types of conflict

3 Types of Conflict in Marriage: Don’t Confuse Them!

I think types of conflicts in marriage can be divided into three different root causes, and each should be handled differently.
words hurt

Words Hurt, So Don’t Say Everything You Think.

When someone exhausts your patience and you want to hit back with a comeback zinger... just don't. Words hurt, and are never worth it. 
romantic

How To Be Romantic Even When You’re Exhausted

Set aside one night this week where you plan for sex. It doesn't feel romantic, but it gives your spouse something to look forward to.
conflict

Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same. It Matters.

We typically use the two words interchangeably, but there's a difference between a conflict and a fight. One is inevitable, one optional.

The First 7 Years of Marriage: 7 Suggestions

Too many couples fail in the first 7 years of marriage. Here are 7 suggestions to help you protect the long-term health of your marriage.
nag

Nag or Treasure? How Do You Treat Your Wife?

Pastor Brandon Cox drops an important truth bomb: when a guy continually complains that his wife is a nag, she might not be the main problem.
helping

When Helping Isn’t Helping You OR Your Spouse

We are often taught to look out for others. Or to serve one another. Especially our spouse! So how can helping be a bad thing?
change

Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

God has not called you to change your wife. Instead, He has commanded you to love her as Christ loves the church.
confrontation in marriage

How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

In confrontation in marriage, this rule of thumb has proved itself to be true over and over again: The one who listens the best first wins. 
money mistakes

4 Money Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

Money mistakes are one of the top reasons that marriages end in divorce, yet unfortunately, most married couples fail to prepare themselves.
football

“My Husband Enjoys Football More Than Me!”

My husband seems to enjoy watching football more than he enjoys spending time with me. How can I get him to take more interest in us?
weekend

Reclaim Your Weekend In Four Simple Steps

Do you spend your Sunday evenings dreading the end of the weekend? Here are four techniques to turn your weekend into rejuvenating breaks.
in-laws

In-Laws An Issue? Here’s What To Do About It.

These family conflicts are tough because your attitude toward your in-laws can undermine the most important relationship—with your spouse.
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

Your hurtful words or actions open the loop by introducing pain. It is important to close the loop as soon as possible to deal with the pain and return the relationship to harmony.
husbands, love your wives

Husbands, Love Your Wives Like Jesus. 3 Keys.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Eph 5:25 Pastors often preach it, but are we living by it?
arguing

How to Ask For What You Need Without Arguing

Understanding why your spouse doesn't pick up on your needs can keep you from unnecessary arguing or, worse, ongoing resentment.
pursue your spouse

What Are You Doing to Pursue Your Spouse?

Over the years I’ve learned it’s the small ways you pursue your spouse in marriage every day that grow a marriage.
tough love

3 Tough Love Truths About Your Marriage

These 3 tough love truths are healthy reminders for every married couple. So often we want to make it our spouse’s fault.
chores

How Do You Dole Out Your Household Chores?

Household chores represent the most pressing “minor issue” in marriage for a lot of couples because it’s a conflict that never goes away.
heart of the matter

The Heart Is The Heart Of The Matter. How’s Yours?

Whenever a marriage self-destructs, the heart is the heart of the matter. But it's also the reason a marriage thrives, and you choose which!
it's complicated

It’s Complicated – But It Doesn’t Have to Be

As Facebook would attest, many of us would simply say of our closest relationships in life, “It’s complicated.”
reconnect with your husband

4 Strong Ways to Reconnect With Your Husband

If you feel as if the previous year–or years!–has made you grow apart, let's look again at how to reconnect with your husband.
communication in marriage

Communication in Marriage – 3 Godly Secrets

James gave us the ultimate plan for better communication (including communication in marriage). It’s made up of three simple phrases.
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy.
financial issues

4 Tips For Fixing Financial Issues In Your Marriage

Financial issues often stem from how we were raised. No matter how you were raised, it's probably safe to say your spouse was most likely raised with very different “money values” than you. How can you bridge that divide?
love languages

Can Love Languages Be Harmful For Your Marriage?

