in-4. It's a staggering, heartbreaking statistic, and highlights an important truth: every...
reasons

19 Reasons I Love My Wife.

On this date, 19 years ago, Kristen and I said, “I do”! Apart from following Jesus, I can’t think of a better...
relational revelation

The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
you can choose

You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.

There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
protecting

Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them

If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
hurt your spouse

What To Do When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse

Have you ever hurt your spouse in some way? All right, so it’s a trick question. Of course you have hurt your...
thinking

Are You Thinking About What You’re Thinking?

If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we...
emotional affair

Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
hero

Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage

It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
spouse

Remember to Cherish What’s Special In Your Spouse.

Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. –Ephesians 5:33 One...
think

Think About It: Who You Focus On Is Who You Love

Do you want to cultivate and enjoy a great marriage? Do you want to be more energized and less discouraged, regardless...
spouse

The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse

This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
cherishing

The Key to Cherishing Your Spouse For a Lifetime

Neuroscience tells us that the shelf-life of an infatuation is about twelve to eighteen months. It’s a nice run while it lasts,...
real love

Real Love is Tough Like Tires (But in a Romantic Way)

Images matter, and how we imagine what love should look like has a huge impact on our satisfaction in marriage and our...
boundaries in marriage

Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David

David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
never surrender

“Never Surrender.” Don’t Give Up, Your Marriage Can Thrive For a Lifetime.

A divorce lawyer recently posted an article arguing that the vow “till death do us part” is passé, unrealistic, and needs to...
grateful

The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
adultery

Adultery Is Alarmingly Common, But It Doesn’t Have to Happen to You.

For men and women, adultery begins in the heart. And for men particularly, it begins when the heart is not guarded against...