fighting fair

It’s Not About Fighting Fair. It’s About Giving Up on “Fairness” Altogether.

SOME SAY, "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR" - BUT IN MY OPINION, THAT ACTUALLY ISN'T TRUE.  If you really sit down...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
christian marriage

7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!

Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having? A: Many...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
conflict

Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same Thing. Here’s Why That Matters.

I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage,...
reasons for divorce

Reasons For Divorce: The 4 Most Toxic Traits of a Marriage

No one intends to get married with the goal of ending it all. Yet 50% of all couples tying the knot this...
broken trust

Broken Trust Can Be Restored … But It Takes Time

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How...
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

My husband and I are leading a Bible study with mostly newlywed couples. After a few weeks, we noticed how often we...
words of affirmation

Good News! Your Spouse’s Needs Aren’t As Hard to Meet as You Think. This...

My wife is super in to any sort of words of affirmation. It is easily, without a doubt, her number one love...
“Why Am I So Angry?” How to Discover What’s Really Behind This Potentially Destructive Emotion

“Why Am I So Angry?” How to Discover What’s Really Behind This Potentially Destructive...

Did you know that anger is actually a secondary emotion? This means that at the core of everything you’re feeling, your anger...
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...
the stories we tell ourselves

The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Why Most of Our Fights Start in Our Imagination...

In her recent Netflix special author, researcher, and all-around national treasure Brené Brown describes an argument she  had with her husband. They were...
communication in marriage

Actually, Communication in Marriage Isn’t What’s Most Important. What Is Might Surprise You.

What you have probably heard is the number one problem is communication in marriage. I don’t believe that’s the case. It’s a problem,...
toxic family

Are Toxic Family Members Hurting Your Marriage? Here’s What to Do.

MEYGAN AND I BOTH ADMIT THAT THERE HAVE BEEN MANY TIMES WE'VE MADE EXCUSES FOR THE BEHAVIOR OF OUR TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS BECAUSE…...
words of affirmation

102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Longs to Hear

People can't get enough words of affirmation. A while back I was speaking and asked for a show of hands, “How many of...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...
it's not about the nail

It’s Not About the Nail? Actually, Sometimes It IS About the Nail

It's Not About the Nail was a popular marriage video that made the rounds (we've done a post on it!. This post is...
long distance

7 Tips on How to Keep a Long Distance Marriage Thriving

MARRIAGE IS A WILD AND CHALLENGING JOURNEY ALL ON ITS OWN. So it makes sense that, no matter the reason, when you add...
arguing

How to Ask For What You Need Without Arguing

Sometimes you just have to ask your husband for what you need! I’ve been talking all month about how to change the dynamic...
to do list

What to Do When You Are Last on Your Spouse’s To Do List?

Today's post from the always-helpful America's Family Coaches is a great conversation starter between you and your spouse. The desire to feel...
scratches and dents

Your Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are What Make It Priceless. Here’s Why.

Mike and I recently attended a wedding. The bride was stunning, and the groom gleamed with pride. Not a dry eye in...
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s The Reason Why.

The scene is a couple driving in the car on the way to dinner: Silence for several minutes. “What’s wrong?” “Nothing.” A few more minutes of...
bids for connection

Bids for Connection: The Tool This Expert Says Is the Secret to Great...

It’s not big, blow out fights that wreck a marriage. It’s how we treat each other day to day. And that’s why...
messy

Messy v. Neat Freak: How to Navigate the Cleanliness War In Your Marriage

Q: One of us is very neat, but the other is very messy. How can we keep from driving each other crazy? A:...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Needs to Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
lies

We All Believe Lies. Which Ones Do You Struggle With?

A few weeks ago I moderated a late night panel at the Merge premarital class at Watermark Community Church. The panel included two couples who...
changes

Want to Improve Your Marriage? These 3 Small Changes Will Lead to Huge Results.

I am often trying to find ways of making myself a better person. I imagine all of us at some point wish we...
husbands

Husbands, Your Wives Need These 10 Things, They Just Don’t Know How to Ask

I remember watching What Women Want not long after its release in 2001. The movie chronicles a man, Nick Marshall, who receives a fresh...
tone

Tone Deaf: Is What You’re Saying Hidden By How You’re Saying It?