Love languages are great as tools to demonstrate love, but can they sour your relationship?
trust

Trust Can Be Rebuilt Over Time. Here’s How.

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage. How can you learn to trust again?
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

The moment you do or say something that hurts your spouse, you stand at a fork in the road, whether you are aware of it or not.
warning signs

7 Marriage Warning Signs

Every marriage bond can slip if the couple doesn’t recognize the warning signs of stress in the marriage and address them.
love is a choice

What to Do When You’re Not Feeling It

What do you do when you're not feeling it? Most marriages go through this. You might not want to hear it, but love is a choice.
ultimatums

Ultimatums Are Bad, Right? Actually, They’re VITAL For a Thriving Marriage. Here’s Why.

But, you say, there’s no such thing as ultimatums in marriage. Really? Sure there are. Only they’re disguised as boundaries, conditions, even as love. It’s time we each wake up and realize there are conditions with love and relationships.
regrets

How To Build a Marriage That Has No Regrets

I have no regrets about listening! I’ve never thought, “Why did I pay such good attention to that person? Why was I so empathetic?”
scratches and dents

Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are Priceless

I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.
questions to ask your spouse

25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

Use these open ended questions — some silly, some serious — to ask your spouse to talk, laugh, dream, and learn more about each other.
test

“True or False?” Don’t Turn Love Into a Test

The test is never verbalized but still erodes our marriage's intimacy. What we are really asking is, “Can I trust you with my heart?”
watch-tone

Watch Your Tone! Say Things In a Way Your Spouse Will Hear

Couples who don't consider the advice of "watch your tone," who are not careful with their communication tone in marriage, can quickly become “tone deaf.”
tongue

Your Marriage Needs Less Tongue, Not More.

It can feel like a major victory when I control my tongue, giving my unspoken words to my Father instead of pouring them out on others.
second half of marriage

The 2nd Half of Marriage. Prepping for Life Post Kids.

If you don’t choose to move toward each other in the second half of marriage, you fill up the free time with independent pursuits instead.
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s Why.

In married life we can misread and overstep our bounds. Even when this is under the umbrella of trying to help, beware of overreaching.
broken trust

Can Broken Trust Can Be Restored?

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How can you learn to heal? You’re going to need to rebuild your marriage from the bottom up.
husband share his emotions

How to Get Your Husband to Share His Emotions

It's tough for your husband to share his emotions with you. Here's how to help your "tough dude" to open up at home.
conversations

36 Conversations That Will Turn Your Spouse On

Married couples should flirt and have intimate conversations to stoke the fire of our interests. Here are 36 ideas for you.
words of affirmation

102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Longs to Hear

Women often have the feeling that life is coming at them with the speed of a fighter jet and the chaos of a riot. They need these words of affirmation.
overcoming obstacles

3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles In Your Marriage

I had to fight that internal battle to ignore fear and listen to the spirit of love so I could see, “You are not the obstacle in our marriage—you are my partner in overcoming obstacles.” 
husband

3 Biblical Ways to Support Your Husband

Don't confuse supporting your husband with babying your husband. Or with being bullied by him. Biblical support looks much different.
persevering love

Persevering Love: How To Survive the Tough Times

Persevering love doesn’t just hang on through calamity by its fingernails; it hangs in there and thrives. It never gives up.
secret

1 Secret Every Man Must Know About Their Wives

This secret applies to women and men: if you really want to change your marriage, you have to understand the secret where you have power.
rekindle romance

5 Practical Ways to Rekindle Romance In Your Marriage

Have you “lost that loving feeling?” of dating and romance. We need to rekindle romance, the fun and enjoyment of marriage.
sex life

Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!

Sometimes circumstances turn our sex life into something negative, but don't despair. It's possible to reset your sex life!
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

In the same way that I am benefited by reminding myself of God’s eternal perspective – I must remember that my husband also offers me a unique perspective that I shouldn’t so quickly dismiss.