little annoyances

Don’t Let Little Annoyances Become Huge Problems

Identifying little annoyances allows you to train yourself to let them go, and refuse to give them power over your attitude.
high sex drive

10 Questions High Sex Drive Spouses Should Ask

Are you the high sex drive husband, and you’re wondering what to do because your wife rarely wants sex? Here are 10 questions you should ask.
build trust

How to Build Trust in a Marriage

After being married nearly 20 years, Kristen and I work like crazy to be on the same team and to build trust with one another.
fall in love

How to Fall in Love All Over Again

Celebrating love usually isn’t something that “comes over” you. You don’t just sit around and wait to fall in love again.
change

Husbands: God Doesn’t Want You to Change Your Wife

God has not called you to change your wife. Instead, He has commanded you to love her as Christ loves the church.
confrontation in marriage

How to Win Every Confrontation in Your Marriage

In confrontation in marriage, this rule of thumb has proved itself to be true over and over again: The one who listens the best first wins. 
as long as we both shall live

The Meaning of Your Marriage Vows: “As Long As We Both Shall Live”

Some of the most powerful, life-giving, exciting words you will ever agree to are said during your marriage vows: as long as we both shall live.
stay

Staying Power: 5 Signs Your Marriage Will Make It

People often ask us, how can I tell if my marriage has staying power? Sometimes it can be hard to tell, but here are 5 keys.
mental load

Husbands, Help Carry Your Wife’s Mental Load.

Women’s mental load is not a problem with men as much as it is a problem with the way our whole culture sees the responsibilities of women.
romantic

10 Tips for Becoming a More Romantic Husband

So what is being romantic? Love is a feeling; romance is love in action. Romance is something you do to express the love that you feel.
roots

4 Ways to Dig Marriage Roots That Last a Lifetime

I can’t fix everything in my marriage but there are a few things I can control. Here are 4 ways I can “strengthen the roots” of our marriage.
seasons

Finding Hope in Every Season of Marriage

Perhaps you are in a season of marriage where you are not walking in unison as a couple. Despite how difficult and painful this season might be, trust that God is working and has not abandoned you!
christmas

How to Actually Enjoy Your Spouse This Christmas

I believe that Christmas can be a season of joy and fun and love for you and your husband. It can be a time when you make memories together and strengthen your marriage, rather than letting it run on auto-pilot and increasing the tension between the two of you.
giving too much

Are You Giving Too Much This Holiday Season?

Not only is giving too much mentality unhealthy for the giver, it is also unhealthy for the taker. It fuels a relational dysfunction pattern.
scratches and dents

Marriage’s Scratches and Dents Are Priceless

I’m not sure about you, but my marriage feels like it would now qualify for a scratches and dents sale. After 25 years and three children, my husband and I have weathered some storms. I sometimes wonder if our marriage has lost its newlywed beauty.
broken trust

Can Broken Trust Can Be Restored?

Your spouse has blown it. You don’t trust him/her anymore. But you want to save your marriage, despite your broken trust. How can you learn to heal? You’re going to need to rebuild your marriage from the bottom up.
types of conflict

3 Types of Conflict in Marriage: Don’t Confuse Them!

I think types of conflicts in marriage can be divided into three different root causes, and each should be handled differently.
questions to ask your spouse

25 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse

Use these open ended questions — some silly, some serious — to ask your spouse to talk, laugh, dream, and learn more about each other.
fights

When Little Fights Become Big Problems

The moment you do or say something that hurts your spouse, you stand at a fork in the road, whether you are aware of it or not.
words hurt

Words Hurt, So Don’t Say Everything You Think.

When someone exhausts your patience and you want to hit back with a comeback zinger... just don't. Words hurt, and are never worth it. 
love languages

Can Love Languages Be Harmful For Your Marriage?

Love languages are great as tools to demonstrate love, but can they sour your relationship?
second half of marriage

The 2nd Half of Marriage. Prepping for Life Post Kids.

If you don’t choose to move toward each other in the second half of marriage, you fill up the free time with independent pursuits instead.
seven-year-itch

The “Seven-Year-Itch” Is Real … But You Can Avoid It.

The seven-year-itch is not inevitable doomsday. And even if you hit these predictable road bumps, they don’t have to derail intimacy. My husband...
help

Sometimes Your Spouse Doesn’t Want Your Help. Here’s Why.

