better sex

Practice Your Way to Better Sex

For many women, sex just isn’t that great at the beginning of the marriage. This week we’ve been looking at specific ways to have better...
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Are Your Goals the Same in Your Marriage?

We know that not all of the Thriving Marriages community are parents, and because of that we usually steer clear of parenting-focused articles. However,...
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What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?

A few days ago while in a disagreement with one of my boys, we exchanged a few “pleasantries” that I don’t want to repeat...
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Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

As we enter a new season, I find my thoughts slowly shifting from warm, sunny days enjoying the freedom and flexibility of a summer...

How to Make Up After a Fight

So there's a pretty stupid famous moment from the 1970 film Love Story where the lead actress says "love means never having to say your sorry." I...
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The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

This is the third in a series of posts excerpted from my new book, Preparing Your Heart for Marriage, a devotional for engaged couples. The second...
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7 Things Your Husband Won’t Tell You He Needs

Several years ago I graduated with a degree in civil engineering. But this wasn’t my first choice. That title belonged to chemical engineering. I...
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40 Texts to Send to Your Spouse

What I love about today's post from Marriage Laboratory is how simple, fun, and original it is. It definitely gave me some inspiration, and...
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8 Sources of Conflict You Can Remove Immediately

What Are Your Conflict Blocks? Dealing with conflict in appropriate and positive ways is a learned trait. Typically, we’ll begin learning conflict management at about...

Does Your Husband Really NEED Sex?

I'm a little hesitant to share today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy - not because it isn't amazing, because it's really good! -...
spiritual intimacy

7 Ways to Increase Spiritual Intimacy

The least developed area of intimacy in your marriage is not sex! No!? In fact, the least developed area of intimacy for most couples is spiritual...

1 Simple Way to Avoid Saying Something You’ll Regret

Today's great post comes from Doug Fields. He and Jim Burns wrote a great book about your first few years of marriage that's a...

3 Marriage-Saving Things to Do When Your Husband Is Terrible at Mother’s Day

(Editor's note: the photo in this post is intended to be funny. It is not an accurate depiction of the author's husband. LOL! We...
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Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

I’ve been asked several times, “Gary, what do you do when Sacred Marriage doesn’t work?” At first, I was confused by the question....

Make Your Marriage—and Your Spouse’s Day—With These Texts

Today's post comes from a new Friend of the Newsletter™, Brad Hambrick. In addition to being a pastor and counselor, Brad is the author...
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Communication is a Kind of Communion

There’s no doubt about it: Communication is vital in marriage. When couples don’t share their lives and hearts with each other consistently, the atmosphere in...
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The Secret to Setting Good Conversation Habits

It’s easy in conversation with  to think ahead, hurry to answer, interrupt, or cut them off mid-sentence. Sometimes we’re busy, but mostly it’s about...

Do You Know Your Marriage’s Superpower?

I really, really enjoyed this post from Scott Kedersha. It's a creative angle on a topic we haven't covered much here at Thriving Marriages,...
shame

Is Shame Ruining Your Relationship?

Dr. Richard Nicastro, Phd, deftly illuminates the undercurrent of one of the most toxic relationship challenges; shame, often at the root of individual distress...
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How Being Physically Affectionate Breathes Life into Your Marriage

What do you do if touch isn’t your love language–but others in your family crave touch? On Mondays I like to put up a reader...
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The Question You’re Not Asking

Malcolm and Jenny have been married for ten years. They have three children who keep them busy and exhausted most of the time. Their...
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1 Easy Way to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved

“There’s something you do that really annoys me.” We’d just finished dinner on a random Tuesday, and I was all ears. My husband never complains. Like, never. And he was...
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Last Year Was One of the Hardest Years of My Life … but One...

Most of the time here at Thriving Marriages we bring you the best content we've found around the web for building a...
i was wrong say sorry

5 Powerful Reasons to Suck it Up and Say “I Was Wrong”

No one likes admitting they're wrong, but Juli's post today @ Authentic Intimacy makes it a little bit easier. I especially like her point...
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25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

John Gottman calls them love maps. We call them open ended questions to ask your spouse. The point here is that you talk,...

