I don’t think it comes as a surprise to anyone that we are living in the most frantic and “connected” society the world has ever seen. The pace of life moves faster than most of us can adapt. We keep a continual pace of consumption when it comes to information and media in our lives. But for all the connection, we should still ask: what makes a good marriage?One large, negative aspect of this way of life is losing the ability to have the space to recognize the Lord’s work in someone else’s life. The Bible calls us to not only recognize it, but to act on it by affirming with words what we see.
What makes a good marriage
In 1 Thessalonians 5:11, Paul tells us,
“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.”
In marriage, we are to be our spouse’s chief encourager. What is marriage if not a place to be encouraged? Everyone needs spoken encouragement, no matter how confident they seem. I can’t think of a better way to encourage each another than recognizing the Lord’s work in my spouse’s life. It is a gift and a blessing to my marriage that isn’t difficult to produce.
The frantic world will never truly encourage or uplift us. It is a place of judgment and fear. Our marriages can reflect the character and freedom of Christ and not the world when we encourage through our words.
Our tongues contain the gift of life. We want to use our tongues to bring life and praise to our marriage. We want to use our tongue to build up and recognize the good work of the Lord in our spouse’s life. We want our tongue to be a source of freedom from this frantic world. We want our tongues to uplift and edify.