Your Spouse Doesn’t Deserve Your Love

One of the most challenging and beautiful aspects of the Christian faith is grace: undeserved kindness. Today's post comes from our longtime partners at...
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The Two Words that Kill a Marriage: “I Deserve”

Our Thriving Marriages community has grown a LOT in the past year, which is exciting! It also means that most of you missed out...
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What’s Important to You Is Important to Me

"What’s important to you is important to me.” That’s a great sentiment, but it is meaningless if your actions don’t support the claim. It’s human nature...
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5 TED Talks for Your Marriage

Our friends over at simplemarriage.net recently posted 5 TED talks for your marriage that would be great for you and your spouse to watch...

Kick Out Fear & Make More Room for Love in Your Marriage

Today's post from Friend of the Newsletter™ Danny at Loving on Purpose wrecked me (Josh) in the best of ways. Sometimes we need reminders of...
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How To Save Your Marriage When Your Life Is In Crisis

Have you ever been in a season where you feel like the "light at the end of the tunnel" will never come...
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Your Day Isn’t Complete Until You’ve Served Your Spouse

The way Lisa treats me might make some young women nauseous, because she serves me like we’re living in a 1950s sitcom....
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How to Get Engaged –When You’re Already Married

Recently we sat on the floor in a crowded airline terminal and played a game of Scrabble on our trusty iPad. We had about...
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Husbands, Your Wives Need These 10 Things, They Just Don’t Know How to Ask

I remember watching What Women Want not long after its release in 2001. The movie chronicles a man, Nick Marshall, who receives a fresh...
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Do You Feel Like Your Spouse’s Lowest Priority?

We often hear from people who feel as if they just aren't a priority in their spouse’s life. Often it's the wife who feels...
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It’s Not About Fighting Fair. It’s About Giving Up on “Fairness” Altogether.

SOME SAY, "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR" - BUT IN MY OPINION, THAT ACTUALLY ISN'T TRUE.  If you really sit down...
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How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Fall in love again? No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt...
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What to Do When the Command “Don’t Let the Sun Go Down On Your...

There’s a phrase that we hear often that goes like this: “don’t let the sun go down on your anger.” Or: “don’t...
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Four Amazing Truths to Remember in Tough Times

All marriages hit tough times, and most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we focus on  how to survive them. A list of...
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The 1 Thing Your Wife Needs But Doesn’t Know How to Tell You

What a great, great piece of advice about what your wife needs from our friend at America's Family Coaches.  Every woman has times when she...
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How to be a Cheerleader in Your Marriage

"See to it that you really do love each other intensely with all your hearts." 1 Peter 1:22 In the early 1990s, William and Esther flew...
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Your Spouse is More Important Than Work

It seems like this conversation happened just yesterday, but it actually happened before Cathy and I had kids. I was a youth...
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How to Improve the “Offense and Defense” of Your Marriage

Whether it's in sports or relationships, the way to win is to have both a strong offense and defense. In today's post our friend...
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We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
marriage

How Married Do You Want to Be?

How earnestly do you want to feel close to your spouse? Enough to kill something for it?
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How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...
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Inject Some A.W.E. Into Your Marriage.

There’s never a better time than today to recommit to some basic marriage principles that can strengthen your bonds and inject a fresh...

The Affair You Don’t Even Know You’re Having

Now more than ever, technology addiction is a threat to meaningful connection. Far too often I (Josh) give the best of my time and...
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Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. Here’s 3 Tips For How to Do That.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Ephesians 5:25 We have all read it...