1 Secret Tip for Marrying the Right Person

Today's post comes from our friends at Homeword. When I was in college I wrote an op-ed for my local newspaper about the kind of...

How to Avoid World War III AND Be Honest

Today's post from our partners at Engaged Marriages shares some great, practical communication tips. Enjoy! When you’re married, it’s inevitable that some things your partner...

Your Spouse Doesn’t Want to Talk, They Want to Connect

Doug is one of my (Josh's) favorite authors. Today's post is typical of his practical, straight-to-the-point style. Enjoy! Most men I know break into hives...

Forgiveness is Better than Regret

Today's great post comes from our friends at Live Your Best Marriage. Enjoy! Ever noticed how difficult it is at times to forgive your spouse...
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How to Fall in Love All Over Again

No one gets married thinking their love for their spouse will fade. We go in believing those butterflies we felt when we first fell...
annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Minimize the Annoying Moments in Marriage It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these large...

5 Practical Ways to Change the Temperature of Your Marriage

Today's post comes from the always amazing Doug Fields. Enjoy. Mending wounded relationships is NOT simple and band aids are rarely effective, but there are...
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Smoke Detector Batteries & Warning Signs in Your Marriage

A short thought today to start your week: I am notoriously bad at ignoring things I don't want to deal with. Once in college I...
God's will

1 Surprising Way to Discover God’s Will

One of the Bible's under-appreciated themes is the dozens of different ways he speaks. God's will is found through a burning bush, out of...
emotional intimacy

How to Build Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

For women, emotional intimacy is crucial to a deep, thriving relationship. And the research proves it! For our book, The Five Love Needs of...

10 of the Hardest Adjustments to Make After Marriage

Today's post comes from Rebecca at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum. Enjoy! Adjusting to marriage can be difficult! There’s a lot of great stuff that comes...

Are You Still Curious About Your Spouse?

I really love this post from Scott Kedersha about the power of curiosity, and the humility of never assuming you have your spouse figured...

Don’t Want to Drift Apart? Make Plans to Grow Together

As I was reading this post from Gary Thomas, I was reminded of a catchphrase from one of my all-time favorite show: LOST. The...
forgiveness in marriage

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

When Jason and Alisha met with my wife and I they were in tough shape. Jason had just found out about his wife’s affair...
integrity

Should You Bring It Up, Or Let It Go?

For most of my marriage, I’ve had this question, that I just COULDN’T puzzle out. It is this: when...

Kick Out Fear & Make More Room for Love in Your Marriage

Today's post from Friend of the Newsletter™ Danny at Loving on Purpose wrecked me (Josh) in the best of ways. Sometimes we need reminders of...
difficult conversations

3 Tips for Difficult Conversations

No one sets out to be disconnected in their marriage. However, we can easily end up there when we allow hurts and misunderstandings to...
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The Past Doesn’t Stay in the Past

One of our biggest passion topics here at Thriving Marriages (other than, you know, passion) is the importance of your past. Just like today's...
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5 Steps Toward Having that Hard Conversation

As someone who is both married and writes for a living, I found today's post super relatable. Hope this content from our friends at...
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Fight the Power … of your spouse’s halitosis (bad breath)

So many of our posts are tackling these massive, 35,000 feet topics about marriage. But marriage is also about the small moments and individual...

Your Husband Loves You, He Just Can’t Read Your Mind

Early in my marriage I surprised my wife by setting up a Christmas tree (that shed wanted but I'd said we shouldn't get) while...
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Getting rid of marital disappointment in 2018

Today's post comes from our friend Tammie. You can check out more of her work here.  When I go to the hair salon, I rarely...
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The Secret Fears Behind Asking for Help

What’s the big deal about letting our husbands help with things? Depending on the woman, I think the reasons can vary for why it’s so...

5 Questions to Ask During a Fight

Today's post from Juli at Authentic Intimacy is timely (my wife and I just had a fight last night!) and I basically did the...

10 Mental Habits That Fuel Anxiety

I (Josh) struggle with anxiety. So does my wife. Learning how to recognize our anxiety, communicate about it, and manage it has been one...