tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when...
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How Boredom Is Ruining Your Marriage

People often show up in Dr. Barbara Bartlik’s office ready to bolt from a marriage because they’re bored. “I tell them that changing partners...
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Issues With the In-Laws? Maybe You Need to Create Some Healthy Boundaries. Here’s How.

It’s important to establish healthy boundaries with your in-laws. Otherwise, you can add a lot of stress to your marriage relationship. But...
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How 2 Minutes a Day Can Change Your Marriage

Today's post comes from Gary Thomas, and our friends at Homeword. While working on my book Cherish: The One Word That Changes Everything for Your Marriage, I...
real love

Real Love is Tough Like Tires (But in a Romantic Way)

Images matter, and how we imagine what love should look like has a huge impact on our satisfaction in marriage and our...
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

A friend recently asked me the following questions about how to rekindle romance: “What do you do for fun as a couple? What...
fuel marriage

Running on Empty? Here’s How to Keep Your Marriage’s Fuel Tank Full

Today's marriage tip comes from Patrick Schwenk as a guest blogger for Gary Thomas's site. It leads to a great question: what's one way...
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Attributes of a Healthy Marriage: Friendship

This post is a part of a series from our friends at The Romantic Vineyard. Check out all the great resources they offer here. This...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...
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How Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Marriage Now

The term family of origin is familiar to some but many not everyone.  Everyone should have an understanding of it, being that...

What Do You Want to Believe About Your Spouse?

Today's great post on what we choose to believe about our spouse comes from Marriage Laboratory. Enjoy! There is a person in my life with...

Actually, You CAN Change Your Spouse. Here’s How.

While today's post from Sheila at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum is written to women, it is full of GREAT advice for all of...
goals

Set These Realistic Goals for Your Marriage in 2019

A few years ago, at the suggestion of a friend, Troy and I began the tradition of setting goals for our marriage...
community

4 Ways To Build A Strong Community That Supports Your Marriage

We all need a marriage community – a support system around us of couples our age, and maybe a mentor couple that’s a...

Your Spouse Doesn’t Deserve Your Love

One of the most challenging and beautiful aspects of the Christian faith is grace: undeserved kindness. Today's post comes from our longtime partners at...
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Are You Taking Your Low-Maintenance Spouse For Granted?

Traps You Can Fall Into If Your Spouse Is Low-Maintenance 1. It’s easy to put your needs before their needs. Marriage calls for us to...
forgiveness

6 Ways Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think It is.

Forgiveness can be costly. A major step in the process of forgiveness is releasing your offending spouse, giving up on revenge and...
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7 Ways to Avoid an Affair (#4 is huge!)

It's worth studying how to avoid an affair. As someone who got dangerously close to an affair myself, several of these points rang true...
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How to Get Engaged –When You’re Already Married

Recently we sat on the floor in a crowded airline terminal and played a game of Scrabble on our trusty iPad. We had about...
cheating

1 in 4 Marriages Has a Cheater

In 25% of marriages, one or both spouses are cheating. That's 1-in-4. It’s a staggering, heartbreaking statistic, and it highlights an important truth: Every marriage is vulnerable. Dr....
unconditional love

Unconditional Love – The One Vital Thing Your Spouse Needs to Hear From You

Marriage is at its best when we see a glimpse of the unconditional love of God reflected in our spouse’s eyes. Here's how.
marriage

How Married Do You Want to Be?

How earnestly do you want to feel close to your spouse? Enough to kill something for it?

How to Have an Increasingly Happy Marriage

I have always been annoyed by the whole "marriage is for holiness, not happiness" mantra, and in today's post Gary Thomas explains why: holiness...
marriage commitment

Your Spouse Doesn’t Complete You

When is the last time you felt disappointed by your marriage? Notice that I asked when, not if. Disappointment is a normal part of any relationship, but...
mercy

Mercy & Justice: A Healthy Marriage Balances Both. Here’s How to Do That.

What’s the best way to grow towards intimacy with your husband? Hint: that’s a trick question. There’s actually not a correct answer to that...
living together

Living Together – Is Marriage “Just a Piece of Paper?”

