The Secret to Setting Good Conversation Habits

It’s easy in conversation with [a spouse] to think ahead, hurry to answer, interrupt, or cut them off mid-sentence. Sometimes we’re busy, but mostly it’s about conversation habits. (And, let’s face it, there are some conversations that are tough and we may fear what is to be said or we don’t want to face it at all.)

I’m inviting y’all to a certain level of intentional listening. It takes a practice (and sometimes maturity and courage) to stay engaged in conversation.

True conversation involves listening well, considering what was said (maybe asking questions), breathing, and carefully thought out words in response.

Yes, much of our day can be full of words spoken in the moment, ordinary words for ordinary events. Just be aware there are times when it’s important to slow down and listen well before deciding what to say and framing thoughtful words.

(Do be patient with yourself. Being a good listener/speaker is a learned skill. It takes practice and a fair amount of trial and error.)

To listen closely and reply well is the highest perfection we are able to attain in the art of conversation. —Francois de La Rochefoucauld

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