How to Survive When Your Marriage is Under Attack

Today's post comes from Live Your Best Marriage. In a few weeks my husband and I will celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary. It’s been an exciting...
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A Marriage That Can’t Forgive, Won’t Survive

Miranda had been spending money on a secret credit card for months. She hid receipts, she removed price tags, she sometimes even...
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Accept Your Spouse As They Are, Even When Who They Are Changes

People change. Very few of us have the same figure or physique we had on our wedding day as we walked down...
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Your Spouse Doesn’t Complete You

When is the last time you felt disappointed by your marriage? Notice that I asked when, not if. Disappointment is a normal part of any relationship, but...
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To Win at Marriage … You Have to Lose

One of my big realization in my 30s has been that "easy" isn't life's default setting. Easy, hard, boring, exciting, hopeful, discouraging ... these...
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7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

It's worth studying how to avoid an affair. As someone who got dangerously close to an affair myself, several of these points rang true...
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Adultery Is Alarmingly Common, But It Doesn’t Have to Happen to You.

For men and women, adultery begins in the heart. And for men particularly, it begins when the heart is not guarded against...
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Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
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Husbands, We Need to Be Fully Present With Our Wives. Here’s How.

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I feel like most men do. We think about our bills, the check...
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10 Signs Your Marriage May Be Drifting

Most people don’t get married so they can be unhappy. Most people don’t stand in front of a church full of people and pledge...
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Your Marriage Will Make it Through This Season

Your marriage will make it through this--and any--season. This summer, I posted this picture to Instagram with the caption “This guy. Stalking me since 1990.” It...
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How Boredom Is Ruining Your Marriage

People often show up in Dr. Barbara Bartlik’s office ready to bolt from a marriage because they’re bored. “I tell them that changing partners...
How do you get that spark in your marriage if you feel like you've lost it? How do you rekindle the marriage intimacy and excitement if you feel like you've just become roommates. Never fear! These 10 ways could help you get that spark back into your marriage! #marriage #Christianmarriage #ThrivingMarriages #intimacy #marriagesupport #marriagetips #marriageadvice #sexandintimacy #connectwithyourspouse #Christianhusband #Christianwife #bettermarriage

10 Ways to Get Back the Spark in Your Marriage

How do you get that spark in marriage if you feel like you’ve lost it? How do you rekindle...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...

Why You Should Be Nice … Even When Your Spouse Isn’t

Being nice to your spouse is easy! Until they're not nice to you. Today's post explains why we should fight for nice, even when it...
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Is My Marriage Too Broken, Even for Counseling?

Today's post comes from Andre and Timberly at livingourpriorities.com. Do you feel like your marriage is so far gone that even counseling won’t work? Well, we...
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The Destructive Danger of a Negative Spouse

A negative spouse reeks destruction on marriages. Here's how... Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion...
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3 Habits of Couples Who Persevere

Every couple I have ever known has times when they are disillusioned, angry, depressed, tired, or just plain ready to give up. It could...
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Why Emotional Responsibility Will Save Your Marriage

In the early years of our marriage, confrontations between Sheri and me usually involved her turning into a T-rex and me turning into a...
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10 Marriage Lessons After 10 Years of Marriage

Today's tip post about marriage lessons is a charming, honest, funny post from Celeste at Marriage Laboratory. Hope you enjoy! 10 years. Rich and I have...
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3 Steps to Create Positive Change In Your Marriage

Fully own it.  Owning it means taking responsibility for your actions and validating the emotional implications for your partner.  Period.  Sometimes people almost get...
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The Greatest Gift Marriage Offers Us Isn’t What You Think

Today's post from Gary Thomas is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We think marriage is a place to receive...
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Are Toxic Family Members Hurting Your Marriage? Here’s What to Do.

MEYGAN AND I BOTH ADMIT THAT THERE HAVE BEEN MANY TIMES WE'VE MADE EXCUSES FOR THE BEHAVIOR OF OUR TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS BECAUSE…...

11 Boring Habits that Build an Exhilarating Marriage

The truth is that every great accomplishment you've witnessed, whether in sports, the arts, or a great relationship, happened because of years of practice...
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If the Devil Can’t Make You Bad, He’ll Make You Busy

“If the Devil can’t make you bad, he’ll make you busy!” That’s what a friend of mine wrote me on the day...
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The Best Christmas Gift You Can Give Your Spouse

“But the angel said to them, ‘Don’t be afraid, for look, I proclaim to you good news of great joy that will...