The option of living together, rather than moving into a formal marriage contract, has proliferated in our culture.
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The Vow I Failed to Make on My Wedding Day

Today's post comes from friend and blogger Eryn Lynum. The laughter from the 150 people sitting before us offered me a gracious moment to compose myself. I...
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Want 2019 to be a GREAT Year? Ask These 3 Questions.

Longtime TM partner, Scott Kedersha, recently wrote a fantastic post on how to reflect on your past year. While it's not all...
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What I’d Tell Myself on My Wedding Day

Today's post comes from Pam Blosser and her blog, www.journeytohim.com.   A couple of weeks ago I watched my daughter walk down a flower-edged aisle dressed in...
busy

If the Devil Can’t Make You Bad, He’ll Make You Busy

“If the Devil can’t make you bad, he’ll make you busy!” That’s what a friend of mine wrote me on the day...
stay

Staying Power: 5 Signs Your Marriage Will Make It

People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage will have staying power? In some cases, it may not be...
protecting

Truly Loving Your Spouse Means Protecting Them

If you cherish some thing, you are committed to protecting it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect...
spouse

Remember to Cherish What’s Special In Your Spouse.

Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. –Ephesians 5:33 One...
marathon

Your Marriage Is a Marathon You’re Running Together.

The Christian life is a marathon, not a sprint. What’s the difference? Think about the running events in the Olympics as an...
love is a choice

Love Is a Choice, Especially When You’re Not Feeling It.

  When my wife and I were going through marriage problems, the last thing that I wanted to hear was love is a...
100 percent

The Only “Fair” Marriage Is When Both Spouses Give 100 Percent.

Happily married Eric and Jill climbed out of bed at their normal Saturday morning hour. They had a lot to do around...
have other friends

Why Your Spouse NEEDS You To Have Other Friends

There’s something wonderful you can do for your marriage that will feed and protect it.  I’m not talking about reading a marriage...
security in marriage

Significance and Security in Marriage Come From God

Marriages often fail because one spouse looks to the other to completely satisfy their innate need for significance and security in marriage.
think

Think About It: Who You Focus On Is Who You Love

Do you want to cultivate and enjoy a great marriage? Do you want to be more energized and less discouraged, regardless...
lies

We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
Christian marriage

The 1 Thing Your Christian Marriage Needs More Than Passion

Your Christian marriage needs this more than passion. One thought from Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance struck me as...
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Finding a Spouse You Can Suffer With

Today's post is not only a well-written and very powerful post from www.newsanchortohomemaker.com, but something that resonates deeply with me (Josh) as my wife...
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Do You Feel Like Your Spouse’s Lowest Priority?

We often hear from people who feel as if they just aren't a priority in their spouse’s life. Often it's the wife who feels...
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7 Steps to Get the Most out of Marriage Counseling

This isn't the first time we've said this, but we're a big fan of therapy (done well) here at Thriving Marriages. Today's great post...
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What No One Tells You at the Wedding

Today's post - a free verse poem from Shawn Smucker - is a powerful reflection on marriage. Hope you enjoy it! There is something no one tells...
parents' divorce

Your Parents’ Divorce Doesn’t Mean You’re Doomed to Get Divorced Too.

Q: I want to get married, but my parents had a terrible marriage and got divorced. Does my parents' divorce mean my...
what you are looking for in marriage

You Already Have What You’re Looking For in Your Marriage

Today's post is a powerful reminder from Elisabeth Klein. If you like it, be sure to check out one of her books we've linked...

5 Simple Habits To Build Intimacy in Your Marriage

I'm always a sucker for a new Doug Fields blog post, especially about marriage. True to form, today's is short, simple, practical, and full...
cheerleader in marriage

How to be a Cheerleader in Your Marriage

"See to it that you really do love each other intensely with all your hearts." 1 Peter 1:22 In the early 1990s, William and Esther flew...
energy

What to Do When You Don’t Have Any Energy Left For Your Spouse

After a full day of work and dealing with the kids, do you feel like you don’t have much time or energy...