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Are You Taking Your Low-Maintenance Spouse For Granted?

Traps You Can Fall Into If Your Spouse Is Low-Maintenance

1. It’s easy to put your needs before their needs. Marriage calls for us to be one flesh (Genesis 2:24-25), and demands that we put our spouse’s needs before our own (Philippians 2:3-4). But, when our spouse is low maintenance, it’s easy to put our needs before their’s and to take advantage of them because they’re so laid back.

  • Solution: Apply Philippians 2:3-4 and Mark 10:44-45. Follow the example of Christ in His selfless service. What are two ways you can serve your low maintenance spouse today?

2. You can make things like Valentine’s day and date nights a low priority. I tend to buck up against Valentine’s Day, and Kristen and I often say we don’t need February 14th to remind us to love each other. In the process, I can swing the pendulum too far the other way and become lazy and complacent.

  • Solution: Ask your low maintenance spouse what they would like for Valentine’s Day or their birthday. Don’t simply accept their answer without using discernment. Live with your spouse in an understanding way (1 Peter 3:7).

3. I can think my marriage is great because of me. Sometimes I think Kristen is a lucky gal. Out of all the bad guys out there, she did well in landing me. And sometimes, because Kristen is such an easy, low maintenance spouse, I think our marriage is amazing. Yes, there are some amazing moments, but the reason our marriage is great is because of the grace of God (and because my wife is awesome).

  • Solution: Remember that God opposes the proud and gives grace to the humble (James 4:6). Pursue a life of humility. Be like John the Baptist who said (about Jesus), “He must increase, and I must decrease.”
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4. I forget how to cherish her. Because they rarely complain, you might forget how to cherish, value, and nourish your low maintenance spouse. I get lazy and don’t go out of my way to appreciate Kristen. I want her to be the most cherished wife around, but if I don’t intentionally pursue her, then we will co-exist in a decent marriage, but not a great one.

Your Turn: Discuss this post with your spouse. Is either of you a low maintenance spouse? Do you ever take your spouse for granted or take advantage of them? Which of the four things above do you need to most watch out for in your marriage?