This 1 Question Can Reignite Your Marriage

Finally, an experimental science allowed the couple to achieve their dream of becoming a cartoon.

 I love the simplicity of today’s post. What if you made time to sit down with your spouse and ask this simple question: “what would excite us?” Also, if you are in to podcasts, check out the podcast our friends at Sexy Marriage have. It’s great!

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where …” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

We’ve all been there, working on a project or doing something with an electronic gizmo and the thing freezes up. You try everything you can think of. Control, alt., delete. No dice. So what do you do? Reboot. When all else fails, reboot. Even the help desk from the manufacturer often recommends this course of action. So what about relationship rebooting?

This is often thought of as divorce, which is not at all what I am talking about. Instead I am encouraging a system reset. A new perspective on things in the relationship.

Too often we fall back on the question, “What do you want?” This question is often too vague. It leaves too much room for guesswork. We need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.

When people are asked what they want most in life, or for their kid’s life, the most common answer: happiness. It seems that’s what most everyone is striving for, yet it is such an ambiguous answer. Bear with me for a moment. Many people would also put love on the list of things to strive for in life. So what’s the opposite of love? Hate? No. It’s apathy.  In much the same way, the opposite of happiness is not sadness. It’s boredom.

So the question you should be asking isn’t “What do you want?” or “What are your goals?” but “What would excite me?” This will likely stir something deep within you and your spouse. We’ve been given the opportunity on this earth to enjoy many things. To experience life and all it has to offer. And most of the time, the only thing holding us back from this type of life, ourselves.

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Take some time this holiday season and reboot, unplug everything. As you restart, ask yourself this question, “What would excite me?” Then ask your spouse “What would excite us?”

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