In married life we can misread and overstep our bounds. Even when this is under the umbrella of trying to help, beware...
husbands

Husbands, 10 Unspoken Needs of Your Wives

Husbands, if you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t figure her out” maybe this can be a launching pad to deeper conversations with...
spouse less annoying

How to Make Your Spouse Less Annoying

Wanna make your spouse less annoying? It’s obvious there are some marriage issues that are so big they cannot be ignored. Left unresolved, these...
conversation starters

70 Great Conversation Starters for Couples

Have you ever had a date night where you just stare at your spouse and think "I have no idea what to talk about?"...
better sex

Practice Your Way to Better Sex

For many women, sex just isn’t that great at the beginning of the marriage. This week we’ve been looking at specific ways to have better...
arguments

What If Your Private Arguments Went Public?

A few days ago while in a disagreement with one of my boys, we exchanged a few “pleasantries” that I don’t want to repeat...
spouse

Are You Always Irritated at Your Spouse?

Are you always irritated with your spouse? Think back to the day you were married.  How did you feel about your partner? ...
sex life

Sex Life Feel Broken? How to Rebuild It!

Today a reader is asking, “how do you reset your sex life?” What if it’s been really difficult in the past, but now...
secret

1 Secret Every Man Must Know About Their Wives

Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives...
how to write a love letter

Not Sure How to Write a Love Letter? Here Are 100 Love Letter Prompts

If you want to know how to write a love letter, check out this best list of love letter prompts on the...

How to Stop a Financial Fight Before it Starts

This is an excerpt from Cherie and Brian Lowe’s  book, Your Money, Your Marriage, about how to avoid a financial fight.  Everyday after school, I...
clear communication

3 Easy Keys To Clear Communication.

Just because someone’s mouth is moving doesn’t mean clear communication is taking place. Clear communication is sharing yourself verbally and nonverbally in...
chores

How Do You Dole Out Your Household Chores?

Household chores represent probably the most pressing “minor issue” in marriage for a lot of couples because it’s a conflict that never...
persevering love

Persevering Love: How To Survive the Tough Times

If you want to safeguard your marriage against the storms and struggles of life, if you want a deeper bond and a...
hero

Hero Worship: The 1 Thing That Will Kill a Marriage

It’s a cliché now for people to proclaim, “When I was a young boy, my dad was my hero. When I became...
tongue

Your Marriage Needs Less Tongue, Not More.

I’ve heard a lot of people comment that life right now feels like the movie “Groundhog Day”—the same thing over and over...
spouse

The Only Person You Need ISN’T Your Spouse

This week I’m excited to announce that a book I’ve been talking about for months is finally available: Together Through the Storms by Sarah...
pandemic

Dare to Find the Positive During This Pandemic

As the weeks of pandemic cascade into months of avoidance of our human kind to save lives, new norms are settling in. ...
negative emotion

Negative Emotion is Vital For a Healthy Relationship

In preparation for my shiny new blog plan (month long themes complete with corresponding love experiments, social media posts and podcast episodes),...
words of affirmation

Why Men Need Words of Affirmation in the Bedroom

Today's post is about the needs of men, but husbands, your wives need words of affirmation too! Here's 102 ways you can...
golden rules

3 Golden Rules For Rekindling Romance

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not...
words of encouragement

Words of Encouragement Can Revolutionize Your Marriage. Here’s How.

It’s been exactly a year since Lisa went into surgery to have her tumor removed. That morning, she told me she wanted...
christian marriage

7 Common Christian Marriage Myths. #3 Might Surprise You!

Q: We have a Christian marriage—so why is it so painful? Shouldn’t being believers shield us from the problems we’re having? A: Many...
bored with your marriage

What To Do If You’re Bored With Your Marriage

Want to know what to do if you're bored with your marriage? Here's helpful information if you're feeling bored with your marriage.  Q:...
conflict

Conflict and Fighting Aren’t the Same Thing. Here’s Why That Matters.

I’ve shared with you in past blog posts that my husband, Mike, and I are very, very different. Early in our marriage,...
words of affirmation

Good News! Your Spouse’s Needs Aren’t As Hard to Meet as You Think. This...

My wife is super in to any sort of words of affirmation. It is easily, without a doubt, her number one love...
close the loop

Close the Loop: The One Vital Habit That Will Keep Your Marriage Moving Forward

The moment you do or say something that hurts your marriage partner, you stand at a fork in the road. Whether you...