Smoke Detector Batteries & Warning Signs in Your Marriage

A short thought today to start your week:

I am notoriously bad at ignoring things I don’t want to deal with. Once in college I ignored the low-battery beeping of a smoke detector for months. Eventually my brain just tuned it out and I didn’t hear it anymore.

There are low-battery alerts all the time in our marriage.

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  • – you feel isolated in your marriage
  • – that one fight never was resolved
  • – there’s lingering resentment over pain from the past
  • – there’s a concern you have but have never brought up
  • – there’s a secret you’re keeping from your spouse
  • – there’s something you need in your marriage but are afraid to mention
  • – you need to ask for forgiveness but are too proud 

These feelings are warning signs in your marriage that, if ignored long enough, will fade into familiarity. You’ll get used to them being a part of your marital rhythm … but they are still there beeping unheard in the background. All these feelings are relational smoke detectors designed to protect you from fires that can burn down your life. Ignoring their warnings leave you vulnerable.

So take a bold step today: share this message with your spouse and schedule a time to have a discussion. Pray leading up to that meeting whether there are any “low-battery beeping” noises in your marriage you’ve been ignoring. Pray before you talk. Pray after. Don’t come with accusations or anger and make sure you listen to your spouse rather than get defensive.

This is the equivalent of “changing the batteries” in your marriage – it can feeling like an annoying chore but it’ll protect you from fires later on.