Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.
But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.
The Truth About Lusting: Why We Need to Reframe the Conversation about Men, Sin,...
Is there a difference between lusting and noticing? Lusting is a deliberate act. Sexual attraction is a hard-wired state of being over which we have no control.
The Two Words that Kill a Marriage
Do you know what two words will kill a marriage? Many couples get caught in this two-word trap. Here's how you can break free.
Actually, You CAN Change Your Spouse. Here’s How.
Do you help your spouse see both the person they are and could be? You can change your spouse — here's the secret.
Husbands, Here’s What God Expects You to Be.
When the Bible tells husbands to love their wives like Christ loves the church, it’s calling us to an initiating, reaching-out love.
“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test
The test is never verbalized but still erodes our marriage's intimacy. What we are really asking is, “Can I trust you with my heart?”
What to Do When You’re Not Feeling It
What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.
The Affair You Don’t Even Know You’re Having
Now more than ever, technology addiction is a threat to meaningful connection. Is it leading you straight to an affair?
Nag or Treasure? How Do You Treat Your Wife?
Pastor Brandon Cox drops an important truth bomb: when a guy continually complains that his wife is a nag, she might not be the main problem.
In-Laws Causing Issues? What Can You Do?
It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But how do you go about it?
The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.
The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy.
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Help, My Imperfect Spouse Is Ruining My Perfect Marriage!
Let’s say it plainly because we all know it’s true: Nobody has a perfect marriage. Your differences and flaws can lead to...
Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives
Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying
Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...
The Secret to “Happily Ever After” In Your Marriage
Is it really possible to find "happily ever after" in your marriage? It won't be easy, but Les and Leslie Parrott share how couples...
The #1 Marriage Killer … and How to Get Rid of It
Over the years, we’ve heard many sad stories from people. A lot of these people were on the brink of separation or divorce, or...
3 Lies That Lead to An Affair
There are three lies that every couple should not believe because they could lead to an affair. A common pitfall, which all...
Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts
If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
The Best Marriage Story is . . . Boring?!?
The best marriage story you’ll ever hear might sound a little boring, but it’s the story you and I both want for our children.
I Wasn’t Ready for Marriage
The more I would grow to love my husband, the more vulnerable to hurt I would become, and I wasn't ready for that.
Steps Toward a Debt Free Marriage
I believe God wants every couple to do the debt free dance of joy, and I believe that while getting there isn't easy, it's also not complicated.
Four MORE Ways to a Healthy Marriage
In search of a healthy marriage, I share four more ways couples can increase their commitment and strengthen their marriage.
Unconditional Love – The One Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You
Marriage is at its best when we see a glimpse of the unconditional love of God reflected in our spouse’s eyes. Here's how.
7 Suggestions to Strengthen Your Marriage
The key in those difficult times of of trouble isn’t to panic, but to intentionally work to strengthen your marriage.
3 Ways to Grow Your Commitment in Marriage
Words alone don’t ensure fidelity but they sure do help strengthen your commitment in marriage to each other.
The Dangers of a Low Maintenance Spouse
Because she is such a low maintenance spouse, I might take her for granted or even take advantage of her. I don’t want this to be our story.
Healthy Marriage Habits: Daily, Weekly, Monthly, & Yearly
To develop a healthy marriage, it is important that two vital elements come together.
First, at some point you must draw a line...
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: the dangerous person profile
There's a famous line from the movie Jerry Maguire: "you complete me."
When Tom Cruise says this he has realized that Renée Zellweger is his once-in-a-lifetime,...
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage: “it’s time to flee”
This is part 2 of a series, this week on knowing when, like Joseph from the Bible, it's time to flee from temptation. You...
How to Protect Your Marriage From An Affair
In 25% of current marriages one or both spouses are having an affair.
That's 1-in-4.
It's a staggering, heartbreaking statistic, and highlights an important truth: every...
19 Reasons I Love My Wife.
On this date, 19 years ago, Kristen and I said, “I do”! Apart from following Jesus, I can’t think of a better...
The Power of Inviting Your Spouse Into Your Hurt
As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to...
You Can Choose a Good Marriage, Starting Today.
There's a moment in the recent film The Way Back I can't stop thinking about. Ben Affleck plays a deeply troubled, alcoholic coach of...
Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them
If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
What To Do When You’ve Hurt Your Spouse
Have you ever hurt your spouse in some way? All right, so it’s a trick question. Of course you have hurt your...
How Do You Dole Out Your Household Chores?
Household chores represent probably the most pressing “minor issue” in marriage for a lot of couples because it’s a conflict that never...
Are You Thinking About What You’re Thinking?
If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we...
Is Your Marriage in Danger of an Emotional Affair?
The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says national surveys indication 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married...
Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage
It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
Remember to Cherish What’s Special In Your Spouse.
Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. –Ephesians 5:33
One...
Think About It: Who You Focus On Is Who You Love
Do you want to cultivate and enjoy a great marriage?
Do you want to be more energized and less discouraged, regardless...
The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse
This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
The Key to Cherishing Your Spouse For a Lifetime
Neuroscience tells us that the shelf-life of an infatuation is about twelve to eighteen months. It’s a nice run while it lasts,...
Real Love is Tough Like Tires (But in a Romantic Way)
Images matter, and how we imagine what love should look like has a huge impact on our satisfaction in marriage and our...
Boundaries in Marriage: How to Be a Joseph, Not a David
David and Joseph. Two prominent people in the Bible. Both were godly men who faced sexual temptation. One yielded and paid a...
3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage
A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
“Never Surrender.” Don’t Give Up, Your Marriage Can Thrive For a Lifetime.
A divorce lawyer recently posted an article arguing that the vow “till death do us part” is passé, unrealistic, and needs to...
The Key To Being Happy In Your Marriage is Being Grateful For What You...
Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and...
Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. 3 Keys.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Eph 5:25 Pastors often preach it, but are we living by it?
Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward
The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...