Do you have a hard time asking for what you want?
You can change the dynamic in your marriage and make talking about your own needs easier! Do you ever experience that? We tend to assume other people are mad at us for the very things that we struggle with, when in reality those issues may not even be on their radar screens.
I’ve realized is that I need to own my feelings. They are mine. I have to stop attributing these feelings to Keith, or my kids. They are not trying to make me feel guilty; I was doing that just fine on my own.
So ask yourself this: what is the one area where you are most sensitive right now? Is it about your sex life? Your work? Your relationship with your mother? Name it. Often we hide from these things because we don’t want to face our feelings, but name it to yourself.
Now, ask yourself this question: have I been assuming that my husband is mad at me for that, too? Have I been supersensitive to other people about this issue? Have I even erupted in anger when they’ve pushed certain buttons?
Talk to them about it, and try, from now on, to not assume the worst in people. Don’t project your guilt onto them. You’ll find your marriage, and your life, goes so much better!
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