Q: My husband seems to enjoy watching football and spending time with his friends more than he enjoys spending time with me. How can I get him to take more interest in us spending time together as a couple?
A: If your husband enjoys watching football and spending time with his friends, be glad that he has those interests. In your marriage, you will have some of your own interests; he will have some of his own interests; and there will be some things you will enjoy together. Give yourselves that freedom because all three of these are important. However, if your husband is always spending time on his own interests and never joining with you, your marriage is missing out.
So what can you do? You may have to take the initiative. Plan an activity. Think back on your dating days. What did you enjoy doing together? Our book 40 Unforgettable Dates with Your Mate will give you some ideas that focus especially on your husband.
Another thing you can do is instead of complaining, join him. Sit down and watch the football game. Go fishing. Go bowling. Learn to golf, or just drive the cart and watch. Step into his world. And there’s nothing wrong with a little bit of flirtation in the process! Get out of the rut and try something new. We guarantee that next time your husband will not have to be coerced into time with you!
*For more ideas on how to bring the zing back to your marriage and plan fun dates to meet your spouse’s needs, check out our book 40 Unforgettable Dates with Your Mate.