I've said this several times, but Doug Fields is both a ludicrously gifted communicator and a very kind mentor and friend of...
pursue your spouse

What Are You Doing to Pursue Your Spouse?

You need to make it one of your highest priorities to pursue your spouse. One of my biggest concerns as a married...
perspective

Your Spouse’s Perspective Is Annoying. You Should Listen Anyway!

I don’t know about you, but I often overlook the Lord’s eternal perspective. He sees all of time, from beginning to end,...
100 percent

The Only “Fair” Marriage Is When Both Spouses Give 100 Percent.

Happily married Eric and Jill climbed out of bed at their normal Saturday morning hour. They had a lot to do around...
self-righteousness

Self-Righteousness is Satan’s Favorite Attack Against Your Marriage. Here’s What You Can Do About...

What if one of the most dangerous attitudes for believers is self-righteousness? What if it’s possible to be “right” and toxic at the...
present

Husbands, We Need to Be Fully Present With Our Wives. Here’s How.

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, but I feel like most men do. We think about our bills, the check...
sex life

Does Your Sex Life Feel Broken? You Can Always Rebuild It! Here’s How.

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
quiet

Silence Isn’t Always Golden. Your Marriage Needs Your Voice

While today's fantastic post from Pure Couples is written to women, this is something that applies to everyone. A marriage needs the...
obstacles

The 3 Biggest Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage, and the Tools To Overcome Them

The other day I was telling my coworker stories from the early days of my marriage. It was one of those moments...
positivity

Want a Happier Marriage? Practice the Power of Positivity

One of the most often asked questions I get related to relationships is, “What are key ingredients that make up a successful relationship?” The...

Is Your Past Hurt Making You Kind or Cold To Your Spouse?

Today's post from Doug Fields doesn't directly mention marriage, but man is it so applicable. In marriage our personal wounds, past experiences,...
community

4 Ways To Build A Strong Community That Supports Your Marriage

We all need a marriage community – a support system around us of couples our age, and maybe a mentor couple that’s a...
conversations

36 Conversations That Will Turn Your Spouse On

Married couples should flirt and have intimate conversations. You stoke the fire of your interest about anything (i.e., job, hobby, faith, politics,...
In-Laws

How To Have Healthy Boundaries With Your In-Laws

Q: My mother-in-law really has my husband under her thumb. How can I get her to back off without hurting either of...
stay

5 Signs That Your Marriage is Going to Make It

People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage will last? In some cases, it may not be easy to...
busy

If the Devil Can’t Make You Bad, He’ll Make You Busy

“If the Devil can’t make you bad, he’ll make you busy!” That’s what a friend of mine wrote me on the day...
prayer

Prayer Will Supercharge Your Marriage (Including Your Sex Life!)

Hi Thriving Marriages community, this is Josh, the guy bringing you this content each day. In addition to running this site I...
past

Your Past Can Be a Benefit, Not a Barrier, In Your Sex Life

In our house, we like this show called Impossible Engineering. It’s documentary style and the basic premise is they look at a phenomenal...
Valentine's Day

6 Great Books to Give (or Read) for Valentine’s Day

You know you love it. Or maybe not. Regardless, Valentine's Day is coming like a freight train and you might be lacking...
marriage of your dreams

This Weekly Routine Will Build the Marriage of Your Dreams

Companionship inventory, marriage meeting, weekly marriage check in or check up- whatever you call it, if you want the marriage of your...
These 20 ways to say i love you to your spouse are great for Valentine's Day romance. But they're also good for any day you want to show love to your spouse and strengthen your marriage. #spiceupmarriage #marriageintimacy #christianmarriage #marriageadvice #marriagegoals #Valentine #Valentinesday #love #iloveyou #lovelanguages

20 Easy Ways to Say I Love You to Your Spouse

These are great ways at Valentine's Day or any time of the year to say I love you to your spouse.
When we mentor couples they are often focused on who’s wrong or who’s right. When we ask them about their goal for marriage, they usually agree that they want a better relationship. The question changes from who’s wrong or who’s right to, “What will build our bond?"

“In It To Win It” Is a Bad Goal For Marriage

My wife, Michelle, and I went on a beach vacation in early January. It was great to get away and to relax....